Hi /lgbt/, I (27 mtf) have an issue with my current bf (27 cism) I've been dating for 4 years. We met in college and began seeing each other 6mo after I had srs, then became exclusive 8mo after. My issue is that I told him I had a body count of 7 prior to us being exclusive because I wanted to seem as experienced as he was. In reality, he is the one who took my virginity because I was too ashamed of my anatomy prior to srs to sleep with anyone else and never felt the need when we were just seeing each other.Recently we were discussing Sinners which has a lot of mention of cunnilingus which I thought was hot and he said I didn't have any recent experience of doing it, which reminded me I told him in the past I ate a girl out on a solo trip while we werent exclusive (it was actually just heavy petting).Now we have lived together for 3 years and settled down. We've talked a lot about life goals and are in alignment so I will likely marry him. I'd be happy to never mention my fake sexual past again since theres no way he could prove I lied, but it still feels bad to keep a secret like this. Do I tell him he is the only person I've slept with?
>>42044691Don't tell. You just make him doubt everything you say, for a good reason desu
>>42044691>>42044751lol i have the exact same problem. Told him when we were still just writing and havent met irl that i had sex just once before with a guy in a major city to not seem ugly or smth. Told him the dude gave me wine and stuff in his airbnb and then we had sex but in reality, I was the one that booked the airbnb and i ate indian food in a jacuzzi and watched iasip all night.we've been together for 3y now and i feel like if i tell him now, he will think i'm lying or smth and that I'm hiding something worse
>>42044691telling your boyfriend you were actually a virgin and he took it is actually a huge mega good idea literally nothing can possibly go wrong I am not even trying to be sarcastic, guys love that shit knowing the girl is theirs and only theirs
>>42044751>>42044823>>42044897Thank you for the advice anons, I’ve never lied to him before so idk how he would react even if he would like the idea of being the only one and as far as I know he hasn’t lied to me. I’ll probably keep it to myself, not worth opening up that pandoras box
>>42045087you opened pandora's box the moment you decided to lie. Now it's just a matter of whether you want to invest the energy to keep up the lie and what the ultimate payoff for doing so is. Or rather, whether you believe the possibility of you spilling the beans down the line is likely and if the fallout of that event is an acceptable risk as opposed to just coming clean early on.I will say from my experience a relationship can tank a lot of imperfection on both ends IF you have good communication. Keeping secrets is not good communication.
Nona ur blowing this crazy out of proportionhonestly if its seriously eating u up inside for some reason just tell him you wanted him to think you were cool but actually ur less sexually experiencedhe thinks oh score shes actually more pure and wanted to look cool thats cute and considering this is like the only white lie you've told it won't be a big deal especially since you two are getting ready to consider marriagetell him or dont lol this lie has like no upkeep anyways
