Adult pooner with bad social development. Want to start fixing this along with working on emotional regulation. Is therapy actually helpful? I stopped going 5 years ago because I found it hurt me more or wasn't actually helping. Are there any good informational sources to help with raising EQ? Not talking about bullshit dark psychology tricks. Things that have actual scientific backing. I used to sit and observe people to see how these dynamics worked but I can't fully understand it. It's like trying to use a dictionary to understand a conversation in a foreign language. Considering that I am also a 164cm manlit that looks like a teenager my problem gets even harder.
>>41694231>Things that have actual scientific backing. I used to sit and observe people to see how these dynamics worked but I can't fully understand it.Instead of watching people, you just walk up to them and interact. That's literally it.
>>41694271I do, they either ignore me or just kind of laugh. I do have irl friends but it is still pretty hard to have a "normal" social life. Don't get invited to partys or to bigger group events. Have a close bond with everyone I actually hang out with but it is usually one on one. But I do want to be a normal sociable person rather than "that weird thing". I feel like I keep breaking unwritten social rules when I actually try to interact with people. Code switching seems like the closest thing to what can currently help me but can't say I am sure.
>>41694231>bullshit dark psychology tricksthat's what therapy is though. like hypnosis it only works if you believe it does and allow your thought-habits to be altered. unfortunately knowing this means that therapy will never work on you again.
>>41694231congratulations you have passably male autism
>>41697499Any chance I can pull a doctor house? Or change it for ASPD?
>>41699828the whole point of House was that he was completely miserable and would probably be totally reviled if he didn't have near-superhuman diagnostic skills, which I'm assuming you don't have
>>41700202Context I have AudADHD. I don’t know if I do but I do work in medicine, thinking of switching to some branch of pharmacology. I love to learn everything and anything. One of the reasons why I feel like I have to socialize is because its important for brain health and unlocks better opportunities/info. I have a lot of empathy too but since it kept gotten taken advantage of it turned into more of a faucet I can turn on and on. This obviously has adverse affects because I do have many feelings but I can’t feel them. Think of seeing a knife in your arm but you don’t feel pain, than you take it out and feel everything. I don’t want to be miserable we all have one life but I really don’t know how to be around people as a person without getting hated. I got recommended somatic therapy and wanted to see other options. I think its a combination of things rather than just being visible trans. I used to mimic people from media that seemed likeable but that obviously didn’t translate well irl.
