>friend’s father sat me down and gave me a pep talk about setting boundaries with men and how to look after myself as a young woman>feel protected and safe in a way I’ve never felt beforeI love my own dad, but he’s never been masculine. I feel bad saying that, but the experience has made me realise a lot of my life decisions have been informed by the absence of a strong masculine role model. Do you think this could have contributed to me being trans?
Can someone reply to me I want to talk about this :(
>>41539720no i seriously doubt it contributed to your transness because it's genetic and based on how you develop in utero.that being said a strong father figure is important for everyone to have so sounds nice nona.my dad was probably less involved in mine and my brother's lives then he should've been, but only i'm trans, my brother just strongly dislikes him
>>41540328Yes you’re probably right. It did feel really nice - my own dad is a wonderful man, but he’s always been very ‘hands off’ and not hugely protective. I don’t want to use the phrase, but you wouldn’t describe him as an ‘alpha’. My friend’s Dad is one of those very protective fathers, and when he was talking to me I felt strangely safe in a way I wish my own Dad made me feel. He was telling me how to say ‘no’ and that I don’t have to be polite to men who are being aggressively sexual, and it felt so good to be told that it’s okay to stand up for myself. I didn’t realise how much I was in need of someone telling me that. It was nice.
>>41540435My family taught me it was never ok standing up for myself and that if I did they'd beat me up spit on me put a knife to my throat.Wanna guess how I handle creeps nowadays lmaooo
