When i first started doing stuff with anal i was fine and super eager even if it didn't feel the best. Then my first bf and i got together and i was super anxious for my first time. We tried and it felt really bad actually like significantly worse than toys so i didn't really like it happening nor did i really let him do anything long enough to finish. This went on for a bit with me kinda neglecting his needs and trying to fulfill them in other ways but one time he was trying again and he looked down at me really angrily and annoyed and he just kept going for like a minute before stopping and apologizing. Since then ive been terrified of all things anal not just sex. I don't even really touch sex toys at all anymore. I tried to suck it up and let him go at it one last time and i was just crying the entire time until he came. Weve since broke up but i just genuinely don't do anal anything anymore and its just like how do i get over this? Like yeah it was a bit of physical pain when he was doing it but not when i used toys so i don't think its anything physical like hemorrhoids. Is this just a skill issue? Do i just suck it up and let my gf hit?
>>42114687was he pounding rough like vaginal sex? since most cant take it like that. also what was his penis curvature like?
>>42114712A little rough i guess but he wasn't going like super rough. He started slow and that didn't feel that good either. He doesn't curve at all really. He wasn't even that long just kinda thick
>>42114789thicker than the toys or comparable? asking since that little bit extra can push over limits if have pelvic floor tension. Also was the pain more on the anal sphincter area or further inside like prostate area?
>>42114810Thicker around than any dildo but i had plugs that were about the same. Idk though its been a bit since we broke up. I want to say it mightve been both
>>42114917Putting aside whether he might just be bad at sex and whether you now have trauma that prevents trying again anyway. the size could have been enough to be painful when in motion. if skin isnt tearing then pelvic floor exercises and more stretching could help a lot. if have sharp prostate feeling too, i dont know solution sorry, as thats me.
>>42114687Idk could just be skill issue. Have you ever tried practicing with *big* toys? My first time with my bf, I was really tight for just a bit and needed to get stretched out, but it went fine after that. He went pretty rough too, and for a long time, and he's big enough that it noticeably bottomed out in some positions, which can be a bit uncomfortable sometimes. I think you do kind of need to love bottoming to thoroughly enjoy it, though. From a pure pleasure perspective, a prostate toy is better, but the intimacy makes sex much better. I can tell you this: you're not going to like it if you don't really want it. Either learn to love it or find someone who doesn't want to do it.
