This is the first time I've ever visited this board. For as long as I've been alive(30+ years), I have only ever loved cis women. I was raised in a traditional country, with traditional values. I bullied kids in school for having weird gender traits. I've had girlfriends in school, multiple long term relationships as an adult, done two hookups, and lusted after many women in my life. I have had gay men, MTFs, FTMs, and even curious straight men come onto me, and I feel nothing but revulsion. Even when I know them well, it feels like a betrayal of my trust.I'm talking to a girl that is starting to make me question everything. We met as friends, had mutual respect for each other in our community and in our personal lives, and admitted romantic interest. We've known each other for years, been friends for months, and only started trying to cautiously feel out more in the last few weeks. I've only ever seen her as a woman. She confessed to me that she was intersex. She has kind of a prominent jawline, but a very feminine body with great chest and legs, and now, she confessed to me that she will never bear children. She has a penis. I'm struggling with how I feel.I think I could love someone emotionally, but I don't think a relationship can survive unless there's physical attraction. The pictures she's shown me(without makeup, not good angles/lighting) paint a realistic image of her appearance. I don't think I would be ashamed having her on my arm. I don't think I would be ashamed having her at the dinner table with my family. I get aroused looking at her. I love listening to her voice, and have fallen asleep to it.How do I approach this with respect? I don't wanna ask something as blasé and brutal as "take your clothes off and record yourself doing a 360 spin", that's just fucking gross. However, I can't let myself develop attachment for someone I might not properly feel attraction to, in person. Any tips? Any advice?
>>42179269Try to fuck her and if you can't pop a bone... then you know
>>42179364Oh, I forgot to mention, we are 9 hours of timezones apart. I've done LDR before, so it's not much of an issue for me, but meeting up would be quite the ask. If we could casually meet up, this would be easy.
are you talking with the intent to enter a relationship (it sounds that way i just want to be sure)? if so then just tell her, straight-up, exactly what you are saying here. you think she's hot, know she's a woman, even more than just thinking it, but can't get past the part about her having a penis. you don't know how you'll feel about it and don't want to hurt either of you in the future if it ends up being a problem. i can't imagine she wouldn't understand: that's (if you are entering a relationship) the whole reason she told you in the first place. she wanted you to know so that you could take it into consideration. speak honestly with her. i'm not intersex but i would understand completely if someone said this to me. you seem like a good person, anon.
>>42179269>However, I can't let myself develop attachment for someone I might no properly feel attraction toWould the deep emotional attachment precipitate the physical? That's how it's worked for me plenty of times. But maybe I'm just a slut
>>42179269I'm not gonna read alla thatFuck who you want, who gives a shit about straight vs gay vs bi vs whatever. You either are romantically interested in someone or you aren't. Whatever that means with regards to your sexuality and what values you want to project onto it is up to you
Just give it up, surely a straight uber chad such as yourself can just find a normal girl you won't be repulsed by?
>>42179419Thanks, and you're right. I might just link her this thread if we commit. Right now, we are trying to take things very slow. I'm very experienced in relationships, but I've been lonely for a few years, and she's very inexperienced with love. If we got attached, and we weren't compatible, it would break our hearts.Thanks for the kindness. This is really hard for me.>>42179444...I think it might. I've had daydreams about my dickhead stepbrother asking what's in her pants at the dinner table, and me emphatically asking my mom about her pussy, then telling him about the vagina of my last long term partner, to get him to understand just how fucking rude that question is. Why would I daydream about that? I don't understand. I do think I'm falling in love.>>42179480I'm not a chad, I just don't get past the dating stage with many women. Over the years, I came to value emotional intelligence and self-image more than how well they can do makeup or the trends they choose to wear. I'm getting older. I'm not looking for unattached sex anymore.The reason why I think I'm falling in love with her, is because of our history. Seeing someone grow over years, relentless progress, and blossoming more and more, all on their own, makes for fertile ground for a relationship. We've both been very open about that to each other. It's hard not to feel something.
>>42179594>I might just link her this thread if we commit.you could do that :) using your own words might be more endearing, but i suppose this would give more credence to the honesty of your feelings.>This is really hard for me.hugs, nonny. i get it. you are doing the right thing.the rest of this post is also super cute. she'll be so lucky to have you, if you do end up committing. godspeed <3
