Being a cism is hardmode in the dating world, AMA
>>41924403cis gay men seem to do fine
>>41924403How the fuck is it hard, you no NOTHING about my straight transcel life
>>41924403It’s one of the hard modes, sure. The cishetero paradigm and the gender roles that formed around it were all made for a different world. It is a pretty huge disadvantage for cis and trans women that they have to worry about their safety, but cis women typically have the social advantages in dating aside from that one big thing. I additionally think that men’s concerns are dismissed too easily, but the whole gender war discourse is toxic and that includes a lot of stupid men underestimating how hard women have it in kind.Basically, I see you cis man. I know that it is indeed tough, I empathize and I want to help. The comparative stuff is just kinda petty though
>>41924443In the same way that cis straight men seem to do fine.You only see the top crust of them everywhere, most of them are getting nothing or 1-2 chances in their life, the only notable difference for gays is they're less likely to be virgins since if they have no standards it's not that hard to get laid. But gay men are no less shallow and jaded as partners on average they just have different priorities. Gay men want guys to be physically attractive and fit, straight women want guys to support and provide for them. That's not to say gays don't like if you can afford to treat them well and that women don't have physical traits they like. But their top priorities are laid out the way I've described, plenty of women date slobs because they provide and plenty of gay men date beautiful but useless men. There's exceptions, but you can't build a good dating strategy on exceptions and even if you do, that would be an individual strategy, you can't apply it on the large scale which is where men end up with the short straw.The added issues people like >>41924732 may be struggling with is that your self-identity doesn't have a significant impact on your experience or success rate.Your presentation does, but that is judged by others, not yourself.
