>be me. loser transbian>meet a new friend, also a transbian, for the purposes of it being fwbs>the night goes really well and we really click as people>she makes me feel seen and understood in ways ive never felt before>keep talking and hanging out>we both admit we've fallen in love with each other super quickly>we starting saying i love you but we're not dating>I meet her girlfriends (plural) (they are also trans)>we also end up getting along well>I get along a lot better than expected with them>now im falling for all three of these women and maybe theyre all falling for me too>I look at the calendar and realize its been less than a monthHow do I STOP fantasizing about spending the rest of my life with these women? I'm so in love that I get anxious at the idea of it not working out / me fucking it up, because a T4T transbian polycule is like a fairy tale dream for me. I'm too fucking gay. I'm self aware and capable of being normal about this most of the time, but it takes up what I worry is a concerning amount of space in my head. This shit could be the best thing to ever happen to me or it could destroy whats left of my emotional stability. My next therapy appointment is in two weeks and that feels like forever.Art by me also if this sounds familiar no it doesnt
holy mental illness batman
>>42186158I know that’s why I’m trying to get help
>>42186140transbians disgust me
the vast majority of relationships end at some point and the vast majority of the time you'll get into another one at some point. that is the core fact you need to accept and get comfortable with in order to enjoy relationships more freely.
>>42186196Why>>42186335This is helpful. I think I came to accept this a while ago when it comes to regular friendships. I’ve just really struggled with it when it comes to relationships because up until this year I hadn’t been confident enough to actually date, and I grow attached easily. I think actually managing to internalize this for relationships is a lot harder than it is with friendships, though? They are different feelings and love is a much stronger attachment.
>>42186614we must be somewhat psychologically different because ive never found it that hard to internalise and i often feel like i love my friends. i know that's not particularly helpful. I think for me the difference is more to do with commitment than friendship vs romance. If I commit to potentially staying with someone for the rest of my life then it feels deeper, but I basically don't do that. If I haven't committed to someone that deeply, then internally i still feel like we don't owe eachother anything and I just enjoy it for what it is, sometimes without ever even defining it as a friendship or relationship or fwbs
>>42186140They're gonna leave you for the next transbian that shows up, because they don't love you. You're gonna realize this sooner or later, but all a polycue has to offer is quick sex for ugly, fetishistic men who are unable to find love elsewhere. It's best that you leave quickly before you get infected with giga tranny aids
>>42186140I was like this with my genderfluid ftm friend. I didn't want to sex them or anything like that but I got way too obsessed because they were the only other trans person I knew and I guess it creeped them out. I only knew them for a few months.
