New Year's Editionprevious: >>42044782 >>42079478 (died prematurely)Goal of the thread: Consider the things you want to improve or accomplish, whether long- or short-term. What small steps can you make towards those goals?Daily goals can be repeated. Remember to keep score, it can only go up!>What is this thread for?Getting better is hard, and sucks. A lot. It does not get easier doing it alone.Share resources and experiences with combating depression, anxiety, personal issues, achieving or maintaining a healthy weight, etc.>Why is this thread /lgbt/?Struggles with mental and physical health are an indisputable part of /lgbt/ life, be it from dysphoria, social pressure, heartbreak, or just unfortunate lifestyle choices.>Notes to consider:Please be civil. Shame is your greatest enemy in fighting urges of self abuse (be it sh, drugs, or just self deprecation). Relapsing into bad and unhealthy habits is to be expected, the goal is to increase the average amount of time it takes between relapses. Any improvement is a victory no matter how small. Your worth and right to get better are non-negotiable. And most importantly:WE ARE NOT THERAPISTS, WE DON'T REPLACE MEDICATION>Note on adviceGeneric advice won't necessarily help you in particular, but for those it does it is an essential foundation to build future progress on, not a miracle cure. Do not underestimate the effects subtle changes to your lifestyle can have. Try first, keep us posted on your progress, build from there.We are *always* short on self help resources, so if anything was useful to you, let us know!Since the OP is getting too long I moved all resources into their own post, see below!## RESOURCE LINKS:Resource link paste: https://rentry.co/sig-resources-2025-07General advice from Anons: https://rentry.co/sig-tips-2024-04Posts from other sites (markdown format): https://rentry.co/sig-posts-2024-04
>>42162119Hey thanks Are the links below helpful? As in will it improve my mental health
Apart from the GOTT, here are a few things you can do _today_ to make your life a little better. Keep a diary and write down every success. Some you may do as often as you please, but write down each one individually! You deserve it! Do not feel pressured to do all, but feel free to select one or two!- prepare 1 load of laundry- do 1 load of laundry- read one page of a book or manga you have been putting off- cook yourself a meal, or try learn to make a simple dish- eat a meal- pick up items on the floor for 5 minutes- make your bed- if you have a bad habit, try making it more inconvenient (putting things in hard to reach places for example)- do the dishes for 3 minutes- write down one thing you are grateful for (from abstract things to something like a cute image you saw)- Clean up 1m^2 of your floor (~40x40 in)- Open your window for 10-20 minutes- try to exercise for 5 min (walk outdoors, walking stairs, whatever you wish)- take out the trash- drink a glass of water- put one item of trash in the bin- reach out to an online contact (perhaps even try arrange spontaneously meeting up with an IRL contact near you!)- BONUS: Repeat a goal to hit a milestone (1 book chapter rather than a page, the laundry pile, the floor of one room, etc)Unofficial group chats maintained by kind anons of /sig/:IRC: presently defunct afaik.Discord: https://discord.gg/pUuXdBjKX2...last thread died just when I got up and was about to bump, looking up what killed the thread was a mistake. Ew.Whatever, as always, make sure to check the last thread for responses, new thread will have replies that didn't make it last time.I'm a bit deflated waking up to this but will try ot make time for more replies later. Take care everyone.
It's going to take me an entire year to get back down to a fuckable weight, but the clock is ticking and now 30 is merely only a year away. If I regret anything now, it's spending virtually all of my teens and 20's as a sexless shut-in. I guess that's better than having missed out on having fun altogether, but still I know this short era where I am is going to fly by me way too fast.
Alright, gotta bounce. Keep it going!>>42162135Generally speaking the resource links contain lots of small tidbits to give you tools and strats to work on your MH, yes. We have stuff on various conditions (ADHD, eating disorders, borderline, autism), stuff for trauma coping, things to try when depressed.. stuff like that.>>42162146What do you consider a fuckable weight? Also, as someone who already is 30 something, don't lose hope on that front too much, at least my anecdotal experience is that your 30s can be much, much more sexually active than you think right now.
>>42162200I'm 230 pounds now and under 6', which is far too fat to be attractive to anyone my type. I've got to drop 60 pounds.
