Hi all, title of the thread is pretty self explanatory, but how can i stop myself from just disliking cis people more and more over time? ideally becoming like picrelI've been on hrt for about 7 years, full FFS, pretty short, and good ratios if thats somehow relevant. it's just especially hard to dwell off an innate avoidance of cis people, especially as im only into men (tboys are a one in a million here). I get that its bad to generalize an entire group of people but my brain cant help but do it due to lived experience and it ends up with me just sticking to my queer only friend group. any nonas have any tips?
>>41560343Can’t really offer advice same problem as you FFS etc done with transition basically. But despise cis people, just hearing them talk about us when I’m not out just fills me with rage. I don’t really have queer friends to fall back on so I just hate the world.
>>41560343Why do you hate them
>>41560355i hope things will get better for u nona>>41560384ive friends, people i consider dear, and myself (much more in the past than now) who've been harassed unprovoked by cis people, be it while out at restaurants, at the gym, out on walks, cis people think its common liberty to gawk at someone who may not fit a gendered convention, or who may be having an off day, or who maybe just doesnt want to get dolled up to go to the shops, even when its not in a sex restricted space (such as a womens only restroom)
>>41560417Not all people are like that, while i do understand it must be horrendous to be harrassed constantly, problem is the culture of being a dickhead to others, cis people constantly harrass each other too, over clothes, money, cars, looks and everything I'm pretty sure there are trans people that are dickheads that bully othersThere are alot of cis people that are understanding and respectfulBeing bitter does not help and at and will just erode u from inside
>>41560473>Being bitter does not help and at and will just erode u from insidethank you for the reply :)do you have any tips for more positive thinking when just out and about around cis people? its so easy to assume they're always patronizing me and i wanna work on my cynicism
>>41560343You are jealous we are content with our bodies. Even if you end up passing, you will still feel less than. I'm sure it's a torture.
this sounds like general self hatred jealously trannies get for either the fear in lack of acceptance by cis people or u wish yo ass was cis there's no way to simply "get over" hating something, just be chill and deal with it, try to find some cis people who accept you. me personally my entire friend circle is cishets cuz they all chill asf. Expand you friend inventory
>>41560343i have the fairly common autistic existence of my principle hobby being entirely dominated by very straight very cis very male peopleleads itself to not hating cis people bc ppl care less than you think, especially the more sensible level-heads
>>41562390>do you have any tips for more positive thinking when just out and about around cis people?U first need to love and respect yourself, that's the most important part, be a bit selfish because everyone else is,And learn how to filter people, most people are animalistic retards, you shouldn't care what they think or say, if a dog barks at you, would you go wrestle it to make it stop? No, you'd just say "oh its a dog, that's what they do", its simple, assholes are in every group, community, class and religion, put them in garbage where they belong and don't care or think about themAnd try to find and connect to people who are right and good for you, and are chill, granted not everyone has that luxury or ample supply of friendships and relationships but you'd better off rather than dealing with some shithead that thinks less of you for some madeup bullshitAnd finally, be happy, unapologetically do what makes you feel happy, be strong, keep improving yourself, that's the greatest revenge
>>41560343>I've been on hrt for about 7 years, full FFS, pretty short, and good ratios if thats somehow relevant.and you are butthurt still about not passing. cis people are not your enemies you dumbass asshole
OP if you really lived all that, maybe there's actually no reason to change your mind Aren't you just making that shit up ?Been around cis people all of my life, and we barely ever joked about queer people at all, where do you live ?
>>41562893op here, not going to reply to the other anons in the thread, it's either bait or dumb questions, but thanks again for this :) helps me out alot
>>41560417Read this post except pretend its a 70 year old TERF complaining about a minority of migrants
>>41563061Your welcome anonGlad i could help
