I have a date with this trans girl later tonight, and I’m expecting her not to not won’t to top.I know how to use a strap, but I’ve just never been with a trans female before.What type of sex and praise is the most gender affirming? I just really want to make her feel good and let her know that I really do like her as a woman.
>>42125479>and I’m expecting her not to not won’t to top.i had multiple strokes reading this
>>42125550Im expecting her to not want to put herself in me
>>42125550>I'm expecting her to not want to topis what anon meant to say
>>42125479i feel like this kind of overthinking isnt productive. sex is different with every partner regardless of gender, you just gotta feel it out and figure out each other by communicating and experimenting. and maybe shell even be willing to put her pp in you
>>42125479Ask her what she wants to do and ask her if you can do stuff you want to do, "can I touch this?" "Can I do that?" "Do you want this?" its really that simple
>>42125617I don’t want anything going inside of me. I’m a stone top.Would she get offended if I just asked her what she wanted? She tends to be a private person. It took me forever to figure out where she was actually from. Everything about her seems very vague, and I don’t want to scare her, so I need to be careful.
>>42125633Her people pleasing ass would not respond honestly if I asked during
>>42125479>I know how to use a strap, but I’ve just never been with a trans female before>I’m a stone top.wtf are you ??
>>42125665>>42125676honestly it sounds like youre both retarded good luck with that
>>42125712A female lesbianI used to be a femme but after learning that butches aren’t what the propaganda says they are, I switched to femme4femme and I’ve been topping since.
>>42125676Just take it slow, start with kissing, and tell her honest communication about what she's comfortable with is important to you. This works on me as a rabid people pleaser. There is literally no other way to do it, if she can't communicate this way then you either need to dump her or accept that she's kind of retarded and try to treat her well while getting what you need
>>42125479Monroe transfer. yw
>>42125726what do you mean you don't want anything go inside of you, you don't even want to be fingered ???
>>42125779NoHaving something there can feel nice, but pleasing my partner gets me off a lot better, so there’s no real point in touching myself as long as I’m with someone.
>>42125479You should probably make sure you actually know how to do anal well. Excessive ammounts of lube, start really slow and gentle, and small movements feel better. You dont really need more than 5" either since you're trying to hit a prostate. If your strap curves up then do missionary, trust me :)
>>42125479i assume ur planning to dom? if so it should be pretty easy since u said u have experience w a strap. to make it more “gender affirming” i would be really deliberate in a) putting her in submissive positions and then b) acknowledging/rewarding those positions with language. for example in missionary telling her ‘be a good girl and hold your legs for me’, ‘you look so pretty with your ass up for me’ in doggy, etc; u get the idea. u want her to experience the physical sensation of being in a sexy position + the physical sensation of being licked/touched/fucked + the mental sensation of being verbally described as beautiful and feminine to all hit her at the same time so she associates them together and it makes a stronger combined stimulation. obviously u should do some safe and gentle exploration at first and have her explicitly confirm some main things she likes and doesnt like, but once youve gotten a feel for things she will probably like it if you pseudo-spontaneously take more control or increase the intensity. Disclaimer: not everyone is the same, your mileage may vary, always get explicit consent, yada yada. you seem like you have your head on straight so if youre thoughtful and intentional itll be fine
>>42125838lol this kind of language isn't necessarily the ticket. If it were me I'd just want you to seem really turned on and carried away, greedy about my body, calling me hot. Mommy talks a little cringe. Just do what feels good to you but the general theme is to make her feel feminine and desirable yeah
>>42125836I won’t have to do anal with her. She had bottom surgery when she was younger, around 16 or so, so she should be fully healed according to everything I’ve read.>>42125838Thank you for the advice! Yes, I’m planning to dom. So, mentally stimulating sex could be what we do? Being verbal during sex is never something I’ve had trouble with, so hopefully I can go off her facial expressions and go. Does the stop light system work the same for females like her?If calling her a good girl is really that gender-affirming, then I’ll do it until it snows in hell
>>42126002Damn, she that hot huh? Good for you and im not seething jealous at all
youngshits have it so nice
>>42126026She’s absolutely beautiful It genuinely makes my chest hurt how pretty she is
>>42125929i didnt mean literally read those lines aha obviously its up to what ops girl tells her she likes. my point was about deliberately being very verbal i think we can agree thats important>>42126002yeah i would of course check with her beforehand but i think the stoplight is pretty standard. evidently ‘good girl’ is not universally enjoyed but i think you understand the spirit of it. if you and she are into it i also think having her talk back to you could be a good angle (making her say your name, describe how it feels, etc). one thing that sticks out to me though is when you say “gender-affirming” specifically; its good youre aware of that but dont get too in your head about it. i had a gf who, with similarly good intentions, ended up really overdoing the gender-affirming bit, like i could tell she was trying really hard at it. it ended up being a huge turn-off because then that was all i could think about too. i dont really know how to explain that any better other than saying like …. your main goal doesnt have to be being gender-affirming, just focus on fucking her right. based on the fact that youre even asking, i have to assume youre probably already doing fine. dont overthink it just give her a good time and enjoy yourself too
>>42126002then you're both female and if you're a lesbian you should know how this works..there's also a zero percent chance somebody who doesn't have a pp is going to top you lolidk what a stop light system is if this is about consent just use regular words instead of some dumb metaphor to traffic signals>>42126294she's just a girl OP is going to have sex with there's literally nothing special that needs to happen...
>>42126294It’s seems like I’m on the right path then :)I just really want to make her feel good at the end of the day, then I’ll be able to enjoy myself. I hadn’t even thought about making her say my name. Holy fuck, that sounds amazing. Her voice is so sweet. >>42125929I don’t think she has a mommy kink, unfortunately for me.
>>42126663Please be with me instead I’m so much better I swear
