I posted earlier about how my coworkers were noticing my voice changing and what to do about it and the best advice I got was to start wearing a mask and explain it away by saying I had long covid but I really don’t like lying like that. I feel like I should just come out to them. the question then becomes when and how I should come out at work. I live in a blue state (California) so I should be fine. the only thing is I don’t know what will change if I come out, I honestly don’t expect them to start using the new name, or maybe only some of them will and it will cause confusion. I also don’t plan to cut my hair or otherwise suddenly change my presentation (the work uniforms are gender neutral anyways so it’s not like I’ve been wearing a woman’s uniform), I’ve just been letting testosterone do its thing, so it’d be more like I’m giving them a heads up that I’ll be masculinizing. or is that fucking stupid and I should wait until I’m asked directly to say anything? and do I just do this individually with every person who comments on my voice? there doesn’t seem to be a way to streamline the process (no coworker groupchat or anything like that) though tbhdesu once I tell one person the word’s bound to get around anyways.I’m only 2 months T and they’re already noticing voice changes and I know it’s only gonna get worse. I’ve had this job for a little over a year and I hopefully want to hang onto it probably until the summer, maybe longer.idk, what do I do?
>>42125402You should do exactly as you were advised in the picrel
Do nothing. It's none of their business anyway.When you femfail, you femfail. Then say something.Or, do as I did - say nothing until you file the paperwork for the name change.t. tranny
>>42125512it would spare me from having to shave once facial hair grows in, or do I wait until that point to say anything? I guess that would be when I femfail. I just don’t want to have to be doing anything that’s actively girlmoding, it feels badI do like your mindset
>>42125402I was in this same situation. I confided in one of my coworkers and she told everyone while I was out recovering from top surgery, that was a surprise but it saved me the trouble LOL. In my opinion there's literally no good options at this point, whatever you end up doing is gonna be awkward because this phase of transition is awkward. Just play it day by day and see what you feel like as you continue to masculinize.If girlmoding really feels bad another option is to start going by a gender neutral nickname, most people will think you're a theyfab but some might start to put two and two together as your voice drops. It can be a bit preferable than continuing to completely pretend to be a woman.
