Are there any books or other media about straight trans women detrooning and going back to dating gay men and being a part of the gay community, and what that feels like?
Generally speaking based on what I've observed, a full on detransition is usually accompanied by an aesthetic of accepting depression as a natural state of being and sometimes vitriol toward others, (i.e. rampant christfaggotry).But if you're curious, there is an essay about a hetero trans woman detransitioning, it's called "Faggot as Gender Identity, Detransition as Suicide by Rani Baker, who detransed sometime in the 90s, retransed in 2014 and then killed herself in 2023. I found it very moving. Life is always complicated i guess.
>>42098619Hmm I mean ideally I'd like to read something where someone felt positively about detrans - it just wasn't right for them vs them feeling forced into it.
>>42098567Oh also I detransitioned myself for 10 years and also retransitioned, if you want my take on how it felt: it was liberating at first for 6 months or so and then began to be more and more characterized by dissociation. Spent the last 5 years of my detransition mostly celibate and online only. I am doing a lot better now and have had my SRS.
Sounds like a vag bro kind of thing
>>42098644I mean someone who actually gained something out of the process of detransition and transing was a mistake for them.
>>42098636I just meant i think it's more complicated in terms of narrative than "right or wrong." Like there is a lot of liberation in detransition in some ways but it definitely comes with some baggage and trade offs that tend to manifest in the long run. there are some aggressively happy detransers, i know of one on IG, but it's extremely Christian and built around lifestyle marketing. Also the person was married to the same woman through their whole transition and detransition. Forget the name of the account though but I could look it up.
>>42098636I wanted to write one!!!I have a character who tries to tell his mom he killed somebody and it goes so badly he ends up falsely “coming out” as trans because that’s easier in the moment. He starts girlmoding at a new school and it’s totally wrong for him, but it keeps being inconvenient to change his mind (he’s cast in the school play, this is his chance to prove himself…)Anyway toward the climax he finally realizes he needs to quit both theater and this bullshit and becomes a man
>>42098684well like why can't detransition be an experience that was right for you, rather than just a step on a road to an eventual retrans or suicide?
>>42098775Because people don't just troon out in the first place willy nilly. People that detroon do it because trooning is making their life too difficult, or they can't deal with never passing, etc. You don't just "try out" medical transition. The closest thing you're going to get to a happy "it wasn't for me" story is someone who experiments with gender presentation a bit while not taking any medical intervention and eventually deciding they're comfortable in themselves.
>>42098827maybe it made them appreciate their cis sexuality moreunless, someone or something is pushing people to be trans so that's not really possible?
>>42098567its about a transbian but close enough
>>42098827Sometimes they just want to have a vagina
>>42098567I hope not
>>42098881Like I said, the only people I've seen who simply appreciate their cis sexuality more for stopping something are people that do temporary measures like change dress or otherwise express differently for a bit and decide it's not right for them. If you do hormones, you're going to realize pretty quick if you prefer that or you'd rather stop, not get years into it and then decide it just wasn't right for you. Detransitioning at that point is going to be due to other factors, so it's just more about begrudging acceptance at that point.>>42098889I actually watched that recently. I interpreted it as the experience being so traumatic that it just wasn't worth it. I suppose someone could take away a different message, though.>>42098921Is that really the same as detrooning?
