> be me> ftm 3 years hrt, pretty much fully passing since month 6> have cis boyfriend from before I transed> likes my hairy ass>sucks my dih and has drunkenly said it's super hot how big it is now> gets a super boner when I hump him with prosthetic dickbut> says he would describe himself as straight> completely ignores the question of if he sees me as a man or not, I have asked him multiple timeswhat did he mean by this?Should I leave him for my autistic nikke obsessed friend who is gay for Astolfo?Current boyfriend is relatively normal aside from being a little racist
>>42145985depends, it is pretty fembrained to love a hot guy regardless of him respecting your identity, it is pretty malebrained to stay in a relationship where you're treated shittily because you can't get any better though
>>42146020monkeybranching is also really fembrained, as is getting mad over facts.
>>42146020He lays some good pipe, which is mostly why I haven't left him yet. But also my parents and dog like himI have a feeling it might just be a situation like pic related
>>42146197except without the I see you as a man part
>>42145985Both of those options sound miserable and i think you should go make some depressed twinkhon very happy.
>>42146212If I was bisexual I would already be dating (and forcefemming) my repper irl 4tranner friend, it's really quiet unfortunate
>>42145985Do you hate yourself, are you on the hunger map? If he sees himself as straight, he doesn't see you as a man. Honestly, gay/bisexual trans guys are constantly making the worst relationship decisions at all times.
>>42146505Only a little, and noI think it's mostly my autism clouding my judgement. But yeah we should probably breakup, only thing is that we've been together for like 6-7 years (lol) so it feels like throwing away so much. Sunk cost fallacy or whatever though, idk mane
>>42145985>Current boyfriend is relatively normal aside from being a little racistOn this alone and you should stay with him.You've been together for 7 years? You actually have a normal relationship with a guy that actually loves you and desires you.And you want to throw that out over some brainworm? JFC you are your own worst enemy.The man loves you (he wouldn't have stayed with you through transition if he hadn't) and desires you (how is that not affirming, duffus?). You literally won at life.And you want to throw that away because he doesn't use the approved shibboleths on an image board used primarily by mentally ill people.Who gives a shit about labels?Let him call himself whatever he wants. He is clearly at least bisexual but ultimately what matters more is love not some arbitrary label.
>>42147018True true, I've asked around on other places as well, close friends, plebbit, etc.One friend was neutral but sad for me, the other asked if I felt safe around himHe's also said he wouldn't be with me if I were born male and skirts around the question when I ask if he'll still be into me after surgeries and as stated above if he even sees me as a guyHe's very ashamed about it if he is bisexual, won't do mild pda in public anymore, not even around friends. I know he hasn't told the other half of his family about my transition, at all. Which hurts a bit.He only told the first half of his family after like 2 years of me being a tranoid. Also won't call me his boyfriend, and still refers to me by they/them as far as I know..I really do love him though, me being a fagoid has been the only hiccup in our relationship really. But I don't know if I'm just comfortable and that's why I'm still staying with himIt's mostly just embarrassing at this point
