he's talking about marriage and stuff lol, I'll move in with him next year

>>41922335
you could probably get away with it if no one knew that but OTHER people knowing something like that while your boyfriend doesn't makes it much worse. How can you expect to have a good, working relationship with him like that? Tell him and brace for impact, hopefully he doesn't care

If your friends know you are a troon but he doesn't that's straight up lying to him. If he considers you more than a fling and wants to go steady with you (unlikely for a 20 yo boy), he needs to know that you can't be the mother of his children (it's the same as if you were cis but you knew you're 100% infertile)
Read up on the gay panic defense.
Tl;dr: if your jurisdiction is allowing this he's legally allowed to kill you without repercissions.

>>41922350
i feel like it's too late i have to ball with it, he'll take it wrong if he finds out i've been hiding that and lying about stuff

>>41922335
>>41922346
there is nothing morally wrong with hiding that in situations where it can put you in danger. with that said hiding it is risky with anyone you intend on being with long-term. chances are he will eventually find out and it's better that he hears it earlier and from you directly. i can't advise further without knowing him directly but if you think he might react violently then it would be better to break up with him before that happens

>>41922335
>i hope he doesn't discover it
>he's friend with my friends and they all know im a tranny
>>41922346
>talking about marriage and stuff
>I'll move in with him next year

Are you stupid?

>>41922354
i just knew my friends for longer if i had the choice they wouldn't know either

>>41922362
why

>>41922335
KYS you subhuman pos, I hope he finds out and beheads you.

>>41922383
explain why im an subhuman pos

>>41922365
*HIM*
You *need to tell*.

In the future: choose between stealth and your friends.
Hint: if anyone knows online or in real life, you're not stealth.

If he's talking about marriage at 20, he deserbes better. One that can carry his genes and bear his children.
Not you.

Sorry, sis.

>>41922372
>friends will talk at some point
>he will see you taking hrt when you move in together
If you were fully stealth I think you maybe could've pulled it off but not like this

>>41922397
So you‘d have to cut off contact to your parents to go stealth in your opinion??? That‘s so stupid

>>41922397
i have few friends but they aren't retards and they know i don't like my transness being discussed, some prolly don't even remember, i don't see why i'd leave them to be stealthier when i basically already am

I value them more than my boyfriend

>>41922407
i agree thats retarded i don't see why you's flip your life over even if you trust your current circle

>>41922405
i made up a lie on why i need to take hrt and can't get pregnant

>>41922423
>I lied about not just one, but two huge factors in life
Sounds like a healthy relationship
What if he laments to your friends about how you can't have kids. "Good of you to stick with [OP] when you know she's trans and can't give you that."

that is not ok in any way shape or form and I think you have not told him because you know he would not be ok with it, which makes this all worse

>>41922442
idk if he would be okay with it, if i told him in the beginning it would've probably been okay but if could be mad at the fact that i hid what's considered a big thing for so long

>>41922431
i don't see this specific situation happen but im worried of one specific friend telling him

>>41922459
I don't know your friends so I was just giving an example of something you now admit might happen
The way I see it is this:
>he's okay with you being trans
>you tell him and it's okay

>he's okay with you being trans
>he finds out
>he now knows you've been lying to him

>he's not okay about you being trans
>he finds out
>it's way worse than it ever needed to be

>he's not okay with you being trans
>you have to lie to him for the rest of the relationship while living in fear of him finding out

>>41922479
i think about telling him more and more lately tbhon

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>my boyfriend doesn't know im a tranny

>>41922510
i sure look like that yeah retard

>>41922549
>he doesn't know

>>41922560
he doesn't, im a pretty attractive girl and there isn't anything rly clocky about me, i don't rly dress any feminine and very rarely wear makeup and im consistenly read female

>>41922507
I hope you can figure this out and it works out well.
Sorry if I seemed a bit antagonising idk. I can see the appeal of full stealth but I just don't think there's anything like 95% stealth, you know?
Like the other anon pointed out, it can be legal to just murder you if he finds out you're trans so I just don't think it's a good idea

>>41922573
people in public address trannies as she/her to avoid becoming cancelled or hurt. They gender you female out of fear. They know you’re a man

>>41922335
>im post srs.
ruined

>>41922684
lmao, no they don't know, i talk to ppl of all age and all political beliefs and religions and i don't dress in anyway that could tell them im trying to look particularily female, i just naturally look female, face and body

>>41922708
face and stamp

>>41922646
nah it's not legal i live in france, i don't agree with the fact that NO ONE can know to be considered stealth, some ppl can be trusted, it's sad to think otherwise

>>41922708
Nothing you said has contradicted my statement. Unless you’re in the UK, the transgender mafia has such a stranglehold on culture that it is literally unsafe to misgender a tranny

>>41922770
Delulu

>>41922346
>20 yo
>marriage
You really are retarded and this is probably a LARP

>>41922708
These people are idiots, don't worry.

I get gendered differently by default by the same people based on attire and don't ever bother to correct them. People generally just say whatever comes to mind first unless you put them on the spot.

>>41922770
You can hate crime trannies in the UK and the tranny will get jail time.

How many rupees are you being paid for this?

>>41923178
ik im not gonna marry him now lol, we'll see later he just kinda threw the idea and we talked about it

>>41923195
yeah unless you look like a total hon trying to girlmode it doesn't really come to mind that you could be not cis for most