>Be me ftm>Have a boy(?)friend>Love him(?) very much>He's outgoing, energetic, athletic in public>He's soft, cuddly, and very cute in private>Takes the submissive role in our relationship and the bedroom>Into stereotypical mtf things>Pokemon, furries, puppygirl art>A couple months ago he hid a picture of himself wearing feminine clothing from me (short shorts, thigh highs, etc)>He said he thought I wouldn't like to see him in those types of clothes>I vehemently denied>Halloween night>We're sitting on a hill watching the stars>I press him about why he thought I'd be unsupportive>He referenced a time where he said he wished he had a higher singing voice, and I called it a "slippery slope" to transgenderism>Told him he was perfect the way he was>Said I made a decision to love him no matter what>He said this time he was going to keep his secrets>"Nobody will know about this.">I dropped it>Held him in my lap and comforted him>99% sure he's having tranny thoughts>Frankly terrified but play it cool for the nightIMO he doesn't seem dysphoric at all, just happier doing feminine things. Social media could be a contributing factor. But regardless of whether he's 'really trans" or not I want to support him no matter what. MTF Friends, what would you want to hear in this situation? Should I leave it alone? How do I provide support?
>>41540086Leave it alone. Being a tranny is hard enough as it is, if he doesn’t need to go over the edge don’t push him and ignore the death cult advice here to get everyone on hrt if their eyelashes are so much as longer than average
>>41540086tell him its okay to be a feminine man and that male privilege will allow him to be whatever he want without need of transitioning
>>41540366this is true facts
>>41540366>>41540385Incelhon hands typed this.>>41540086Bro, you're as supportive as anyone can be in this situation. If your bf transitions, then be prepared to love him the same way he was before his transition, and since the processes are basically the same, fighting against his needle phobia is a great st4t bonding activity. (I still use the same process for my own hrt my ftm bf taught me 10 yrs ago).If he's not mtf, then be the man and tell him how can he defend himself against daily transphobia. Men can't just dress femme the same way woman can dress butch.
>>41540086Just be supportive but don't try to do any egg-cracking. You can't push people into transition, they have to find the strength to pursue it in themselves. If you push you'll likely just trigger a fight or flight response.
>>41540436Yeah this desu. I would appreciate having a BF like this becausae I was once kind of like this.> Men can't just dress femme the same way woman can dress butch.I wonder if that's really true? People judge butch women with no signs of femininity at all, they just discard it. People judge how women dress no matter what. Men can dress masculine and have no one judge them, but pre-transition I dressed feminine and though people might have silently judged me, I was fine. But I don't live in a heavily conservative area, so maybe in a worse area people would yell "Faggot!" at you and harass you, and that really is worse.
If I heard the phrasing of "loving you how you are you" before I came out it would've left me with uncertainty, overthinking what it actually means. But I would've been an egg then.If you speak about it again you could treat it as something to do together. Helping pick out some clothes you think would look nice on them or offering to do their makeup if they're interested.
>>41540473I am agreeing with what they said but I also agree with you as well, either way it's up to OPs boyfriend to decide at the end of the day if they want to explore that if thats what they want or not.
>>41540531>If I heard the phrasing of "loving you how you are you" before I came out it would've left me with uncertainty, overthinking what it actually means. But I would've been an egg then.Yeah, I could tell he was overthinking it. I tried to explain but I don't know if my point was made or I just made it worse>>41540473>Just be supportive but don't try to do any egg-cracking.>>41540436>If he's not mtf, then be the man and tell him how can he defend himself against daily transphobiaI will, but also>>41540531>Helping pick out some clothes you think would look nice on them or offering to do their makeup if they're interested.I will try to implement this. FurthermoreI got kind of drunk and texted him:"Not to drag it but""I think you look cute""In fem clothes"... did I sell?
>>41540687I think you sold
