When I started hrt, I told myself that I would stop boymoding when I started consistently male failing.>4 years hrt>0 malefailsHow over is it? It doesn't seem fair that there are other mtfs who have been on her less time than me and already look like women. It's not fair that there are cis tomboys and ftms who dress and act more masculine than me but still get read as women. I feel so hopeless.
>>42000722wish I could manmode still
>>42000722Some cis women still can just pass as male if they have nothing feminine on them and they dress like men, even if they're not the tomboys you know, if it makes you feel better.One of the things that sucks about being a woman is the compulsory femininity.
>>42000722do you voicetrain? is your "boymoding" big black hoodie and women's jeans or is your boymoding like zelda tee and khaki shorts? do you have long hair? do you act femininely? do you leave your house enough to get gendered consistently at all? i dont wanna say your fault your fault your fault, i do feel bad for you, but if you're not doing more than just hrt then please start doing those things and see if anything changes. you might be surprised
>>42000722I can't really scold anyone on this because I'm essentially doing the FTM equivalent of this, and I'm not sure exactly how to word this, but gender presentation is one of those things that is best learned by doing it. We don't know your situation, and you shouldn't put yourself into any unneccesary danger, but enduring some discomfort while getting a hold and establishing yourself to the world as a more authentic version of yourself is usually worth it. I second >>42000832Great motivation for me to get off my ass and finally start living as myself.
>>42000832>do you leave your house enough to get gendered consistently at all?Thank you!I wish more would just get this message more often. So many trannies are just shut-ins. Many (most?) were shut-ins before transitioning too.Transition helps with some things, but can't cure agoraphobia and this persistent tendency of letting intrusive negative thoughts win without a fight.>>42000722Get out of the house. Behave femininely in public for real. Voice train.The first time I malefailed was about 2 months into consistent voicetraining. And it was almost 4 years hrt.Visited passoid territory only 6 years in and after ffs.HRT can't do all the work for you, nona
>>42000955>gender presentation is one of those things that is best learned by doing itIt's a skill like all the others.My dad scolded me for terrible social skills in my teens. "Fake it till you make it" he kept on shouting.He was right. Took 3 years and I learned to love being sociable, not just do it right. Then applied the same to gender presentation. Slightly harder, but it worked.
>>42000832>>42000969I've voice trained and my friends tell me my voice is cispassing. I've had long hair my whole life. I think the main thing holding me back is my 6'2 height. I live in a redneck area, so it wouldn't be safe for me to honmode, but I do try to be feminine. I get called "sir" basically every time I'm in public.
>>42001012>6'2 heightDeeply unfortunate.Here in Europe I usually tell girls like that to consider moving to the Netherlands or Lithuania. At 6'2'' you're just slightly above the average in Netherlands. At 5'6'' I was gendered female even in boymode a year into hrt there haha> my friends tell me my voice is cispassing>I get called "sir" basically every time I'm in publicThen it's probably not cispassing.>so it wouldn't be safe for me to honmodeI honmoded in rural Poland. Our rednecks were far harsher. What helped a lot was that I never had unusual hair colors. Or weird piercings.Also, serious question: did you lose height on hrt? I lost almost 3cm (1.2 inch?)Ngl, your height is an issue. But it can be overcome with compensating and moving into an area where you don't stand out as a control watchtower.
