Share your biggest insecurity with the council of trannies and we will decide what you should do about it.
>>42179042My biggest insecurity is that estrogen might literally be killing me and giving me brain damage and I don't know what to do about it.
>>42179078Why do you think that? Have you had tests done?
>>42179159Basically my physical and mental health has dramatically worsened (and got better with detrooning except for, you know, crying every other night due to dysphoria). My older sister (also trans) had similar severe health issues and passed away because of it. I don't know what's going on anymore. Every test comes back mostly negative and the symptoms are incredibly cyclical. Waitlists near me for doctors are horrifically long and I am 90% sure I have some kind of brain damage at this point from neuroinflammation.
>>42179435Well, that's, uh, slightly above my pay grade. Maybe there is some kind of trans or LGBTQI charity that could help out? If you're afraid you'll die from it maybe it's not a bad idea to pause the treatment and focus on other parts of your transition? I don't want to say the wrong thing here, but you have my sympathy--I hope you can figure it out.
>>42179042my biggest insecurity are my shoulders, (17 bideltoid at 5'9) and my adams apple which because im anorexic is even bigger. everything else passes so i dont rly care about the rest
>>42179487Maybe. Cost isn't as much of an issue as QoL is. Lately I am just a weird dysphoric man though. Maybe even a man whose issue was just feeling insufficiently masculine. Or at least that's my identity. Like to cope my ego is that of a man despite my dysphoria. So I'm just like, idk, fine with slowly killing myself because of it, because I am ultimately just a guy who transitioned for a mix of male approval and AGP.
>>4217950017" bideltoid puts you below the female average of 5'9" according to ANSUR data. Do you mean biacromial?
>>42179500You seem to be exactly in the center of the female average so no, you don't have big shoulders. However, I don't want to negate your own lived experience. Maybe what you're perceiving is a shoulder-to-hip ratio that is not super flattering? The good thing here is that hip width can increase with HRT and weight gain. The adam's apple is a bummer, but as far as surgeries go, I think it's not the most expensive/scary.
>>42179500Get a chondraryngoplasty
>>42179523Do you have anyone to talk to about this irl? I can confidently say that would help me the most in my transition was going out and socializing with other queer people. Researching LGBTQI organizations in your area might be able to help in both ways.
>>42179584I've spoken with dozens of other trannies and the only one I know of with similar issues was my older sister, and she's dead now (and she's partly the reason why I'm mentally fucked up, regardless of whether I'm really trans or not).
>>42179614I'm sorry, nona. I'm wary of continuing this because I feel super under-qualified to give you advice. But do try to find people to talk to IRL, it often makes all the difference,
>>42179657Yeah I visit a local support group every month (though I feel increasingly out of place there because everyone else is so seemingly assured of their identity while I'm not).
>>42179042that my mom was right when she told me I wasn't really trans and that Im just some weird pervert. ngl everyday it kinda feels more and more like that.
>>42179042I have a small penis and it causes a lot of pain to be and is the sole reason why I will date or let a man close even if one liked me. I'm not trans btw, sry sisters
Being 6'0 and 44 cm bideltoid
>>42179042Being 71kg at 5'7Either that or whatever else makes me feel so large all the time.Kind of already know the answer which is just anamaxxing but I'm not sure that wont just make my moid bones more obvious.
>>42179042complete and utter lack of waist/hips
>>421797316'0", 17.2" bideltoid You are literally below 1 SD for women in the ANSUR 1 data set. I stg trannies on this board either don't know the difference between bideltoid and biacromial or are BDD'd as fuck
>>42179042The feeling of being a man, now in a post-op female body, won't go away and in fact appears to be growing stronger over time
>>42179042i have a broad ribcage and huge shoulders and they throw my whole body out of balance :( i'm trying to compensate by getting ripped (i am not ripped) but i want to be seen as cute and soft. it does not help at all that i have a very hard and stern-looking faceiwnbcas </3
>>42179538ppl keep telling me that but it just has to be wrong. im not bdd its just a genuine observation. maybe its cuz my ribcage is so small? (30 underbust). oh and no im measuring bideltoid>>42179561i dont know what that is and im too lazy and cool to look it up>>42179554>Maybe what you're perceiving is a shoulder-to-hip ratio that is not super flattering? i dont think so i have a 1.1ish shr
>>42179675I've felt like this. Now I'm mostly "finished" with my transition and feel pretty happy about it. Keep going to this group.>>42179696Don't do that. Don't let the cruel voices dictate your own self-image. "Some weird pervert" is what all trans people were viewed as just a decade or two ago. It was society's own hangup then and it still is now.>>42179712I'm sorry. If it's worth anything at all, I can confidently say that penis size is one of the last things I would care about in a partner. I'm not saying it's not a factor, I'm saying it's not as important as you think it is.>>42179745Don't be reckless about it. Try to figure out what's the biggest culprit in making you feel like this and work on that specific item, instead of trying to fix your body as a single issue.>>42179748Sorry to hear that! I don't know if it's in your budget but I've seen some spectacular results from body contouring surgeries (e.g.:https://www.reddit.com/r/Transgender_Surgeries/comments/1pnpoc6/bbl_surgery/)
>>42179831Do you have a pic you're comfortable sharing? It might be carrying angle or something rather than distance.
>>42179763Or just like to humblebrag
>>42179836>I've felt like this. Now I'm mostly "finished" with my transition and feel pretty happy about it. Keep going to this groupOddly the times I felt best in that group was when detrooning for a bit (low dosing really, but it was an ineffectual dose) and the one time I fucked up my shot and accidentally underdosed myself. I just had more energy then. Felt good because of it.
>>42179042I pass quite well now but didn't start having explicitly dysphoric thoughts until I was 21 or so.
>>42179042my biggest insecurity is that i'm sexually really weird and i fantasize every day about being raped and talked down to and humiliated and pinned down and all sorts of things like that, and it's so bad that i don't think i could ever be in a "normal" relationship. the only way i know how to accept love is if someone's being a little sadistic with it. and i feel like this is really bad and really weird and really unhealthy, but recognizing that doesn't make me feel any different.
>>42179774That's a bit puzzling! Are you seeing a therapist? I also struggle sometimes with this baggage of having identified as a man for many years--I think it's mostly a normal response to being seen as one by the rest of the world. Hugs.>>42179806I'm a bit confused, I assume you're not trans?
>>42179763>ANSUR 1Sites like these always hugbox by using selected measurements of a handful of fat old people>BDDI think the fact that I tower over every girl my age at 18 and am broader than them shows thid is NOT BDD
>>42179861Oh, I feel like this so much myself. For me it was at around 24. I think it's ok. I keep looking at my past, trying to find validation in some vague unacknowledged feeling or moments of misunderstood dysphoria but I don't think it's getting me anywhere. I think the real issue is that I'm scared to accept my transness and so I need an external force (even if its myself in the past) to force me to accept it. I don't know how to stop feeling this way, but maybe this can be insightful to you.>>42179873I've had periods where I felt like this a bit, now I don't. Don't shame yourself for it. Try to find the right person, and give yourself room to grow and explore yourself.
>>42179932Oh I get this as well. 24 is when very explicitly dysphoric thoughts happened but I did find some things as a teenager too, just not an explicit "I should be a girl" moment. Stuff like "I have the soul of a girl" and "I hate how big my body is" and "I don't want to be a guy like other guys are guys" and "I must have been born intersex" but explicit dysphoria didn't happen until 24.
>>42179910Using the CAESAR measurements you're still well within average for your height. Obviously, height sucks ofc.
>>42179042i'm a agp fetishist who still wants to be a woman. i hate being a man but don't want to socially transition as there's no way i pass
I don't actually have a personality and it's all been people pleasing and masking. I'm so fucking easy to abuse just by talking to that I've been drifting between various other rejects and outcasts, failing miserably at providing them with anything, and picking up their worst traits. That I've lost all passion.
>>42179875It's... manageable. I try not to think about it, and instead distract myself with work, gaming, and drinking.
>>42179975You know, even Blanchard recommended AGPs to transition if they're condition was too consuming. Also, maybe don't think of transition as a binary yes/no thing. Think of which parts of this fetish you could safely explore, and see where that leads you.>>42179984You sound a bit depressed, nona. Maybe therapy or anti-depressants could help.
>>42179836>Don't be reckless about it. Try to figure out what's the biggest culprit in making you feel like this and work on that specific item, instead of trying to fix your body as a single issue.Just kinda feels like the only thing I can do is try to get down to 60-65kg, at least that puts me in the statistical norm, and I can try addressing the other things.But like my ribcage is a contributing issue, my underbust is large but not catastrophic, it's the fact my ribcage stays wide down to my waist and the only real fix there is a rib resculpt / maybe rib binding that isn't super practical for me to get.And like the dysmorphic side is childhood bullying over weight (which was a consequence of stress eating to cope with various other issues), and then the dysphoric side is just dimorphism. Which I could try therapy, but I doubt that would fix the dysphoric part.>>42179967Where can I find CAESAR measurements easily, I have ansur (obviously) but that's it.
>>42180181i'm stupid the caesar measurements are right there
>>42179875>I'm a bit confused, I assume you're not trans?i am trans. i am also enby i guess but also also i am a lesbian and also also also a bottom. and like none of that gels with my having the world's largest upper body....having muscles makes me look more normal but that also does not gel. i like being cool but i want to be cute and feel small
>>42180181I meant like, find which part of your diet or routine is the biggest culprit and maybe do something there. Don't try to "just lose weight" cause it's too vague a goal, look at what little step you can do. Maybe it's quitting sodas, maybe it's switching to whole wheat bread. I don't know, but think of it as a workable issue, not a big vague goal.
>>42180233I've dropped 30kg already (20kg in late 2023, then 10kg since like mid 2024).I'm trying to drop like 5kg specifically, but my body/environment is being resistant, like feeling obligated to eat a lot over Christmas.I aim for 1300-1400kcal and 400-500 kcal cardio a day (incline treadmill mainly), but it's too slow.
I'll never make enough money to move out on my own and it worries me that it'll wall me from ever having a partner, or scaring someone off when they find out.
everybody fucking thinks my hair is a wig
>>42179836I wish I could accept it but i feel like you're trying to be nice. I understand your position too and I know that you between two same partners you'd still choose one with a larger penis. Now multiply it by ten and you'd get what gay dating will look for me. I care about it and fail to accept it every time but i don't care about sex that much and it's still not the main thing i'd look for in a relationship but others probably won't be in the same lane and i will dissappoint fbf anyway, idk
I cut my hair short (very short) and I like it
>>42180384m-may we see it? you can block the face out if you want, just wondering what you did with the hair
>>42180420Buzz cutNo you may not see it
>>42179042My biggest insecurity is that I never thought to post a picture from Godzilla vs. Monster Zero before, but the Planet X uniforms are rad, so now I feel inadequate before the council.
>>42180211am i just that much of a lost cause......
I've hurt people in the past, not to go into too much detail but some of them don't have a future anymore, I did it and there's nothing I can do now, I know this isn't a trans issue but it plays on my mind a lot knowing that while I'm out here transitioning and trying to live my best life there's people out there that I hurt so badly, families I've hurt, I'm unironically similar to that shitty emilia pérez movie
>>42179042My biggest insecurity is that I'll always be clockable no matter what, but I still want to look super feminine even though I know it's not a look that suits my physique.I don't think I look ugly, but the body that I have looks best in a butchy masc way, while I wish I was an AFAB who tries to be butch but keeps failing miserably no matter what they do.
My broad as shoulders, and FaceApp not being a reliable way to know how I’ll look face wise
>>42181700guessing you are babytrans. ime facial changes are very subtle. because your face stores so little fat it is one of the first things you will notice change, but you will look mostly like the same person. just more feminine.
6’2 200lb gorilla who cross dressed in private sparingly over years but had the urge come storming back with vengeance this year. Now not sure if just cross dressing agp freak, or possibly non biny trans or something. Created stories in head to fall asleep at night throughout years with a character that was transformed to female.Idk what to do it hurts wanting to be beautiful but also male brain and would be a giga hon. What do?
>>42181790And the broad shoulders ?
>>42181872ehhh......you let me know if you figure that one out please..t. >>42179806(you can get clavicle-reduction surgery i believe but i don't know how much of a difference it makes. the idea of it spooks me personally)
>>42181959I've heard it can take off a total of 2" but a lot of upper body stuff is in the upper ribs, which you can't get reduced via commercial surgery.
