Is it over for me? I've known something was wrong but I always rejected that it was this. My psychiatrist seemed pretty sure, and I just filled out the screening he sent. I was way above threshold. Will a man ever love me? Do I just have to keep this a secret like my transsexuality if I want a husband?
>>41547899I'll love you :)
>>41547941fake. don't lie to me, it's rude
>>41547964You could have your own crate, I'd take you out on walks and to the park to play fetch, you would have your very own collar that matches your eyes <3I would love you so so much
>>41547984i'm a normal heterosexual
>>41548002Then I will love you as a husband loves a wife
>>41548011you don't mean any of this, it's bad to lead on vulnerable girls you know?
>>41548032I'm not leading you on.We can meet and be together if we're feasibly close to eachother
>>41548042are you gross and weird? where are you?I don't really know if i'm interested.
>>41547899You cannot lie and expect to connect with someone enough to have a husband. You can work at your thoughts and problems and errors.
>>41548083i don't really think maladaption like this is really something you can work through, no? Just managing behavior, but it's a lifelong pathology.I already have to lie about being trans, what's one more?
>>41548107>I already have to lie about being trans,You cannot expect to marry and stay married if you lie about that.>i don't really think maladaption like this is really something you can work through, no? You can be better than you are. That's all you can expect.
>>41548116>You can be better than you are. That's all you can expect.Yes, mostly wondering if this tarnishes me further in the eyes of men on principle. Like do you think a guy might break up with me if I told him after a few dates?>You cannot expect to marry and stay married if you lie about that.do actual straight men marry trannies?
>>41548137>Yes, mostly wondering if this tarnishes me further in the eyes of men on principle. >Like do you think a guy might break up with me if I told him after a few dates?Some people would. Discrimination against mental illness is a real thing. Also fear is a real thing. Others would already know, or have some idea. The key here is that the diagnosis isn't destiny or an excuse. You are responsible for all your actions regardless. You will need someone compatible with your emotional range, and that INCLUDES the swings. Some partners are better at handling that, some people are ATTRACTED to that, which isn't necessarily a good thing either. Some people's idea of managing it is getting the fuck out of your way until things swing back. It's generally a hamper, but there are still people who are suitable, just as there are people right for women with hyper raging PMS.>>You cannot expect to marry and stay married if you lie about that.>do actual straight men marry trannies?Go pull up the stats on percentages of straight, bi, and gay men cis men who will consider any MTF or FTM. You should not judge based on that. You should judge on who honestly accepts you rather than labels.
>>41548062I'm a little weird and im in new jersey
>>41548218This is helpful. I don't have problems with taking responsibility for my actions, and I'm not particularly angry either. Usually i'm being told I'm *too much*I've been in a few relationships so i know how i behave already, but stigma around an actual diagnosis seems like a different thing for guys. They like when you're "crazy" but if they find your meds they dump you>You should judge on who honestly accepts you rather than labels.Usually these are conservative dudebros and when i say i'm a tranny they hate me
>>41548253>Usually these are conservative dudebros and when i say i'm a tranny they hate meSounds like they're honestly rejecting you. Way better to know early, early in the cycle. Would be even better to know before the first date, no?> They like when you're "crazy" but if they find your meds they dump youIt's also short term/long term. Crazy and hot is one thing, not suitable for a long term relationship for some people. Or crazy but can put up with it, and then they can't and move on. Not important in the long run. Lots of people simply won't work well with you for a lifetime and that's normal.
>>41548298>Sounds like they're honestly rejecting youyes that's what i'm asking about>Would be even better to know before the first date, no?no, if i did that i don't think any of them would be ok with it. Having a girl coming onto you serves as rose-tinted glasses for bad news.>Crazy and hot is one thing, not suitable for a long term relationship for some people.story of my life. alone forever?
>>41548308>alone forever?No guarantees. No quick fixes here either. You do have an advantage, and that you know that the pool of actually compatible people in the long term for you is relatively small, so unlike some dumb thots, you can't just fixate on the one hot chad you bagged and say nobody else measures up for the next 30 years. And you also have a third party who's tested to make sure that it isn't some fleeting crazy thought, but there is actually serious shit for you to work on to improve.
>you can't just fixate on the one hot chad you bagged and say nobody else measures up for the next 30 years.I'm kind of planning to do this, If i have a sexy husband that wants to provide and like, takes me to church etc. I'm happy. I don't really ever feel contentedness or discontentedness about my circumstance, it's just happening
having bpd is okay, you’ll be fine, be strong <3
