/Bigen/ - bisexual general : Deep Fried edition>QotT: What is exciting and new in your life? What are you looking forward to or recently begun? What’s your current main struggle?Previous Thread(s): >>41798089 #Tagmap: https://tagmap.io/tag/%2Fbigen%2FFAQ:>Am I bi if I like women and femboys/traps?>Am I bi if there's this one member of the same-sex I'm desiring, but normally I like the opposite sex?>Am I bi if I sexually like both sexes, but only interested in romance with one of them?Yes, sexual attraction to both sexes is bisexuality.>What's the difference between bisexual and pansexual?Nothing. Absolutely nothing. Jesus, how many labels do we need? People keep inventing New names for the same thing like their Pokémon cards.>Am I bi if i have periods where I feel only attracted to women and others where I feel only attracted to men?This is known as the bi-cycle and many bisexuals experience it.>Am I bi or am I 'prison gay' or porn addicted?'Prison gay' is not a real thing and porn addiction does not alter your sexual orientation. You are bi.>Am I bi or pan if I like trans people?Both are able to be attracted to trans people.>I think I might be bi but I can't tell. How can I be certain?Just make a point to check out members of the sex you think you might be attracted to and see if anyone grabs your attention.>Should I be harsh on myself?You should be kind on yourself. Few people will do it for youResource for Bisexuals:https://biresource.org:The Bisexual Manifesto:https://bimanifesto.carrd.co
>>41864527>What is exciting and new in your life? What are you looking forward to or recently begun? What’s your current main struggle?Everything is new always all the timeStarted an art course that I hope goes wellstrugglong with how i still blow cock at art
>>41865069Practice makes perfect but with art you will always want to be better than you are
i am not attracted to trans
>>41864527>TQNew bfEnding my chronic painChronic pain and depression
>>41864527>What is exciting and new in your life?Kinda in camp everything with >>41865069 on this one.>What are you looking forward to or recently begun? I get a chance to travel over the holidays. It’s gonna be packed as hell, but I kinda don’t care. Two-flower approach. >What’s your current main struggle?Fitness. I’ve been trying to chase that six pack for like a full year now and I can’t get below 20% bf. I know what I need to do, but oh boy is food delicious. And it doesn’t help that I enjoy cooking either.
>>41864527>QotT: What is exciting and new in your life? What are you looking forward to or recently begun? What’s your current main struggle?Been consistent about going to the gym for a few weeks and doing strength training now not just cardio, had to get over my insecurity and realize no one there is looking at/thinking about me>>41868155I'm in the same boat been stuck at like 22-25% for 2 years, for me it's crazy salt cravings and I end up eating salty carby things
>>41868155its kinda fucked up that tasty food has calories when you think about it
>>41868188Trying out different seasoning has helped me a lot in the salt department. And nuts instead of crisps. >>41868544It’s more fucked up how skillfully the food industry exploits this. But can’t blame them for chasing profits, I suppose.
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>>41864527in order of questions nothing I come here to kill time or doom, to finally killing myself because I'm shit at that and have to try more often, staying alive in biological meaning
>>41868085Body goals
>>41864527>What is exciting and new in your life? I found a gf :) What’s your current main struggle?Losing weight, and struggling with career. I need to find something I can do day-to-day that makes good money and doesn’t make me want to pull my hair out. I don’t want to get stuck in unskilled labor/low-wage labor jobs.
>>41868544My issue is moreso that food that tastes good and is healthy usually takes a while to prepare.. it's easier to just throw some ultra-processed frozen slop in the oven even though you know it's not good for you in the long term.
>>41864527>What is exciting and new in your life? My tiny game studio is going well and we should have a demo ready for Steam Next Fest in February>What are you looking forward to or recently begun? I got myself an espresso machine so that I'll stop buying monster at the gas station every morning>What’s your current main struggle?It feels like 29 years of loneliness is crashing down on me all at once. I just feel continuously worse as I develop a deeper understanding of my difficulties with navigating romance, sex, relationships, etc. Some of these problems I created for myself and some I had no part in, but all the same they feel insurmountable. I know that's not true, I know things aren't hopeless, but that's a hard thing to hold on to. I just break down crying sometimes now when I'm by myself—at home, when I'm the only one at work, when I'm driving. This started with getting dumped in October by the first person I dated, but that's not really what I'm crying about anymore. I feel worse than I ever have and it seems like my only recourse is whining about it to strangers on the internet.
>>41871821People tend to overestimate how long preparing food actually takes. You can whip up amazing and healthy dishes in less than 15 mins. >>41873393>espresso machinebased and Italy pilled
>>41873466Gonna make myself a cortado every morning
>>41874349You think you want this but you don't. Clingy partners wear on you
>>41875537Yeah, they wear on my nuts
>>What is exciting and new in your life?Maybe not exciting or new, but I like this guy in one of my classes. Nothing will come of it, so I'm currently pining from afar. >>What are you looking forward to or recently begun? I've started jogging again and even though it's cold out, there's this really nice nature trail near campus that has beautiful scenery so I look forward to running there. >>What’s your current main struggle?Making friends, talking to people, public speaking or even just participating in class when someone cold calls on me. I know I don't look it, but I'm actually really shy irl.
>>41875537you misunderstand, i am the girl in this picture
>>41876327Then you should CEASE this behavior immediately WHORE
>>41875537It’s kinda cute when you’re in the mood for it though.
>>41873393> My tiny game studio is going well and we should have a demo ready for Steam Next Fest in FebruaryHEY! Congrats to you! I will also be entering my demo in Feb's Next Fest. Got approved for release last month :)
My main struggle is I'm a subhuman mentally ill 34 year old virgin. I have nothing exciting going on and I don't look forward to anything. I just dread every single day. Things just get worse and more hopeless every year and I can't seem to do anything about it even with professional help. Suicide seems like the only logical choice and I think more likely the older I get
real gamedevs post in bigen on lgbtyet there are no yesdevs in agdg on vg
>>41876327Cute
>>41880306I used to post in agdg too but I always give up on my games after working on them for an hour
>>41880661you are NOT a yesdevDIE!!!!!!!!
>>41880692:(
>>41864527>What’s your current main struggle?Yesterday my main struggle was I needed to take a massive shit when I got to work, but my badge didn't work. The security staff acted confused but after several painful minutes they revealed they had a replacement badge for me (and presumably others) because they're "upgrading their system" or some shit.
>>41864527>What is exciting and new in your life?(Trying to) date another guy for the first time, but I think the time of year doesn't help much. Christmas time isn't when most people try to go on dates, in my experience.>What are you looking forward to or recently begun? Next month I'll be able to see the movie No Other Choice. It's the first time I'll be able to see a movie from my favorite director in the cinema instead of at home, so I'm pretty hyped about it.>What’s your current main struggle?Exam preparation - I probably have like 150 hours of prep ahead of me, so it's gonna be a lot of effort.
We're assigning groups in a couple of my classes today. Just the thought of it is stressing me out since I'm almost always the odd man out in these situations. It's always been hard for me to make friends or even talk to people. >>41881740What are you studying for?
>>41879394Hell yeah!
>>41881740>Christmas time isn't when most people try to go on datesSame with meeting friends. December is a bitch to plan. On the bright side, Christmas markets are amazing for dates.
>>41881878>It's always been hard for me to make friends or even talk to people.why?>>41882391yeah this time of year it gets stupid busy so even seeing people you don't want to smooch on is tough
>>41878577me
>>41878577Is it bad to be down bad enough to want to plap this?
>>41883672I'm really, really shy, especially in new situations. I have a hard time talking to people face to face at first. It's tough even looking them in the eye. I become tongue tied and can't talk, sometimes. It's even worse if I'm doing stuff where I have to get up in front of a ton of people and talk. I get so nervous when I'm presenting that I can't eat beforehand or I'll throw up.The hardest part is I don't look like most people's idea of a shy person so sometimes they think I'm being rude or cold.
>MOVIE NIGHTMOVIE NIGHT>MOVIE NIGHTMOVIE NIGHTA reminder that tomorrow at 22 GMT we will vote for the next two movies for Movie Night! If you want you can also give your recommendation by replying to this post>what the hell is "movie night"its a special night where bigen comes together to watch on Discord two movies chosen by the community>when will movie night take place?its FRIDAY at 23 gmt>where do we watch the movies?on the Bigen Movie and Game Night Discord server:https://discord.gg/mFRYZDnU>i don't usually post on bigen/never took part in movie night, can i join?Of course, movie night is open to anyone, just remember to mute yourself during the movies, be civil and have fun!fyi: this is the list of every movie we watched so far:https://pastebin.com/Bc8pqK9h
>>41885194>>41885226y'all two should exchange discords.>>41885254bro/sis you should get tested for social anxiety. >I don't look like most people's idea of a shy person so sometimes they think I'm being rude or coldwhat you got like rbf or something?
I’m a masculine, straight passing, heteroromantic guy. I started out “prison gay” as a teenager because I couldn’t get laid, and quickly found out that getting head from guys as a substitute for women is lame, but I actually enjoy bottoming for masculine men who choke me and call me dirty names. I built a whole secret femboy persona over it and lived a double life for a few years thinking I was “straight just experimenting”. Eventually I got in a relationship and that weird early 20s second puberty hit so femboy era is over. I still like dickNot coming out specifically because I prefer women and being bi nukes your shot with most of them. I can admit that I’m bi. Obviously I’m bi. I’ve had sex with multiple men, multiple times, voluntarily, enthusiastically, both sober and not. And I exclusively like being the bitch. I am not straight.The thing is, socially I have nothing to gain from people knowing that I’m bi. It will add no benefit to my life, and little change at all besides limiting the pool of women I can get and opening up conversations with other people in my life that I’m not interested in having. I’m not ashamed of it like I used to be, but it’s just annoying because the random cyclical gay urges make commitment to women hard long term and can also turn me into an unproductive gooner for a few hours at a time. I’m still looking for balance. What do?
>>41885904I dunno man just jerk off for a few hours at a time, or find a girl who's cool with it and/or actively into it.
>>41885806>get social anxietyI've thought about it. I feel like I'm going from place to place just being embarrassed I exist and the only people I'm really friends with are my roommates. It's been tough.>you got like rbf or somethingI've been told I come across as intimidating because I'm so quiet and tense. I'm on the taller side and stuff too which doesn't help. >>41885904My perspective and experiences when it comes to being bi and coming out are different and I've never been in a relationship, but I think dating someone who wouldn't accept me if they knew I like men too would be kind of sad.
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>>41868085Just when I thought the cycle was over…>>41885254Sounds very familiar. I had (and still have) similar issues like you. What helped a bit is repeatedly putting myself into these situations and simply being more chill about what other people think of me. It’s not perfect, but it gets me through meetups and networking events.>get up in front of a ton of people and talkA lot of, if not most people struggle with this. It’s a trained skill.
>>41878577>>41885226Hell no, it's a great ideaWe gotta blap that boihole on this trannytwink thing
>>41891192Yeah, I licked the screen. I'm not lying nor tryna deny it
>>41879641When you’ve dug yourself a hole that deep you’re not gonna get out of it in a day. It took you years to dig that hole it’s gonna take years to get out of it, but it is possible. A little bit of self improvement every day goes pretty far in a year.
>>41864527>/Bigen/ - bisexual generalWhy not trisexual general? The hermaphrodite sex exists!
>>41864527>qottThe last year has taken the lives of two animals which I felt a personal connection to, including one I had raised in her infancy, and I watched her die in my arms. I've spent most of it in a bureaucratic pit trying to flagellate myself into a position where I can finally reunite with my long distance wife (we married at the start of the year specifically to make this possible) which I have not seen in nearly a year and now it seems like as a christmas present life is taking that one last source of joy from me too, or at least it's trying its level best. If this year has been for nothing, if all I have to show for it is a couple of skeletons in the ground with a big rock over them and a little bit of cat food laid on top, I don't think I'm coming back from this one. That's me done.
>>41891285I suppose being bisexual doesn't guarantee you would be into hermaphrodites, even though most would probably be okay with it.
Bump
>>41864527>QotT: What is exciting and new in your life? What are you looking forward to or recently begun? What’s your current main struggle?idk. I finally have an apartment again so now my goal is to find bf>>41873393>>41879394Congrats! also a dev here working on mah second game
>MOVIE NIGHTMOVIE NIGHT>MOVIE NIGHTMOVIE NIGHTA reminder that at 22 GMT we will choose the next 2 movies for movie night!You can give your recommendation now by replying to this post>what the hell is "movie night"its a special night where bigen comes together to watch on Discord two movies chosen by the community>when will movie night take place?its FRIDAY at 23 gmt>where do we watch the movies?on the Bigen Movie and Game Night Discord server:https://discord.gg/BXbTCHUB>i don't usually post on bigen/never took part in movie night, can i join?Of course, movie night is open to anyone, just remember to mute yourself during the movies, be civil and have fun!fyi: this is the list of every movie we watched so far:https://pastebin.com/Bc8pqK9h
>>41891285>>41893009there used to be a line in the faq text that went like >What's the difference between bisexual and pansexual?Only difference is that our flag is prettier.that adressed the question, but the current person doing the threads changed itbigen is there to accommodate people who are attracted to any genre really
>>41895347no. i wont join this stupid server
>>41864527Am I bi if I like women and men but not dick (it's a full net negative but I would fuck a cis man or preop trans woman if I wasn't expected to interact with it and it was on the smaller end)
>MOVIE NIGHTMOVIE NIGHT>MOVIE NIGHTMOVIE NIGHTThe poll is now open, no further recommendations will be accepted. The voting will stop tomorrow at around 5 PM GMT, so be sure to vote before then!Here is the link to the server:https://discord.gg/BXbTCHUB
>>41895422Suits you, hope you enjoy your time in your current preferred spaces anon>>41895530you're bi yeah
it was just a phase. i haven't fantasized about men or checked one out all this year. i don't regret giving dudes a try, but pussy is my true purpose.
>>41896274I want this teapot but that's quite a hefty price tag.
>>41896948could prob just make it at that pricepoint tbdesu. files and stone would be cheaper.i wonder if theirs has any kind of internal sealant/glaze though
>>41895530It depends on who you ask and how you view sexuality. I think it’s bi, but ancient Romans only thought you were a faggot if you got dicked down not if you penetrated… I would take that with a grain of salt. They fucked goats.
>>41895061I hope you find a good bf, Anon. Good luck.
i love it when i shave my chest and my nipples become hypersensitive and just the act of them rubbing against my shirt makes me flustered and drip into my underwear in public <3
>>41900274Fuck that's hot. Need a partner with sensitive nipples that I can tease in public until they beg me to take them home.
>find a cute amab on /gif/>"oh i can look like him, right">germanic ethnicity>trans>18
>>41900445that would be me except instead of begging to go home i would likely just bust in my pants
>>41885904>>The thing is, socially I have nothing to gain from people knowing that I’m bi. It will add no benefit to my life, and little change at all besides limiting the pool of women I can get and opening up conversations with other people in my life that I’m not interested in havingI totally understand this feeling, particularly re casual dating. When I was single I wasn't out and it was largely bc of what I feared it would do to my prospects with women. My dad still doesn't know because I just don't see the point in having that conversation But on the other hand it's really nice being in a relationship with someone who you can actually be your whole self with, including your whole sexual self. Once I had experienced that (it took dating a girl who was bi herself for me to feel comfortable saying to another human being for the first time that I was bi) I was never willing to do a serious relationship on other terms. On the other end of 7 years of marriage now I think it would be really weird if I felt like I needed to hide this kind of stuff about my sexuality and desires and fantasies from my wife or if I were afraid of what she would think. Maybe if our marriage was a more transactional thing rather than more companionate I'd feel differently.
>>41900445My partner recently discovered I have sensitive nipples. She thinks it's the funniest thing and plays with them in public, which is v embarrassing, hot, hot that it's embarrassing, etc.
>>41864527I want my middle aged neighbour to fuck me while his wife watches
>>41901330That's honestly cuter, really adorable to have a partner that you have that much power over how fast they cum.
>>41895530>I like men but not dickIt’s an acquired taste
>>41901363Totally agreed. I also think it's way better to be a strong match with 5% of the population than to be a vague match with 50%.
>>41864527Any bi guys here hate that they're sexually submissive? Deep voice, gym rat, into sports, all the indicators that I'd at least be a top, and yet I become a quivering little bitch with dudes. Like it drives me insane that I can nail some girl, happily play the dom if she's into it, and the next week I'm kneeling before some twunk wearing a collar and begging to blow him. The fuck am I like this anons?
>>41902145Why does it bother you?
>>41902154Because it's embarrassing and humiliating. Screws with my sense of self. Feels as if I'm going against what most people perceive me to be. End up becoming so meek too, that there is very little in the way of boundaries. Also can become a little messy when i want to screw a woman. Main reasons, I suppose.
>>41902209I think the contrast is hot, although I've embraced my role as a sub.>Also can become a little messy when i want to screw a woman.This part is true though, the more you sub the less you'll want to even bother trying to dominate women.
>>41902274It is, but I still struggle with just how fucking humiliating and faggy it is.It's more primal definitely and yeah the sex is better, but I like tits and ass too much to ditch women. I meant it also in the sense of control too. Little difficult to explain to a girl I'm about to hook up with why I'm wearing a jockstrap, can't really go yeah this dude who rails me and treats me like his personal on call slut told me to start wearing them all good Jessica?
>>41902145I only submit to women, so not really. It doesn't feel emasculating to me, it feels like being a chained or tamed animal. Though they do have to be good at it since I struggle to slip into the role as I get older.
>>41902145Not really, I don't think I'll ever submit to a guy though, it's just a fantasy for me and I'm happy if it stays that way.
>>41902335>It is, but I still struggle with just how fucking humiliating and faggy it is.Ultimately, this is only gonna make you cum harder lol. I think the only permanent solution is a fujo gf
>>41902354Why not act on it anon?
>>41902335It sounds like you need to develop a little more capacity for setting boundaries. Kink is not supposed to interfere with your life to the point of distress in unrelated situations. Looking at it from a different angle, that's one of the ways psychiatric problems are defined. It's the difference between exhibiting some obsessive compulsive behaviors and having actual diagnosable OCD. It becomes a disorder when you can't live your life normally because of it.
>MOVIE NIGHTMOVIE NIGHT>MOVIE NIGHTMOVIE NIGHTAnd we have the two winners!:>Zootopia>C.H.U.D. IISo see ya later at 23 GMT!
>MOVIE NIGHTMOVIE NIGHT>MOVIE NIGHTMOVIE NIGHTA reminder that in 2 hours Movie Night is gonna start! Here is tonight's selection:>Zootopia>C.H.U.D. II>what the hell is "movie night"Its a special night where bigen comes together to watch on Discord two movies chosen by the community>where do we watch the movies?On the official Bigen Movie and Game Night Discord server: https://discord.gg/BXbTCHUB>i don't usually post on bigen/never took part in movie night, can i join?Of course, movie night is open to anyone, just remember to mute yourself during the movies, be civil and have fun!fyi this is the list of every movie we watched so far:https://pastebin.com/Bc8pqK9h
>>41902145>Any bi guys here hate that they're sexually submissive?no. as a chadlet, it just seems natural. and I get my Dom itch out on women- with who im naturally a top. so, its the best of both worlds. Im a pleaser so, whoever im with, whether im top or bottom I try to give them what the want/need. some guys need a little bitch with a pretty mouth to blow them
>MOVIE NIGHTMOVIE NIGHT>MOVIE NIGHTMOVIE NIGHTGood evening !Its finally time to start another Movie Night! Tonight selection is:>Zootopia>C.H.U.D. IIHere is the link of the stream, don't be shy and come join us! the film will start at 23:10 GMT>https://discord.gg/JnwaRUGc>what the hell is "movie night"its a special night where bigen comes together to watch on Discord two movies chosen by the community>i don't usually post on bigen/never took part in movie night, can i join?Of course, movie night is open to anyone, just remember to mute yourself during the movies, be civil and have fun!fyi: this is the list of every movie we watched so far:https://pastebin.com/Bc8pqK9h
>>41902402I have very high standards for the sort of men I'd submit to, which are unrealistic for how attractive I am.
>>41885797blessed happy winter bunny
>>41864527Is it normal to want to become more flamboyant after realizing that you're bi? It feels like I repressed my sexuality for so long that I don't really know what's "natural" for me... Being straight-passing is annoying because I feel like it really catches people off guard when I come out to them.
>>41910200I kinda went through a femme phase for a year or two but realised it wasn't me. There's no harm in it but you should be thinking about what feels natural to you.I'm also in the same boat with heteronormativity, everyone assumes that I'm straight. It's never annoyed me though.
>>41885194hello
>>41910314>I'm also in the same boat with heteronormativity, everyone assumes that I'm straight. It's never annoyed me though.It's more so that I just don't like putting people in uncomfortable situations, and for a lot of people it can be pretty uncomfortable if they don't know any queer people. I feel like I shouldn't really worry about it too much because that's THEIR issue if they can't deal with it, but I can't get over it for whatever reason...
question for /bigen/: what's your gender, and what gender do you generally find more physically attractive?
>>41910406Do you live in a conservative area? Telling people that you're bisexual shouldn't be particularly confronting.
>>41910605I'm male and I generally find women more physically attractive. Women generally put a lot more effort into their appearance, but I think I would still lean towards women if they were as badly groomed as men.
>>41910200Not sure what constitutes to flamboyant, but I’ve noticed I’m more comfortable with some of my more feminine or softer personality traits after coming to terms with being bi. Whereas before that, I’d be either confused or angry at my behavior and how I came across cause it didn’t fulfill some stereotypical expectations. >>41910605Male. I feel more attracted to women and femininity in general. But there’s a lot of beauty in a lad that takes proper care of himself.
>>41910200I am not flamboyant as that doesn't come naturally to me. But I wear more colorful clothes and dye my hair blond so I'm slightly more "gay coded" now. My gf is into it.
>>41910605Male, women are more attractive to me on average and based on who I see and meet while out and about.But for my peak desires, it varies by the hour whether I'm more into men or women.
>>41906911Gotta get more attractive!
>>41910605Im a dude and find women to be much more attractive in every way. Im really only attracted to cock and attitude in guys...
Being bi is so goddamn confusing. I like the look of women but the idea of being physically intimate or kissing, let alone sex, is a non starter, I just don't give a shit. All I really want is emotional connections, not physical. I could probably do it if I tried but I'd have to work myself up to it. If I try to work through a sexual fantasy I get bored or distracted.Men don't have that immediate visual lock on but thinking about being intimate with a guy, it sounds pretty nice... I actually have fantasies about what I'd do with a boyfriend...It's like my brain got loaded up with the behavior patterns of "want to look at women" and "want to have sex with men" at the same time
>>41913509I'm you but in reverse lmaoGranted I've only had sex with a woman so I don't have experiences to draw on, but I find it difficult to imagine sex with another guy, even though I'd like to do it
>>41913509Bisexuality has that in common with non-binarity that it's a collection of sliders adjusted very differently for every person, so there's not much normalcy to refer to. It's part of being bi I feel, and maybe why falling back on heteronormativity seems a common thing irl.And why people who don't have that option can be dismissive of us
>>41916209>And why people who don't have that option can be dismissive of usHonestly I see why. I (bi guy) live a comfortable life with my fiancee (bi girl), we appear straight to most people, we'll get married and have kids, we just also like to mix it up. It's not the same life as someone who's visibly gay or trans or whatever.
>>41910605I'm a guy, I find other guys slightly more attractive on average, but serious physical intimacy (i.e. anal) with cis guys is a chore. Even if you're topping, the lack of spontaneity makes things annoying. Therefore, trans guys who enjoy piv are incredible. Pussy with tdick is absolute peak, especially if he has enough bottom growth to top me back when the opportunity presents itself. These guys are exceedingly rare but each and every one should be treasured. I am in desperate undying need of a hairy little switch pervert ftmbf. When I find him I will marry him.
i feel sorry for bi ppl because the broader lgbt treats you guys like an underclassso heres a reminder that you dont need to be actively involved with another member of the same sex to be validI know its corny but its true lol
>>41916669>i feel sorry for bi ppl because the broader lgbt treats you guys like an underclassThey hate us cuz they aint us
>>41916669I think what makes up for it is that most of us are straight passing, so we mostly avoid discrimination outside of the queer community or dating.
I got disc contact from a crossdressing, aspiring femboy the other week and we've had a little back and forth since then andI just can't stop thinking about how badly I want him, I want to ravage him and spoil him and hold him afterwards and make him feel like the most cherished and sore sub in the worldThis is actually the biggest crush I've ever had on another guy I feel like a nervous middle schooler again
>>41920536You better get balls deep bro
>>41920572that is 100% my intention I can promise you that
need a twink on my cock
>>41920990Sir, do you know how fast you were cruising? Bi-license and registration please.
