>be me mtf>zero steps taken to start transition aside from therapy>30 years old working for Fortune 500 giant corporation>5’6 attractive as a male>gets told by 20 year olds I look 18>B2B outside sales>finally ready to transition after a decade of repping >terrified I’ll be ostracized by coworkers and not be taken seriously by potential clientsHas anyone transitioned in the corporate world?How did it go?
>>41979872I'm in the middle of this right now. I've rotted my brain by HRTrepping and it's an open secret that I'm a tranny but I still can't come out for some reason. I literally wore a dress to the office Halloween party and people asked me if they should call me a different name and I just said "Aaaahhh it's complicated..."
>>41979872i really hate this picture
>>41979872accept that you won't be taken seriously. If your work is good people won't care who you are.
I'm at your stage and same age. I think it's just shitty and you suffer. Obviously try to reach out to an affirming care specialist to see if they can help you find affordable ffs.
I'm kekking at wagie pain
>>41979872if youre working with mainly gen x, most wont understand what being trans really means, a good chunk of the rest will probably not even bother to change anything even if you ask nicely or repeatedly, and the few others will actually be respectful towards you.if youre working in sales with external customers, that's probably a lot more iffy than if you were just interacting with Deb from Accounting.
>>41979898same boat anonI don't hide who I am, nobody really cares but that somehow makes it harder to make things official. There is no process or anything. I guess if I wanted to come out I would speak to my manager and he would send out an email announcing my identity change to 100 people who frankly barely know me. It just feels like a stupid thing to do.
>>41979898Have people treated you different since the Halloween party? That took a lot of confidence right there!I know have the people in the office are transphobic. Only because there is no one trans. Obviously if there was a trans person they would have to fake it for HR. I have coworkers that are guys that look up to me and are cool with me and I can’t imagine how that’s going to change.Especially with my shitty girls voice. I’m trying but it sucks so hard
>>41980032Not really? I had some people that already knew but it's weird. I've been kinda fagmoding for a while but I still feel like I'm mostly treated like a dude. Coworkers I didn't interact with much did she/her me on sight in the dress though they he/him me on sight normally. It was very odd.
>>41980011Yeah I'm so fucked up about disrupting communication that workplace and family are by far the hardest spots to like, try and make changes. My family knows I'm a tranny and isn't weird about it but I get panic attacks at the idea of asking them to refer to me differently because of how hard I tried to be "the good son."
>>41979872idk im manmoding rn and get side eye'd by all the other trannies because they know whats up. i really hate the idea of having to tell people "please call me by my tranny name" because i look like shit so i would be an obvious hon. i would make all the women uncomfortable in the restrooms but also would be discouraged from using the mens rooms. there are single occupancy all gender bathrooms but they are so far from my desk that walking to them feels a bit like a humiliation ritual. i hate this shit. its not even a super formal dress environment so when i do eventually come out ill be dressed the almost exactly the same (jeans + flannels)
>>41979872You dont. You simply lead a double life like many before you.
>>41979872not exactly the same but i worked at one of the big4 (in their head office in france, so a pretty large office all things considered and rather conservative work culture in the sense that you've less of the DEI stuff) for two years as a junior and i was still very much a babytrans when i started there, i was a year and a bit on HRT and voice trained but i was quite new to girlmoding and definitely didn't completely pass yet though i put respectable effort into my appearance. i never really openly labeled myself as trans but there was probably a bit of a "don't ask don't tell" thing going on, i reckon people suspected but just didn't talk about it openly. my immediate team was cool with me, no misgendering or anything. i occasionally got a bit of a weird vibe from other people around the office, felt like i heard people talk about me or whatever but nothing major.all in all i was respected so long as my work was good, i didn't feel like i was treated unfairly. that being said balancing early transition and the mental health challenges it brings with working in a demanding corporate job got quite hard and i did eventually burn out. after leaving i took a year off working to recover and figure out transition stuff, then got a job with a smaller corp that sent me abroad (eastern EU) as an expat for a year, used that time to get surgery and improve myself. 29 now and finally passing pretty well and i've decided to stay on over here because i like it, gonna start over at a new corp in a different role in january. nervous but excited.so tl;dr try and stay in your current role for a few years, do as much transition stuff as you can then try to move on somewhere else for a clean slate is my advice. best of luck anon.
Trying to freeze my sperm next week so I can finally start estrogen and blockers. Such a pain in the ass.
>>41980303good luck anon, i got kicked out of big 4 earlier this year and it has been fantastic moving to a comfy senior industry job. it's def for the best to just get the experience and leave (they also paid $50k for my ffs right before i left lol)
>>41980892yeah having that big4 experience is great, recruiters brought it up in both of the jobs i've gotten since. i got up-or-outed because i just wasn't really fancying being a manager and anyway i was desperate to get out of paris for lifestyle reasons. some people i knew stayed at the company and moved up the ladder and i don't think their pay has increased all that much considering how much their workload has.>(they also paid $50k for my ffs right before i left lol)based, congrats nona. :) the perks and benefits aren't as good in france as they are in the US but the severance paid for my BA so i'm not too put out lol
>>41979872i trooned out as an office worker in a megacorp and yeah it sucks. they send out an email to a shitload of people you don't know and your life becomes a humiliation ritual for a bit. its good though, puts pressure on you to improve. if HR is good, nobody will bother you about it and eventually you just become the office tranny. I stuck it out at a place with moderate turnover and ascended to twinkhon status (best ill get until ffs unfortunately) so most people on my team just think of me like the office twinkhon and never knew better. im planning on leaving when i get FFS in a year.>B2B outside salesrip, hope this doesn't affect your ratesTLDR: you will be miserable for about a year but its worth it
>>41981075What’s was the humiliation ritual like? I know my HR is really good about making sure everyone is “nice”. When did you make the switch to girlmoding? I wear a suit to the office now and can’t imagine the what it would be like post regional-wide email to start showing up looking completely different. And trying to just be normal
>>41982186sure everyone is nice but its weird, you'll get a lot of slip ups with people worried you'll go full trannyrage on them. im lucky and there are some single-occupancy rooms at my work but i imagine it would have been worse if not.my advice is to go for it but not actually expect people to treat you like a woman. in the workplace social transition is less about people seeing you fo r who you are vs not fucking up your voice training/mannerisms/preventing you from dressing better etc. eventually people rotate in/out and it gets less weird. personally i never acknowledged any slipups (as in i responded to deadname when said on accident) and did my best to go about as normal with pretty solid success
>>41979872>salesCursed. Being a sales tranny is one of the shittier lots in life. I wish I has followed my heart and gotten a psychology degree instead of trapping myself in this hellish business unit that's entirely about making yourself and your product appealing to other people. Not a fun career for a tranny to have
>>41982326Yeah I imagine it’s going to be kinda weird, especially our office meeting with 30+ people where I’m forced to talk. Thankfully we have single occupancy too.I honestly don’t expect people to be a whole lot different. I feel like I’m going to be okay with slip-ups I know people aren’t perfect. Do you feel like transitioning at work kind of changed peoples perspective on trans people in any way? I’m hoping people just still see me as a human in a sense. And not some weirdo
>>41982482How has it been in sales, are you over the phone or in person? I’m really good at both right now but I already know the optics are probably going to wreck my shit as soon as I’m out, or at least androgynous
>41979872>Zero stepsWait until you are a year into hrt and have longer hair and small boobs then tell them. Its better to wait until its obvious then to surprise them and get pitied. Just come out to hr first then let ur boss/coworkers know after
>>41979872>zero steps taken to start transition aside from therapySpotted the problem
>>41982558I finally accepted that I’m trans. Been fighting it my entire life until this year
Perhaps you can create another tranny LinkedIn profile and apply to other positions as a tranny. And if they hire you with better salary, move. I think it's easier than to transition baby n your current position
>>41982583Congrats baby. Repping isn't life.I'm in the same boat
>>41982583I bet you'll become a giga passoid and mog us all
>>41982664I hope everyone ends up a gigapassoid.
>>41979872I transitionned at 26 while working a corpo job. Realized I was trans in may, started hormones in july and came out to my workplace in september. It was a rather small company (~30 people max) so I just sent an email saying that I'm transitionning and that my new pronouns are she and name is anonette. I also talked with HR/IT about changing my mail address and account name. That's pretty much it. LGBT acceptance in the company was good, though it was still kind of awkward at first I do have to admit. But since I was doing this for survival I didn't gaf about some people feeling mild discomfort about it. Ultimately I was right and I'm happy about what I did. If I had to do it again I would maybe choose my clothes more wisely at first, but I can't blame myself too much. Also do keep track of how it goes and what people say to you in case of discrimination.
>>41982752This seems crazy fast. How did you get on the hormone train so quickly?
>>41982545what a cowardif you don't have trust and confidence in yourself you won't get anywhere in life>>41982780It was in Belgium, they have an informed consent policy where you basically walk in, hear the consequences of your decision and they give you hormonesthe trick is that they don't give you enough of them so it's basically placebo until you ask for more a couple of months after. In the end it amounts to the same as more restrictive countries
>>41982673God has spared me, he only gives me nightmare difficulty
>>41982832Oh no I moreso meant like, psychologically. I spent like a year improving every other avenue of my life before actually starting hormones just to *really* make sure, despite having already repped previously.
>>41979872>5’6 >attractive as a malelol. lmao even
>>41982908The cutest guy in my office is a 5'4" otter. It's not hard to be attractive as a short guy.
>>41982832>What a coward>Lives in Belgium.You transitioned in a office in a queer country. I transitioned in a factory in the south. Your "courage" mean nothing to me.
>>41982938>BelgiumI was born on the streets of Birmingham, the most deprived, god forsaken ahitholein europe, east and west.Belgium is babys first day out. I bet that anon hasnt even been spat on once, let alone put in a coma after being attacked
>>41979872I just quit and started working somewhere else. Twice.
>>41983174I trooned out while working here, you don't even want to know what all those big strong men did to me
>>41982832So you think the best idea is to come out as trans at the beginning of taking HRT? Before any noticeable effects?
>>41983655Maybe i do wanna know
No but I tried to boymode while working public sector and got identified as a trans woman very quickly where it was suggested I come out. Then covid happened and I went into my next job as a boy, but realized there was no point especially given my voice passed decently. I was given paperwork to change my name within the organization by my manager.
>>41985425Forced to transition against yo will
>>41979872do normal shitif you pass you'll get diversity bonus points but only if all the HR people like youjust make sure you do your job and are affable enough to your direct coworkers. If the only problem people have with you is that you're trans then you're either an ogre or it's not an issue at all
>>41985425Goals. I don't look femme at all so I imagine once I finally get ffs I will still be manmoding.
There is not one but two gorillahons in my division for a fortune 500 company
>>41987353How do people treat them in person vs behind their backs?
>>41982858well when I realized I was trans in kinda clicked. I had been crossdressing for easily a decade, had identified as agp and then as a sissy and realizing I was trans made it all make sense. It made future desirable for me, so I was very sure of myself when doing it.>>41982938>>41983174if coming out in your environment/work will put you in danger don't do it. If the only fear you have is embarrassment and people being mean to you but no physical/financial harm, than do it. It's unfair but that's how the world is>>41985074you don't need hrt to be trans. You're a woman because you are. See response above about self preservation ^in order to be happy as a trans woman you will have to stop worrying about what people think anyway, so you might as well start as soon as you can.
>>41982832>>41989979>comes out after only a few months HRT when you look the same>while being hondosed>pronouns in bio>sent a company-wide email>agp sissy>you don't need hormones to be a womanI would like to thank you hon anon. Trainwrecks like you make me look so much better as a tranny in the corporate world
>>41992258I’m definitely going to go the route of starting HRT and then coming out after it’s obvious. I want people to start to notice changes and start questioning within themselves if I look different before it gets internally publicized that I’m a tranny
>>41979872this picture means you're malebrained and probably a gigahon please don't transition :(
>>41993392Coming out is, generally speaking, mostly unnecessary. Change your name if you must but I wouldn't go any further than that if you can take it. Making it a thing just puts a target on you and is basically inviting others to treat you weirdly. To me, declaring you're a transsexual is as pointless as saying that you're gay. Just not relevant to your work.
