>be me>shitty family life>vaguely transphobic>never been in love before>meet boymoder through friend>get to know her>sitting together one day>lock eyes>realize im in love>fast forward>best friends for almost three years now>fundamentally changed me and my views on trans people>only solace from dysfunctional family>can’t even imagine going an entire lifetime without her>jokingly flirts and talks about us being in a relationship>sends reels of couples while saying "us">not sure if it’s an obvious hint or just being funny>scared to ruin friendship> finally build up enough courage to confess> write a letter with my feelings> plan on giving it to her this weekend> open her story> soft launching a relationship with someone else> heartbroken> know i’ll never meet anyone like her ever againwhat do i do? is it even worth telling her anymore? am i just being selfish?
new relationship most likely wont last for her right
either wait to see what happens or try to see how she acts in this new relationship if you wantotherwise, accept that it could be a lost cause, because unfortunately you fantasizing about her while trying to be her "friend" is infinitely more painful than leaving her life and moving on, unless you guys can make it work as a "friendship"talking from experience
>>41691141I’m not sure, they haven’t known each other for that long but she’s the one who asked them out I think
>>41691200is it worth confessing?
bump
>>41691490i would say its probably not worth it if you dont want to sacrifice your friendship but it depends on how you think she would act (cus i dont know her obviously) if the relationship she gets into is healthy and seems like it may last long, probably try moving on or distancing yourself from herif you think her relationship is unhealthy, be there for her as a shoulder to lean on if it gets bad and maybe after some time she would break up with that person and you could try making moves on herconfessing now would probably ruin your friendship with her unless she was into some poly shit, just play it safe if you think you do somethingtake my advice with a grain of salt tho, im not the most experience person in the world and you should get feedback from others toogood luck!
>>41692103>confessing now would probably ruin your friendship with her unless she was into some poly shit, just play it safe if you think you do something*if you think you can do something typo lol
what i’m afraid of is she might’ve felt the same way but because i didn’t make the first move she moved on. i don’t think I’ll ever forgive myself if that’s what happened
>>41691200glitchrode
>>41691045>3 yearsYou really strung her on for 3 years and expected her to take it? Fr? Skill issue, should've locked that in after 3 dates
>>41693558I was scared and confused, and I didn’t know how to make the first move. But that’s no excuse, I realize that now. It’s my fault.
>>41691045>soft launching a relationshipfuck zoomers man they can't take anything seriouslynext she'll say she's in a situationship or smth
>>41693770You should confess now before she falls in love with the other man. It's easy to steal a trans girl's heart
>>41694594I think I will. Even if she doesn’t feel the same way I think it’ll help me move on. I really hope that she’ll reconsider though.
How should I should do it? My plan was to give her a letter. I even made a necklace out of a guitar pick for her (she loves music). I can redo the letter though if there’s something I should add. Or maybe I should do it some other way entirely. Any advice would be massive help.
>>41695743It's over.
>>41695786Probably, but I think I at least owe her the truth.
>>41692394That'd be an odd decision if she then openly asked the other person to date them.
>>41696155The thing is I don’t think she’s known them that long so maybe she thought she had less to lose. We’ve been close for a while and maybe, like me, she was concerned about ruining our friendship. I’m probably just coping tho idk
you said you realized you were in love 3 years ago or did you realize that now?
>>41696221I knew her for a month or two and then during that one moment I described I felt something I never had before. I was super confused and sort of in denial about it since I sort of had a negative view of lgbt people in general but then I started to accept it. So yes, I’ve basically been in love for the whole three years
Something like a letter would be too much now that she's starting a relationship. If you confess to her now you can expect her to be upset that you waited until she's now dating someone. Ultimately you would be putting her on the spot. If you need to tell her, do it in person in a place where you can be private, like where one of you live. No romantic shit because she's in a relationship now. Just straight up tell her how you feel without any frills. Don't give her a gift or anything because if things go south it will just serve as an awkward reminder for her, if she accepts it at all. If she doesn't reject you and breaks up with her new bf because of you, go ahead and do all the sappy shit afterwards.
>>41697401Yeah, you’re right. Thanks for the advice.
>>41699586You can do it anon. Having emotions is good, wish you the best. Pls make another thread for an update if possible because stuff like this is why i come on this board
>>41699665I will. Thanks again.
This did not happen lol.
>>41699895why would I make this thread for no reason lmao
