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>>41677997
sir this is tranny board

>>41677997
>Why are women like this ?
Some people have dysfunctional behaviors where they run away from people and then they hate themselves for it and don't know how to go back. They need to go to therapy and figure out why they're doing it so that they can have longterm friendships and not hurt people. I'm sorry you had that happen.

>>41679408

Men don't do that, though

>>41679367

I'm bisexual, that should count

I'm like that too unfortunately and not proud of that. Self diagnosing is cringe but the description of the schizoid behavior fits me perfectly. Occasionally I get this urge to try and "connect" with someone although rarely, but even when that happens it lasts shortly until I need to take a break. I don't like to overshare my personal info and even chatting through text can exhaust me so there's this urge to create a distance.
It's their loss. Who knows what's going on in their head. But I hope you manage to find someone who is more deserving of your time.

Probably because this was just on the internet? Yeah ig that sucks but what did you think was going to happen? Ideally you just eventually grow out of that phase, of talking to people online.
>>41680019
>I'm bisexual, that should count
lol not a chance

>>41680174

What's the difference between Internet people and real people ?

>>41680174

Literally the B is written before the T, just saying

>>41680112

Yeah i mean i have a very good boyfriend now, but still i'm kinda bothered that all of the good friends i make are always fucking retarded as shit

>>41680206
You can't ghost people irl, when you regularly see each other at the bar, the store, shows etc. It forces you to confront and resolve these things rather than being able to ignore them indefinitely. Duh.
I've gotten into heated arguments with people irl and we talk it out a week later when we run into each other and it's chill. Meanwhile when I offended an online friend he'd just avoid me for like two months before finally talking about it. The connection online is weak, it doesn't run through real, concrete points of contact like that.

>>41680217
How many friends do you actually have?
Maybe it's a quantity over quality issue, and they're not as good as you think

>>41680401

Nowadays i have like 2

And they're bad friends, one is a sticky ex, and the other is a friend i talk to once a month

I don't have a lot of friends in my life

>>41680295

But isn't it more hurtful in the long run for people that don't actually like you all that much to stay in touch with you just because you're physically close ?

I think what you're saying doesn't really apply to everyone, i never really ghosted anyone online, and when i got into arguments with them, i always tried to resolve those by talking it out

Internet people and real people are the same, the only difference is that they behave differently because of means and culture difference they have behind a screen

>>41680425
Sorry for the assumption
With the way you said it, I thought that you'd be one of those gay guys with so much friends that you don't spend enough time with any of them to form an actual meaningful friendship

Still, why don't you just ditch the ex and talk more to your other friend?

>>41680482

Because i don't really like that other friend so much, we've grown apart, we don't really have that much of the same culture, and he's kind of a opportunistic guy, if i'm not talking to him he's going to talk to someone else, he doesn't miss me

And my ex may be a total hypocrite, but at least he's nice to me, for example, he just helped me set up a LAN the other day

And besides, i really don't know how to make friends, even online, so i don't really do much but stay in the same situation until i find people to talk to

>>41680529
I don't want to sound judgemental, but from an external point of view, you call your friend opportunistic while you do make it sound like you're in an opportunistic friendship with him as well
Same goes for your ex, with the "he's a bad friend, hypocrite, but at least he's nice to me"

Still, I'm not in your shoes
Sure must be hard to only have friends that you seem to despise but hang on because you don't have anyone else

>>41680694

I'm not, it's just that i know that if i'm not making the first move, he won't

I'm as replaceable as anyone else, in his eyes

As for my ex, i'm calling him a bad friend because he's not genuine, he's just waiting for a shot, and one of the reasons i keep talking to him is because i don't have the heart to cut him off, let's just say our relationship is in a limbo right now

Yes, it is complicated, but really the problem has to be me, i'm just not attractive enough for anyone to care

I mean, it's either i have fake friends, or i end up in a relationship with them if they're true enough

No in-between, because i just have so little opportunities that i gotta take every one of them as if it was my last

>>41680784
Did you try to ask him if he really feel that way?
Maybe he is shy, don't wanna bother, anything, really
You're never into anyone else's head, so it's impossible to know what they actually think unless you ask them, and trust them
Good friendships are hard to come by
Seems like you know that, so it might be worth to try and fix it up

It seems plenty complicated, with your ex too
He's waiting for a shot, at what?
I guess that you want to avoid ditching him, as to not hurt his feelings?
Might be worse in the long run for both of you

I'm not sure it's about being attractive or not
From the few bits you said, it seems you do have a lot of contradictions that might confuse people

>>41680963

Yes, we talked about it, and my opinion is that he's shallow, he doesn't really talk about anything much that is profound, isn't the kind of guy to talk about his life and problems, the only times we do Discord together, it's exclusively to play vidya

I always try to dig, i'm not the kind to judge quickly, but you know, sometimes you gotta trust your instincts, your case, your files, if someone spends his time acting like X and tells you he's Y, you'll just be wasting your time believing him over and over

And that's why after 6 years of friendship, i think i can safely assume he doesn't like me all that much, there's really much more to the table than you think

Long story short, i asked my ex to stay friends with me, he agreed, but over time he turned out to not feel that way at all, and that the only reason he agreed, was that he could still get back with me

He absolutely freaked out when I told him I was dating this new guy, to a point where he told me lots of shit he kept hidden up until that point

I hesitated getting rid of him, as I could feel the toxicity he would bring to the table

I kept him at a distance, we never saw each other IRL up until that time, and he started to behave like a friend over time, but my little finger tells me that's just a trick so that if I ever break up, he will be the first on the line

Let's just say I can't see him with a good eye anymore, and I'm still not sure if I should cut ties with him or not, but I'm certainly uncomfortable around him

I don't think I have many contradictions really, it might just be a context that's hard for you to understand

I'm saying attractive as in, people don't like me, so I don't attract a lot of people, they never stay long, the only rare ones that do are either BF material, or just people that are going to leave me in the dust when I'll need them the most