I was talking to my "straight" male friend recently, who doesn't know I'm bi and a femboy. He's a little fruity sometimes, and we both flirt in a joking way sometimes, but I'd never want to push it too far and cross boundaries, though I'm sure he'd be fine if I brought up my sexuality to him. He's nice-looking and fairly friendly but he's still a virgin cos he's kind of a chud and autistic around women.Long-story short, we were talking about me transitioning from a hypothetical point of view, and how he would take it, and he basically said that he'd be open to dating me if I transitioned. I'm like 95% sure I'm not trans but I'm sure he's probably into femboys too, so he's probably a lot gayer than he lets on. I asked him to clarify if he was being serious, as we're ironic a lot of the time, and he said yes.What do...? Friendship feels weird now but not in a bad way. I'm not brave enough to admit anything to him.
>>42126358>we were talking about me transitioning from a hypothetical point of viewno you weren't. you brought it up because you're horribly dysphoric and he agreed to date you because you're already really girly and if you had a female body you would be perfect
>>42126358Why were you talking about transitioning anyways?
>>42126657I actually didn't bring up the topic. We were already making jokes about pronouns and I did ask the question about how he'd react to me trooning out. That's when he said what he said.I don't want tits or a vagina. I just wanna be loved and accepted by a cute boy, as a boy.
>>42126358For the love of god, dont transition to e-date some autistic virgin
>>42126678We were just joking and out of that I posed the hypothetical question of how he'd react to me transitioning. He's someone I trust enough to know that he wouldn't get weirded out by me asking.
>>42126767the really shitty part is that "boy" has an expiration date. Kinda sucks.
>>42126678She's a bottom.
>>42126796That's true, and that's something that I've considered. Nonetheless, at the moment I still thin that I'd prefer to just turn into a regular gay guy when I get older rather than grow boobs and troon out.
>>42126780I wouldn't edate him. I've known him irl for years. We mostly just text now but I saw him irl not too long ago.
>>42126798I'm not a girl >:(
>>42126826You're a girl, start dating him and get on HRT
>>42126826>I'm not a girl >:(You are now, buttercup.
>>42126892I know it's a meme for people on this board to try to get people to troon out, but I genuinely wanna know what makes you think I'm trans, other than me hypothetically asking him what he'd think about me transitioning.I don't ever wanna cut off my dick or balls, I don't wanna grow breasts, I don't wanna dress as a girl 24/7 or even in public most of the time. I like just being a girly boy, mainly behind closed doors. :(
>>42126900Nuh uh.
>>42126796"boy" expires when you're dead, I know people twice my age who still know how to have fun with the innocence of toddlers. and that has shown me how to see it in others too.
>>42126933These people are being kinda mean but I would examine why you want to or don't want to present femininely. There's an unfortunately massive amount of social pressure against presenting femininely in public as a male.
>>42126989"Boy" is not so much behavior as it is appearance. Twinkdeath is very real and, for most males, unavoidable without prompt intervention.
>>42126991Yeah maybe. I dunno. But I've never felt the urge to do it. I struggle to imagine myself even doing it in a super liberal area or something. Even like, wearing girls undies and socks under my boy clothes is public is something I don't do, but I'd be open to trying it I guess.As for people being mean, it's not really a big deal but I think people are just kinda missing the point. Realisticailly, I think my friend would probably maybe be into me even if I was just a lot more open about being a femboy with him, and put in extra effort. Somehow this thread has become a gender dysphoria diagnosis rather than offering advice or input tho :(
>>42127057I trooned out and didn't crossdress at all (except very early puberty) before doing so because there's a shit load of guilt and shame and all of that going into it. For what you're doing though, I'd recommend being more open about who you are, y'know? Don't worry about gender, just live more openly. What you want to do will become clearer the more you do.
>>42127083Yeah, I wanna. I just don't know how to start doing that really when a lot of people know me as straight, since I don't act explicitly gay or especially feminine in my speech and mannerisms etc.I guess I'd feel okay coming out to him at some point. I'm not ashamed by my own sexuality, I just don't want to mess anything up or make people feel weird about it.
>>42127126Hmmm, see, a lot of my advice is tranny-related. Do you have a particular friend you trust the most? I'd recommend coming out to them in particular in private and then wondering if you could just hang out while presenting femininely.
>>42127140Him. He's never shared anything with others which I didn't want him to, and he's the closest person who I've known for a while whom I'd feel comfy with talking about that stuff too.The only downside is that he's not really that liberal. Like I said, he's a bit of a chud, and is pretty socially conservative due to his background, but he's not actually hateful or anything, which is kind of obvious as he said that he'd be open to dating me as a girl. I mean, I don't really like to be around ultra-liberal people who get offended by everything, but they are a lot more accepting and easy to talk to about gay shit like this.
>>42127186I think he'd be safe to come out to, then. But like, invite him over and whatnot.
>>42127225Right, do it in person then? I'd be so nervous lol but what's he gonna do other than call me weird and leave I guess?
>>42127250As long as he hasn't had a history of violence, I think he'd be safe? Just make sure it's platonic.
>>42127266He may be taller than me and more masculine but he wouldn't hurt a fly desu, soo yeah, I think it would be okay if I didn't sound like I was coming on to him. Thanks :3
>>42127010"Boy" is that which a person is on which they build their manhood. It's neither a behavior nor is it a look. People aren't pictures that fade under the sun of time.
>>42127307Good plan! Stay safe out there!
>>42127318>Boy>It's a young male
>>42126358Get the balls to come out to him. He’ll be super chill with it and/or ask you out on the spot. “Straight” dudes would date femboys
>>42126358People say a lot of shit when they’re in the horny flirty tiptoeing phase. If he’s making conditions like “if you got girlier then” it’s a hookup and will not last, as what he actually means (probably without realizing) is “if you’re the object of my porn fantasy” which will dry up very very quickly if you do try to troon out. Frankly I advise always keeping that route as a last resort and something that you need to do to avoid killing yourself, otherwise it just brings on more hassle and misery once you age out of the bubble.
>>42128473I'm on the other end of this situation and have been dating her for nearly 5 years now. Femboy specifically trooned out because I said I'd only date a troon long term. The more important thing to look into is what this person wants out of life, it's a lot easier to say this sort of shit when you're trying to get some prime hole and a lot harder when you want to start a family and be normal.
>>42126358tell him youre a femboy and into him
>>42128561Is she doing well?
>>42128615Yeah. She's still grumpy she can't call herself a femboy anymore because everyone genders her as a woman.
>>42128646>.>sounds like she's(?) not having a good time.
>>42128654She's just being a bottom.
>>42128765if only it were me
