>be me>19, girly boy>have a big christmas party at my place >we’re all pretty drunk>people staying over>not enough room so i try to make sure everyone comfortable >tell my childhood friend he can sleep in my bed with me since he suffers from back pains>wake up next morning to him spooning me>before i can do anything i feel him kiss my neck>he’s got a death grip on me so i awkwardly pry myself out of his arms>try to avoid him by cleaning up while being super hungover >have been ignoring him since the partywhat do i do guys? i’ve suspected he has a thing for me for a while now, but this just confirms it. worst part is physically he is attractive, tall n muscular n such. but i’ve known this guy since we were 10 and our families are friends, and i don’t think our personalities would match in a relationship or anything, it just feels weird
just fuck him and get it over with baka
why not see if it is something you enjoy? childhood friend bf is so hot honestly i think you don’t realize what you’re missing
>>42110097>>42110102first of all as i said i dont think our personalities woukd go well together.. hes a little dense, some woukd say a himbo LOL and that’s not rly my thing.. plus our families our friends and his parents are SUPER homophobic too. and his vibe/style isn’t something i’d look for in a man too.. i just wanna know how to let him down guys T-T
you let him sleep in your bed.there's no way that you are retarded enough to have not comprehended the implications of that.stop lying to yourself and fuck your friend already anon.
>>42110139i only did it cause he was the first to go to sleep and that he’s told me about his back issues before so i felt bad making him sleep on a couch or the floor :p
>>42110201mhm.you want him anon.
>>42110083apologize for being weird and agree to go on a date with him so you can bone for real next time
>>42110083it sounds like you have a new bf?>>42110201but then later you climbed in with him?
>>42110210>>42110213why is everyone insisting i want him T-T i dont wanna fuck him im not into him and itd make things way weirder is this just what you guys wish id do if yo were the guy in question?
>>42110249well it’s my fucking bed and i needed to sleep too.. plus was mega mega drunk like i can barely even remember most of that night except me and my friends all swapped outfits a lot of times i got some real good girly pics of me on a digicam too LOL..
>>42110257since none of the chasers will give you an answer besides fuck him; you have a couple options depending on your situation. First off maybe don't even bring it up at all...you could both silently chalk it up to a drunk mistake. Otherwise, you could just straight up lie and say you're not gay, if you're not out or it's plausible. And if you have to flat out address it; say exactly what you said here but with more tact. He's your close friend, you like him as one, but don't think your personalities would work / don't see him in a romantic light. Maybe say like he is a brother to you if you really wanna drive it home. Friendzone tf out of him in the kindest way possible. GL, I hope this resolves the way you want it to <3
>>42110268you don't sound like a boy to me...
>>42110296awww thank you for being nice n giving good advice, definitely can’t use the straight card LOL i’m wayyy past the point of no return im very open n stuff. i suppose ill have to address it because our families usually spend new years together too so better to get rid of the awkwardness now.. i just don’t wanna be mean or anything yknow?
>>42110321i am a boy! boy boy boy! sorry anon i may be able to pull off being a girl but i still enjoy being a cute feminine boy!
>>42110083cute>>42110333sure, just get on hrt before you twinkdie
>>42110342SHUTUPSBUTUPSHUTUPSBUTUPPPP SHUSH.. i’m very aware of what can (and will) happen.. don’t frighten me more..
>>42110363so start it then retard! do you wanna still look cute and girly when youre 35, or a BALD, HAIRY, FAT, MMMAAAAAANNNNNNN
>>42110363What scares you the most about it?
>>42110370okay i know hrt slows aging but at 35? don’t most people look “past their prime” then? it’s pure luck by then..>>42110378uhhh probably like dadbod getting fat type thing and of course the hairline luckily no baldies in my family but the hairlines ain’t great…
>>42110419Dadbod can be prevented through good self care and diet. Hair issues can be prevented through Finasteride/Dutasteride.
>>42110448hmmm perhaps i will look into it.. i mean i do like having a softer more fragile look but i guess that’s something that wears away with everyone :p
>>42110468I mean estrogen does maintain that but it also grows boobs.
>>42110363
>>42110487hmm yes i know i know anyways back to the topic at hand WTF DO I DOOOO abt this situation pls anons i need actual answers here
>>42110515you can be honest but also not mean/blunt. 42110296 already gave you a good answer.
>>42110515sigh nothing that can be done its already over you need to marry him now sorry
>>42110542oki oki yeah but like how should i bring it up? is it an in person thing? or over text? he keeps sending me stuff on instagram and tiktok and acting like nothing happened but agghhh yknow?>>42110546PFTTT shush i asked for honest answers anon smhsmh im NAWT marrying him T-T
>>42110554Kiss him at the altar!
>>42110566stawpppp T-T xD he’s not even my type i prefer uhhh guys who are older than me and maybe more traditionally masculine guys too
>>42110554you gotta address this kinda thing in person, one on one, but dont make it the only thing you focus on/do at that time. i think you should hang out together before new years (in public) and when youre not within earshot of other people, bring it up and tell him basically what you said here but also be sure to listen to him too.what would you do if he confessed his love for you and said he'd fix all the things you dont like about him? what if pushes back and says youre wrong about him? or if he breaks down? you gotta think about those things as possibilities
>>42110579That's why you make him your husband!
>>42110590aaaaa so many like things that could go awry yeah i didn’t even consider that.. i don’t think he’d break down in public he’s not really the type, though i could see him getting quiet.. if he confesses and says he’ll fix the things that are wrong i guess id remind him that yknow our families are friends and ive known him since i was 10.. he wouldnt push back and say im wrong cause hes not the type to.. >>42110598SHUSUHH HAHA let it rest anon you’re just showing your fantasies now..
>>42110615Yes I am because I didn't get to be a faggot growing up (yaaay religion) so I project the past I wish I had onto others.
>>42110083Just be fwb. If you end up dating it is what it is
>>42110631oh damn.. i’m sorry to hear that anon :(>>42110639LOL fwb NEVER ends well especially if he wants romantic stuff xD
>>42110639sounds gay.
I think you gotta at least fuck first to see if he’s packing
>>42110201you're literally retarded if you don't know the implications of him saying "I have back issues" as a way to get into your bed. Have sex with him and get it over with
i think op should have sex with his dad
>>42111015OKAY maybe im a lil stupid sometimes.. but i wouldn’t think he’d lie about it? he’s talked about it before not just then so yeah.. >>42111047WTF HAHAHAH im NOT fucking my dad bros a meanie and a hater
>>42110083threaten to kill him if he fucks with you again and start carrying a knifeif you don't do this he'll rape you
>>42111047classic
>>42111127I have a chinese father.he's ostracized and ostracizes literally 100% of every single other family member of mine and my mom died of lung cancer 2 years ago.and YOURE FUCKING CCOMPLAINING???
>>42111172that’s a lil hardcore man this guy is like harmless he’s a big bumbling boy.. not much goes on in his head LOL>>42111332ahhh im sorry to hear that anon, in the grand scheme of things my dad isn’t the worst, but yeah i guess you have it worse than me:p
>>42110083>girly boy You are not a girly boy. The reason I know this is cuz every actual girly boy I know understands that other men don’t view them entirely as dudes, so they keep themselves safe like how women do. Think of it like this: if u were a woman woild u let a random dude sleep in your bed with u? Even if it’s a childhood friend. Thats just inappropriate. You’re a normal dude. Chill out.
>>42111393he may just be autistic lmao
>>42111393but who decides what's appropriate?the only truth i've learned is that the world we live in is a giant tinderbox— and all it takes is the will of a single women to light the match.i pray for this communist shithole i live in called Vancouver I really do. But god damn. This shit is so fucking painful, it's such a bubble-state. It's the stuff of fucking ""Dreams"" and i don't mean it lightly. I don't mean to steer away but fuck I don't really know.Why the hell did i even visit japan and then not get a single grade thus far in college.It's like I want this shit to keep happenin'If only i did drugs. I really don't. like i don't do literally any.
>>42111449Are you on the spectrum? There’s the only other explanation for all of this. If you liked him you’d admit it. If you dislike him this thread wouldn’t Be here or would take a different turn. But my main point still stands. You’re not a girly boy. You’re just a boy. You got boy hips and boy thighs and a boy face.
>>42111393i mean, im rather feminine in appearance, but girlyness isn’t binary, it’s more of a spectrum don’t you think? and ontop of that i was drunk, very drunk… which inhibits decision making skills.. i wouldn’t have let him sleep in the bed with me while sober.you’re selecting like the least relevant part of the situation and being prissy about it for no reason T-T >>42111431tested when i was 3 and they said i was borderline LOL
>>42111504that’s not OP, i am :p i dont dislike him, he’s my lifelong friend, i just dont like him in a romantic or sexual manner. and you dont know how i look at all T-T why are you policing this shit so hard? who pays you to be such a negative nancy bro xD
>>42111540I don’t know how u look ur right. But the way this entire thread is and the way ur responses are, it’s clear u got homosexual thoughts about this guy. Either u like him or u don’t. Why u beating round the bush? If u are asking for opinions, when ppl offer up advice u become a contrarian. I think this is fake and ur just bored and making up stuff
the clock stopped tickin'forever ago,how long have i been here,idk
>>42111738i apologise if i come across that way, i think i should definitely talk to him about it, im just not sure if over text or in person is all.. i’m sorry bleh :p
>>42110117>>42110083FuuuuuckThis is why I don't even bother flirting with femboys, trannies, or womenAs a cis man we are never enough and seen as insects. Yet every guy is open to dating you
>>42111916i’m sorry you feel that way anon, not all femboys would shut you down! in fact the main reason i wouldn’t wanna pursue anything with the guy i mentioned is cause ive known him so long and our families are friends which makes it kinda awkward.. but i believe you can find a sweet femboy or tgirl!
>>42111916>every guy I wish that was true...
>>42111824to be honest, aside from the most confident of dudes, a lot of guys simply do NOT make any moves on women at all. because of the repercussions if they are misunderstood. so for u to say that he's kissing ur neck and holding you close while spooning u, im surprised he hasnt already confessed or said smth to u.if a guy is going to make such a big move, he is either wildly horny with no impulse control or he does like u. u said you've known him forever, you should know: is he the kind to act impuslively or is he a good guy?assuming all of this is real
>>42112000he’s uber autistic so he’s not impulsive at all. i imagine the fact he was a little bit drunk maybe had something to do with it.. he was nowhere near as drunk as me but he still had a few cans of beer :p id suspected he might have a thing but wasn’t sure in the past but now i know for sure xD ill be sure to update the thread or make a p2 once i say something to him but yeahhh maybe he acted a little impulsively, but he’s not usually the type to
>>42112035Is being autistic a big ick for fembraided people?!
>>42112177uhh no? i didn’t say it was a turn off! i’ve been into a few autistic men before! i was just saying it to explain that my friend probably wasn’t acting impulsively n stuff. i suppose it maybe depends on the flavour autism you have LOL. but thats a person by person thingy, people like different things anon! and personally im not into himbo-esque guys because i have to explain every single joke to this mf at least 3 times for him to get it.. but i know some autistic people who have great humour like my bestie! so its just a personal thingy, some traits with autism some people like, and other people may like other traits!sorry for the long winded answer i felt i yapped way too much T-T
>>42110083Ignore the perverted touch-starved gooners in the rest of this thread, if your gut is telling you it’s not going to work and your personalities are incompatible, it’s not going to work. At the end of the day you are dating a person, not a sex object. I would suggest being honest with him and telling him directly that you are not interested in him. Do this in a public place like a cafe or similar in case he reacts poorly (you may think he would never do this but never underestimate people). It is important that you tell him straight up given your longstanding friendship so that neither of you are left in a grey area. If he is mature he should be able to accept the situation and move on, but you will have to accept that (hopefully just for a time) things will be very awkward between you two and you won’t quite be “friends” anymore
reading this shit is like stealing soup cans from the grocery store so i will refrain thank you very much faggots.
>>42112035just show this thread to him. or talk to him about it. if he's a good guy then he'll be open to discussion. if he's a weirdo then you dodged a bullet gg
>>42110083>WAITER WAITER!! MY LOBSTER IS TOO BUTTERY!!! MY STEAK TOO JUICY!!!
>>42112664good advice yes i do like that thank you!>>42113270>just show him this thread“hey dude, lemme show you this thread i posted in 4CHAN about how i don’t even want you lol” seems a bit too harsh for me anon xD
>>42113892oh yeah, i forgot you lied and claim you dont want him loool
>>42114201baka T-T i don’t want him but there’s no way on earth im showing a dude a fivkin 4chan thread as a means of shutting him down that’s just weird.. you seem to forget the public opinion of this website and those who use it
>>42111431have you seen the way he types? he's definitely autistic
>>42114343just talk to him. ask him if hes into u and ask why he touched u and kissed ur neck. if he keeps BSing then just leave it at that and move on.