>>41700009
fuck her infront of them and theyll immediately be turned off, cissoids would rather kill themselves than date someone whos fucked a tranny

>>41700009
fuck them before she does

>>41700009
Just double down and get more serious/exclusive.
those aren't "orbiters" those are just pragmatic socializers and while their little ecosystem isn't well-thought-out and the flaws in it are widening cracks. Don't think incel, think successful lover. The only way to beat the dating game is through commitment pro-tip

>>41700049
We are fully committed and exclusive and serious

>>41700059
congrats
idk the boy hopefuls might not see you as competition idk. You can get married now if even if you live in the USA and even if you're both legally female, how odd huh

keep in mind that as soon as your relationship ends for any reason she's already got the next one waiting in line, it's a revolving door. that's what it's like to be an attractive woman

>>41700009
Look, I'll try my best to give you advice that might help you process your thoughts based on my personal life experience and anecdotes. When I was young, I was very pretty. I am old and wise now, I'm not fooling around with harems. I was also the girlfriend with a harem of orbiters, you gotta break up with her.

Trust me, just do it. I am able to charm literally everyone but I realized over time it's because I am a sociopath. I see some sociopathic tendencies in her, having this many orbiters is not normal, it's even far beyond what I had, which was maybe 15 at a time. She may have had some rough aspects of her childhood that made her need to have crazy charisma as a survival mechanism.

When she is older, there is absolutely an opportunity to redeem herself, and I did. She isn't a bad person, she just has an abnormality in her neurology.

At all times, you are one pissed off moment from getting cheated on. You're already getting emotionally cheated on, even though it's kind of one sided on the orbiter's end.

Some people want relationships to be ride or die, she has 33 other lifeboats. She is the most prepared person of all time in getting dumped.

She has nothing to lose if you break up, she has no incentive to invest in the relationship, work on herself, build a life with you.

Furthermore, she is unconcerned regarding your insecurities and doing nothing to alleviate them.

She is not your girlfriend, she is everyone's girlfriend. She gets emotional intimacy from 33 different people. You are in a pseudo polycule, rather it's just her harem, the rest of them just don't get to have sex with her.

They would date and fuck her if they could.

The fact that she is so careless and thoughtless demonstrates to me she is kind of selfish and hedonistic.

I see my younger self in her, I think you'll end up getting hurt. I destroyed so many hearts and it had lasting damage on them. Don't be her plaything.

I don't know her, but please think it over.

>>41700132
If I had the energy to write this much text I would have written this instead of >>41700096

>>41700151
<3

Appreciate it, anon.

>>41700009
this part of why I'm afraid to date. I think it was surveyed that 50% of partners cheat it least once during their marriage. Freaks me out

>>41700275
every relationship has the one who settles and the one who is being settled for. the successful ones are set up such that the one settling has a strategic motive to settle other than "there's no one hotter in line" and the one being settled for is conscious that this is the arrangement and is comfortable being settled for

>>41700132
Fuck you
kys

>>41700502
Whoa, what did I do to hurt you, anon? I'm sorry

>>41700468
Holy shit
?Does the "High value female" type thinking ever get draining
You should just find someone you love ,and settle down with ,rather than settle for them
Ya you may not be exaktly matced in all ways ,but that doesnt matter if you love them
Their external status or value or whatever doesnt matter ,just how well you guys are together and how muc you love eac other
I hate that Iv heard this kinda thinking in the mainstream for basikally all my life

>>41700132
good post
i acted like this too until early this year. i was afraid if i stopped, i would become lonely. and i am, and i miss those days, but i knew it was hot air on shaky ground.

>>41700009
which is one top which one is bottom

>>41700622
<3

Thank you for those kind words, it makes me happy. I really enjoy helping people.

dude if you ride it out with the hottest chick around until she's 30 what's the worst that could happen. she hits the wall? her orbiters age like 10x worse and the shitters just flake out one by one? Don't play it passively with your friends, I would bff her and get into her friendships because all is fair.

>>41700592
Yeah I think being cognizant of that dynamic and it being a core opinion of relationships is very deeply unhinged

That anon will never be in real love

They see their partner as a set of stats

my go-to advice for the boys is "actually look into what pre-nupitals demands (like talking with your bank you know) and lock it down and get married."
Figuring your life and skills and career out can take like a whole ass decade but if you find your special sweetheart when you're 20 and dumb then you always have the option of early commitment and surprise surprise you only have 50/50% odds of a happy lifelong marriage. Times have changed but back in the day that was the surest way to build generational wealth if you had kids a little later.

>>41701066
Im REALLY fukking glad other people agree ,even here ,on the queer insel board
I really fukking hate how widespread the idea of 'settling' is ,to the point that Iv heard it as a driving element in the konflikt of movies or shows
Im lovepilled ,unlike the "high value partner" types that arent unkommon here

One last thought is that if you're not very social maybe re-think an assumption that your ideal soul mate is a reclusive shut-in like yourself and that only another tortured soul could understand you. People often like their opposites and they should. Maybe people need like a temperate or equalizing effect on their lives.
Also you can actively make new friends and should since friend groups often kind of suffer a rate of attrition, at least while people are young and have petty betrayals.

>>41700096
yup, it's some billionaire vs hobo shit, though beauty fades and the lucky ones get wiser and nicer fast
>>41700132
good post indeed

>>41700009
tbhon... just use your gock and make her fall in love with you.

the power of gock, she won't resist. I know my srsussy can't resist it

>>41700627
I'm the bottom

>>41702224
She is in love with me desu

>>41704369
>I'm the bottom
it's over

>>41704385
???