How do I get over absolutely fucking HATING how I look in candid photos? It looks like literally a completely different person from who I see in the mirror. Am I that mentally ill that I have completely deluded myself into thinking I look presentable?I just got a thank you card in the mail from a wedding I attended and therein was quite possibly the WORST photo of myself I have ever seen: at night, in the wind, weird angle, flash photo, and it literally just looks like a man in a dress. Is that what I authentically look like? It literally looks like a completely different human being than what I mentally associate with myself, and while I obviously suffer with the same crippling self esteem and self image issues as anyone else here, I honest to go thought that maybe I do in fact pass.It's so fucking over. It's SO fucking over. Holy fuck I'm actually going to sob. I can't wrap my head around how I look so fucking ghoulish in photos others take vs what I see in mirrors or photos I have taken. It's incomprehensible. This is like, what Lovecraft meant with eldritch horror, I wasn't supposed to know. I wasn't supposed to see myself like this, it is forbidden, maddening. Why couldn't they have just sent a thank you card without the most horrific photo I've ever seen of myself.
>>42048326candid pictures are moments in time, same as posed pictures. you probably look better than the worst of the worst but also probably not as good as you do in your own mind.get used to taking shitty angles with bad lighting and expose yourself to different perspectives
>>42048380trve, also even cis women hate candids of them
>>42048380>>42048388Right but it's not like, just looking unflattering, it's literally a whole different human being in the image
>>42048413that honestly sounds liike body dysmorphic disorder, you should probably talk to a therapist
>>42048653Is this the same person
>>42048896looks like it, one is just more unflattering because it's an unstaged candid
>>42048917It makes me sad that the body language of the photo is clearly communicating I don't want a photo taken and yet a photo was not only taken and then sent to me.I feel very sad about this because it has successfully made me feel fucking horrible about myself just as I sort of started feeling less horrible about myself.
