I have this fear that someone is giving subtle signs they do not want to have sex and that afterwards I will be a rapist. No means no and I wouldn't ever try after the first no, wouldn't pressure somebody, wouldn't try to get with someone drunk etc. However I am socially stunted and don't read people like at all so I think it's inevitable someone's body language will say no even though they said yes and then afterwards I go to prison. During sex I feel like a cold blooded terminator, not in a cool way I'm just autistic One time I had a girlfriend and we were in bed watching stuff. I put her hand on my crotch and started groping her boob and she told me she didn't feel like it. I was like "oh my bad" and stopped and then she started apologizing like 5 times. My heart started racing and it felt like she was trying to convert me into a rapist pressuring her even though I was cool with not having sex and was trying to show I didn't mind.
>>42099833Trannies are men and like rape
>>42099833I mean, I lost my virginity after a guy kept repeatedly asking for sex while we were cuddling even though I told him I probably shouldn't do it. I don't think that was rape.
>>42100190some wouls consider it rape, you could have gotten him charged for it
>>42099833you know you can ask during sex as well right? just say sth like "you like it?" and if they say yes then everything is coolio
>>42100300the last time i tried this she said it ruined the mood and then ghosted me so now i just go for it
>>42100254It sounds really disingenuous to do that to him, though. This is the same thing people complain about with the whole "she decided she didn't like it after so she called it rape the next day"
>>42100680well then thats her problem. but also it depends on how you ask. mm actually no, i cant think of a way someone would ask my consent which would be unsexy. maybe only if youre really shy. but just asking "do you like it?" and getting a "yes" is fine. if she really thinks consent is unsexy then she has her own problems.
>>42099833Do you have obsessive compulsive disorder?
>>42101218I don't know, I guess if I told this thread to a psychiatrist I could see if they diagnose it
>>42099833there's nothing wrong with trying to initiate sex with someone you're in a relationship even if you end up not having sex because someone is too tired or wahtever
>>42101023it hasn't risen to the point i'd break up over it or even mention it but i've definitely been asked enough times that it felt a little odd and could definitely imagine someone going overboard especially if he's insecure like OPbut most likely that's like I needed to adjust position a bit and he didn't know what the problem was and wanted to make sure so it felt weird to me since it was nothing but why be mad at him for asking
>>42099833i maintain that if you're stupid enough to allow yourself to get 'raped' you deserve it. you deserve to be 'raped' until you stop letting people 'rape' you. how fucking hard is it to say "no."so if you ever do do this, op, i'd have to say all you'd deserve is a pat on the back.
>>42105214when i was raped they used a drug to get me to say yes or i assume because before i didn't want to have sex and i don't remember afteris that still my fault?
>>42099833not to be the medicalfag who diagnooooses but you might have some sort of ocd. i have it and im extremely afraid of being creepy and it ruins my life
>>42105242idk what the drug is, or if you consented to taking it, or if you said yes during sex, so i can't say really, can i? but the way you're putting it it sounds pretty suspicious yeah.i'm mostly talking about the stories you hear online where the girl never gives any real indication she's not into it and just lets the guy have sex with her. by her own account.
>>42099833If you were a rapist, you wouldn't have stopped and respected her boundaries.
>>42105286i think it was put into my drink but i don't know what it wasi don't know if i said yes either
>>42099833Just setup a safeword before fugging and dont do it outside of long-term relationships.Dont plow drunk people either but that's jist for your own good. Anyone can claim rape if they were boozed when you shagged and they can bring that up 5 years after the fact if you get money-rich or influential in any way and ruin your life.
>>42099833a rapist is someone who doesn't listen when their partner says "I don't feel like it" or "stop". Subtle signs are irrelevant and missing them doesn't make you a rapist. If someone genuinely didn't want to continue having sex, they would say so in explicit terms.
>>42101023so true asking for consent is like the hottest thing ever yes make me ask for it make me tell you i want it holy shit
>>42099833People who are raped often make consent really unsexily explicit. They will ask. They will make it very clear. And that's fine.Sex is supposed to be fun. For both parties. If you need explicit consent to be comfortable, do it. It is merely an affectation about a fairy tale psychic connection that makes people in this culture biased against explicitly asking for consent. If you make a habit of explicitly asking for consent, you will be more right than most people in this culture.
