I don't understand why anyone would seriously be straight. Straight relationships are the most soulless, dry things ever. Sometimes the way they describe straight relationships is more like war. True mutual understanding prevails much better in gay and lesbian relationships.
>>41697466Idk about you, but I get the sense that most articles like the one in the pic are taking one small trend they found online and amplifying it to promote some subtle agenda, though I don't know exactly what it is
>>41697466I think it's just men in general holding themselves up. I'm gay and hookup culture is crazy.
>>41697466boyfriend makes me feel special and safe. everyone else would throw me to the wolves before any trouble even starts.
>>41697466>men have difficulty finding and maintaining close relationships>partners (mostly women bc straight) bear the burden all of their socioemotional needs as a result>this of course needs an inflammatory gynocentric term, which will help, for some reasonwhy do they do this? the idea presented here is real and valid but literally the only result of giving this phenomenon some stupid, condescending name is that men are going to see it and get pissed off because they feel Belittled Again by Societythis has to be done intentionally. there is no way anyone thinks this name is productive and i predict it will make it even more difficult for women when men who hear or think about it feel indignant and self-righteous about their behavior because they feel as though they are pitted against womeni honestly think the problem with straight relationships is that men and women see each other as two opposing teams when we should all be on the same team, holding hands and singing kumbayaall i ever see nowadays is men and women arguing with each other over how much the other sucks which is not productive at all. i hate the internett. with a man i can actually love and like and talk to
>>41697638liking someone and listening to them is the hardest job, 1k an hour compensation, the man will never be able to pay this back. the other way around is just men doing their expected duty tho
>>41697466Women using meds during pregnancy that made their kids bisexual lesbians have ruined straight dating. These women are all comphet and looking for any reason to not date men
>>41697644see this is what i mean, though. this sort of thinking pits men and women against one another. we SHOULD be working to resolve, societally, the issues that produce men who emotionally overburdening their partners. this is a legitimate issue. but it isn't men's fault, on the whole; it IS a product of patriarchy, but normal-ass individual men are not causing the systemic problem and we need to extirpate the ideas that lead to this sort of stuff, eg manosphere shit and literally, actually, the glorification of a solitary, "sigma" lifestyle, among other things. it's all bad.
>>41697693is funny because in not being a cunt, i can get my boyfriends to feel things and express themselves more comfortably. then i see others pathologizing basically nothing from guys, which encourages them to get worse.
Men are emotionally warped and broken because women raise to be as such. From the moment you are born as a boy, women will beat you, lie about you, assault you, abandon you, manipulate you, use you, and torture you for fun to exterminate any individualism or emotional expression. Can you really be surprised that if a boy cries or is upset, the immediate and default response from womankind is to beat the shit out of him and tell him that only girls are allowed to have feelings his entire life, that he's emotionally stunted?When I cried the women and girls in my family would shave me bald and waterboard me until I stopped. I learned very quickly to stop crying. When I showed any emotion as a boy besides rage or anger women immediately shriek for the nearest men to come kill you because my only life purpose is to be a soulless emotionless provider golem for women. When I talked about my feelings as a kid I would be stripped naked then abandoned miles away in different cities and told to walk back home to correct my wrong behavior.This is the life experience of every single Y chromosome haver. And then women are angry that every single man on this world has PTSD and problems with processing emotions and blames them for this too.Hopefully the birth rate drops to 0 faster.
>>41697720I know it's common for emotionally stunted boys to push blame entirely on their mothers but it is mostly fathers who harshly police male gender norms
>>41697736My father only showed up a few times in my life but I quite distinctively remember that it was my mother putting me in conversion camp and my aunts that would set me on fire or pimp me out to their friends for fun when I expressed any femininity.
>>41697746I meant on a sociological level. Your experience is yours alone. Most other boys don't have your experiences
>>41697466pederastic gay relationships which usually are the preferred relationship of the people who push this meme are just as vapid and soulless
>>41697720do you live in Afghanistan or smth?
>>41697466>woman spends a few minutes every now and then addressing her bfs actual sadness but also reading way to much into his genuine "yeah I'm thinking about nothing">there is an EPIDEMIC of UNPAID EMOTIONAL LABOR!!!!>man listens to his gf yap every day about work/school/family, is constantly an emotional load-bearing wall of the relationship>...>*crickets*Emotional labor imbalance is ALWAYS on the side of men doing more. They just don't ask for receipts to keep things going smoothly. And I'm pretty sure women know, it would be disrespectful to assume they're stupid enough not to know.
>>41697752Absolutely not lol. Ask any man alive if he has a memory of a woman beating him and screaming at him to man up if he showed his feelings and he will tell you like it happened a few minutes ago.
>>41697779I am a man. I've known many men. I have not experienced any or have heard of many experiences like this. I'm sorry but I think you just live in a uniquely abusive area/family.
>>41697720i remember my 3rd grade teacher mocking me pretty harshly for crying but i was also generally an annoying little shit as a kid so she probably just hated me in particular. i was raised in a conservative family and never had what you described though
>>41697466they seem soulless and dry to you because you arent into the opposite sex. people who like the opposite sex generally find it fulfilling to be around them emotionally.
>>41697779Also any trans woman. Any cis female ally will also continue to see a trans woman's suffering as male, so undeserving of sympathy. A trans woman being raped is less bad than a cis woman getting a bad haircut sorta shit. Not really exaggerating that part either.
>>41697795You have repressed your memories of abuse but on an unconscious level are aware of it. You know very well if you even start talking about your feelings around a woman she will instantly become hostile and your relationship will change permanently.
>itt: men and women pitted against one another
>>41697809You, yourself see trans men as women so why you bother pretending that its unique to cis women. If you really did think trans people are their desired gender, you would be here crying about how poonies get raped more than anyone else and how its a clear sign of misandry that noboy cares about it
Ngl I don't really have a support system but I wouldn't offload it onto a partner and I would try to reciprocate. I'm far from an MRA or anything like that but this feels like the trend of >you don't owe the world anything>keeping my peace >muh trauma dumping that just wants people to never express their emotions and then we're all isolated with surface level relationships. Like I'm not denying this phenomenon is real but impressionable people are going to read this screenshot and go "My boyfriend vented to me one time, ugggg" and just go overboard with it. When in fact partners should listen to each other's emotions. Though I have been in a situation where someone dumped so many emotions on me that it caused compassion fatigue and I started to dread speaking to him. He was so addicted to it he couldn't help himself when I tried to set a boundary multiple times and I ran away and didn't know how to be a good listener for years after that.
