Hi,I'm a transman who can't medically transition due to autoimmune issues. I tried T for a week and I had a lupus flair up that was extremely bad. I had zero physical changes from that week. I'm bisexual, and have dated women, but prefer men (yeah, yeah I know "Gayden"). I decided to try dating a cis man who I really admire. He's driven, intelligent, and owns his own business.He also doesn't really get why I say I'm trans because, in his mind, the fact that I'm a biological woman in a relationship with a biological male and I'm not medically transitioning "is important." He is respectful of me, but his friends sometimes tease me and I think they see me as some sort of high maintenance, emotionally unstable woman. One of them even called me lazy when he heard that, due to my health issues, I am taking a break from working. I do a lot around my boyfriend's apartment and volunteer at the humane society. I'm not lazy.How do I explain to them that I'm a gay transman who isn't medically transitioning and that's 100% valid? I'm tired of them seeing me as some sort of ridiculous tomboy.
>>42117906boymoder who's been apart of a cis friend group where one of the guys dated a pre-t trans guy.there were lots of jokes about it, and a lot were very demeaning, but there is hope! what mainly worked for the guy in our situation was actively getting involved in group events and the interests of the group (vidya, cars, etc.)essentially if you try to relate to them and grow closer, you can give them the woke mind virus over time
>>42117906You could try the Norah Vincent route if your genetics allow for it. Only, y'know, without an hero at the end since you're actually a trans man and she wasn't.
>>42117924When I relate to them, they say I'm a tomboy. The more intellectual one (he's an engineer) says I adopted a "maladaptive dissociative coping mechanism based identity.">>42117931I'm 5'2".
>>42117906Tell them you’re still transitioning in other ways that don’t involve HRT: top surgery, masculine haircuts/outfits, working out to get a body closer to the stereotypical male body goals. AFAIK, it sounds like you come off like a typical trender who only says they’re transitioning but does nothing else to transition. So both the guys and your bf just look at you as a probably hot girl but whois not mentally sound.
>>42117906>Not Physically Transitioning) Transmanif you look like vidrel, become my bf instead>can't medically transition due to autoimmune issuesah rip yer a real one
>>42117906seriousposting for a bit, I'd say approach it in the man secure in his shit way>yeah man fucking immune system, tried T and it lupus'd my shit up immediately, now I've gotta live with this dysphoria shit
>>42117982call the intellectual a chud retard, be more aggressive. if they dont call you a bitch then maybe it'll work. All my friends are dumb as fuck tho idk if this will work in your situation
this is such obvious bait
dude either try getting on T again, accept that this will be your life, or find somebody else. ideally another trans guy or maybe a woman of some kind who will actually understand you and hopefully see you as who you actually areidk your options are slim, and while I can understand wanting to to date a cis person you like, I feel like you'll never truly be understood or loved for who you are in a relationship with someone who doesn't have a good understanding of gender identity and your desires..>He also doesn't really get why I say I'm trans because, in his mind, the fact that I'm a biological woman in a relationship with a biological male and I'm not medically transitioning "is important."..especially considering all of this, it seems like he doesn't really get you and that's kinda sad
>>42118004>ah rip yer a real oneCan you explain this? I've heard there is a correlation between transgenderism and autoimmune issues but I haven't looked into it seriously.>>42117994>probably hot girl who is not mentally soundWell, in all fairness to them, I have had struggles with depression so I can understand why they take that viewpoint. Still irritating though.>>42118023Thanks, being secure is always a good idea.>>42118027I don't think it would. They already know my personality and I don't want to create an issue between my boyfriend and his friends.
>dude either try getting on T again, accept that this will be your life, or find somebody else. ideally another trans guy or maybe a woman of some kind who will actually understand you and hopefully see you as who you actually areI don't want to break up. He isn't perfect but I can tell he loves me and he's helped me a lot when I've had health issues.>idk your options are slim, and while I can understand wanting to to date a cis person you like, I feel like you'll never truly be understood or loved for who you are in a relationship with someone who doesn't have a good understanding of gender identity and your desires..I think he'll grow to understand me more over time.>especially considering all of this, it seems like he doesn't really get you and that's kinda sadHe gets me in a lot of ways. We have similar senses of humor and we like the same TV shows, similar music, etc. We have a blast when we hang out and I respect how he's able to bring his plans into reality. It's mostly his friends that get on my nerves.
>>42117906baitslop
>>42117906>5'2">Lupus >Can't Transition >No job>Respectful boyfriend>He owns a businessI'd tell him to talk to his friends and have them back off. This might not be a relationship you want to wreck by starting drama. I know you might not want to hear it, but tomboy moding and sticking with this guy might be your best option right now.
