is it easily visible if a guy struggles with his gender?like im cis boy but i sometimes have some non cis thoughts. like nothing serious but like sometimes it makes me feel a bit sad. but i think i have been quit subtle about that irl.however my friend said recently that i would make a pretty girl.like it had barely anything to do with the conversation we were having!!!it basically shut me up completely and i wasnt able to say much to him after that.it was awkward. but the thing that troubles me right now is that could he know something.... like i havent told anything to anyone irl about what i feel about this.
>>42181199You should see a therapist or something about this instead of asking here. This place sucks.
>>42181199Idk i thought i was hiding it well and then my brother told me he knew and then the people at work all figured it out and then when i came out my friend told me theyve been waiting forever. >Said youd nake a pretty girlThey have a crush on you dawg
>>42181199yeah it's typically pretty obviouswhen i was a boy people said things like this to me too..but thankfully i am a girl now
>>42181224i dont think i need to>>42181227idk about that. he is just a friend.>>42181285was it hard tho?
Whenever a girl says something like this to me My head immediately gets fucked up and I can't stop thinking about it and feeling it
>>42181199>is it easily visible if a guy struggles with his gender?Yes.>i think i have been quit subtle about that irlYeah, that's what I thought as well. Of course, I was wrong.Nobody was in the least bit surprised I turned out a girl.> engaged tranny
how DO you feel, op?>>42181285yeah same. i don't really speak to anyone anymore but after i transitioned two friends i got back in touch with told me they knew it was coming.
>>42181334i think you should see a therapist too and also yeah it was a bit hard the social side was a lot of trouble and then there was the operations
>>42181362>Nobody was in the least bit surprised I turned out a girl.what does this mean like in general?>>42181370wdym how i feel? idk how to explain it. like the idea of him seeing me as a girl made me feel very mixed.
>>42181422>wdym how i feel?you said you haven't told anyone how you feel.how is it that you feel? what sort of gender struggles are you having? i'm struggling to reconcile the>nothing serious but like sometimes it makes me feel a bit sadbit, i suppose.
>>42181422>what does this mean like in general?My parents sensed there was something wrong with me. My teachers clocked me as a girl in primary school. And then as a weird boy in secondary school.I almost entirely hanged out with girls from age 6 onwards.I tried to put a masculine facade in high school but not only it didn't work out, but even the gay boys were like "you'd make a good girlfriend. But I ain't into that"Went into hrt as soon as I turned 18. Four years later I enrolled to college as a girl. There I stumbled upon two former classmates (they went to jail for some shit so they postponed college too). They certainly weren't surprised.I went to the 10th anniversary from graduating high school. With one exception (one very boomer teacher), nobody was surprised that I signed up with a feminine name and a feminine ID.So it means exactly what I said: nobody was in the least bit surprised that I turned out a girl.
>>42181479idk how to explain. like sometimes i kinda wish i was seen as a girl. like i often have dreams where im a girl and those make me feel happy but sad when i wake up. i cant really put it in words.
>>42181492You really should see a therapist. I'm totally not joking.This place is terrible for such struggles. Especially if you're too young.Most people here are mean and the board is infested with trolls and psyops.t. >>42181489
>>42181492It sounds like you're dysphoric about waking up as a boy.
Same prob OP except when I cross dress I initially get a boner and then get extremely dysphoric about being a guy and agp goblin
>>42181492>>42181505 is right. a good therapist is hard to find but this is a pretty bad place for self-discovery. you don't sound like you're old enough to be here, anyways...no offense......look for someone who deals with queer patients, specifically. i've been through five therapists in my life, none of whom have had any knowledge of this stuff, and it has sucked lol. it is important to have someone who knows how to help you.anyhow, this does sound like gender dysphoria, not that i'm here trying to diagnose you. just something to think about.
>>42181199I think im in a pretty similar situation as you. Ever since i started questioning my gender i have thought back at my life, trying to see if there were "signs". I complaining about people complimenting my voice (rather deep), i remember wanting to wear feminine clothing. Despite this and more, i dont feel like people see this in me. Maybe i am otherwise too repressed. It dissapoints me
>>42181741Even if you were masc growing up, there might be someone. Both of my partners in high school said it made sense for me to be trans. One of them even clocked me when we dated. But I was otherwise just an autistic, masculine boy who was frustrated with gender roles.
>>42181492yeah you need to do something about thisdo you think it's going to be better in 10 years when you're that much older? you'll just be sadder.but fortunately you can change the future and become a girl by then
>>42181199In my experience it depends who's doing the observing. Most cis folks seem to be pretty dumb when it comes to gender, they just accepted the 3rd grade sex ed lesson of penis = boy, vagina = girl at face value without ever needing to give it any more thought. But there are exceptions, and some are more perceptive than others.>but like sometimes it makes me feel a bit sad.That's gender dysphoria for you. It's right in the name, feeling bad about your gender.>it basically shut me up completely and i wasnt able to say much to him after that.Sounds like it affected you a lot. Why is that?>>42181224First post, best post.Really, OP, you should find a healthier place than here to talk this out. It's important to know who you are.
