>be me>eldest of 4>dad was abusive growing up, mom was busy with work so I ended up having to be a stand in mom for the kids.>had to do everything around the house, and had took the hits aimed at my sisters.>mom took the kids in the divorce.>dad kicked me out cuz I’m a tranny>FFW 6 years later.>hardly any contact with dad.>on a whim I call him.>he’s happy to hear from me, and says he’d like to see me for Christmas.>I make sure to get a whole bunch of nice things at the store.>I come over. Dad feels a lot warmer and nice than i remember him being. >of course his tranny gf, who’s around my age seems to be helping his mood.>I show up and being cooking dinner for him, on my own volition.>He didn’t plan for anything big, so he’s happily surprised I went out of my way to get stuff.>Made chicken, gravy, buttered beans, nice cheese dip, toasted a baguette, heated up some appetizers.>His gf helps me out a little while I cook.>After dinner, we play a few games of Mario Party, and watch Christmas movies. >Dad seems very happy.>Says he wants to see more of me and apologizes for everything he’s ever done to me.Not once the entire night was my deadname mentioned. So how about it /tttt/ what did you guys do with your family even if you haven’t seen them in ages?
>>42122835Im so jealous
>>42122947Call your dad Nona, you have nothing to lose, and everything to gain.
>>42122835yesterday, i spent xmas eve with my gf and it was really nice and made me really thankful. but today, ive been alone while shes spent xmas day with her abusive transphobic dad who continually tries to convince her to break up with me.i dont understand interacting with people who hurt you or disrespect your loved ones. blood shouldnt matter. family is what you make it.
>>42123161It’s not just my dad it’s both of them and im just torn up that you got an apology must’ve been nice im so jealous…
>>42122835i was alone this christmasit was very lonelybut ur story reminded me of when my therapist outed me to my dad, and one of the things he did was apologize for not noticing anything when i was growing upthat felt nice, tho i ended up repressing myself because i lost all hope due to being institutionalised im happy for you anonette
>>42123920I think you should stop repping anon. Your father at the least would be there for you. Of course it is scary, but it’s nice to have backing.
Well, I have a more accepting family.However, I did have a similar experience two months ago. I went in the country side to care fulltime for my parents for several weeks (temporary situation, but harsh, long story).I left that town more than 20 yrs ago. I only go occasionally to visit my parents.One day some neighbor (family acquaintance?) comes by my dad for some issue. He notices me and insists that we talk alone.>sure thingHe pulls me gently and apologizes for the sissy faggot jokes he made at my expense many years ago and admits he wished he had a daughter like me.>i don't clearly remember but accept his appologyHe invites me to his home to meet his wife. He married three years after I left the town (about the time I started transition).Wife is cisf but has a trans sister. She ends up teaching me a new recipe once she finds out I'm into cooking.I'll probably spend Easter with them.I still don't clearly remember this guy's jokes, but it was also 20+ years ago so who gives a shit.I grew out of that. It'd be mean not to allow others to grow out of their past selves as well.
