Man/womanTop/bottomDom/SubSeme/UkeAll of these just mask the core relationship duo. That one is the uglier yet stronger provider and leader type, and the other is the pretty one. The uglier one in the relationship has value perhaps through strength, prohaps through monetary means or just the will to take control. The pretty one must concern themselves with staying attractive, to maintain their value and keep the ugly one interested. You see it in every piece of media, the pursuer and the object of desire- that's another way to frame it.Two pretties might try for a time but will inevitably try to outcompete each other and it will end in jealousy. Two uglies can try, but their eyes will wander, their relationship will feel more like a friendship with more touch but each will yearn for an object of desire.But if you understand that this is the basis of all romatic and sexual relationships, and what your role is in it, you will navigate life much more easily.
>>42060079How do you explain dom/sub relationships where the woman is the dom?
>Two pretties might try for a time but will inevitably try to outcompete each other and it will end in jealousy.My only counterpoint to this is that usually one pretty puts in the effort to be the desirer and make their partner feel desired but then starts to feel sad and resentful because the other pretty doesn't do the same back. "Teehee I'm a bottom therefor I'm supposed to receive all the nice parts about a relationship such as getting adored, I'm not self centered it's just my hardwired nature!". I was in disbelief when a lesbian author wrote about this in the 90s and explained that this is a major cause of "lesbian bed death", the "top" grew resentful and sad over never being objectified and the "bottom" is all teehee I'm a woman though :(. The only reason this doesn't happen in hetero dynamics is because of men doing anything for a crumb of pussy and it would be kind of gay for a man to tell his gf "you never play with my butt or grope me like you're horny".
>>42060079The basis of all romantic relationships is love. Any alternative can only survive under at very least the false pretense of it. Love is the ideal and the goal, most attempts fail, but without the potential for love they would never be attempted.It's an unknowable madness and you can't plan around it, you can only accept it or reject it.
>>42061594wisdom and truth>>42060079my cis gf is strong and a leader and chases me, i make money and stay pretty to keep her interested. she's also drop dead gorgeous. we're united in love.
>>42061594>>42062114It's funny how the LGBT community bitches so much about comphet, and then they do shit like OP and attempt to force people into roles they don't agree with, demand they should be attracted to people they aren't attracted to. The problem is it's not an isolated issue even.
>Two uglies can try, but their eyes will wander, their relationship will feel more like a friendship with more touch but each will yearn for an object of desire.I know so many men and women in this situation and I don't know if there's a good solution.
i don't understand why pretties are supposed to outcompete each other. for what? male attention? you're literally gay, you already have each other.t. got broken up with for being too fem with another fem who "wanted to be the girl in the relationship"
>>42062754>Why can't it be yang and yang?
>>42060079the greeks called this the erastes and the eromenos (lover and beloved) so maybe there's some truth to thisbut they were pederasts so maybe not
>>42062782pederasty is good
>>42061076man is trauma soiwoman is trauma dom, usually the sadistic type that's not mentally nor emotionally competent to be a good domnta
>>42060079internalised misandry
