Hey OP please just tell him that you're feeling smothered and that you need more alone time. Communication is key. I don't see anything wrong with going to a bar alone but I'd feel sad if I was making someone feel smothered and they didn't tell me.

>>42198892
Sounds like y'all need to break up lol you ain't buying him no ring

>>42198892
>I’ve been feeling completely suffocated by my boyfriend
I thought you lot were into that shit.

>>42198971
I have no friends and I spend every single weekend with my boyfriend which is why I feel suffocated. I feel like he’s the only person I spend time with and it’s overwhelming. He’s also incredibly clingy which makes it worse. I just want weekend alone where I can just go out and meet other people and try to make friends.

>>42198892
yes, it'd look bad. especially if you don't say anything. just tell him honestly, directly, but also nicely that you need some space/personal time.

if you're going to a gay bar by yourself to get attention from randos, that's kinda fucked up tho

>>42199066
He’s gone out to gay bars with his friends without me, so I thought it’s fair game if I go by myself too.

>>42199090
that's fair. if it's normal for your relationship, no issue in my mind.

>>42199104
Do you think he’s cheated on me when he went to gay bars by himself?

>>42199145
idk you or how things are for your relationship outside of this post. feeling smothered and wanting to go to a bar alone because of it doesn't sound great (in isolation) to me. like, if my partner told me that, id feel like they were wanting out of the relationship in some way. but if it's normal for you guys and you just want some space doing something you both individually like, no reason to assume it means anything more. ya know?

>>42199050
> he’s the only person I spend time with and it’s overwhelming.
>He’s also incredibly clingy which makes it worse.
He can't know what he's doing wrong if he doesn't get told. Tell him how you feel and then go make your friends. It's worth talking it out and being on the same page with him so that he knows how you feel.

>>42198892
>would it be for me to go to a gay bar by myself without him?
>>42199090
>He’s gone out to gay bars with his friends without me
These are not the same...

>>42199223
If I tell him he’s going to get offended and take it the wrong way. He gets very defensive about everything.

>>42199262
How are they not? He went without me.

>>42199192
I just want to make friends. Is that so bad?

>>42199768
i already said it's not a problem. you really need to talk to him and tell your bf what's up though.

>>42199277
Going with friends, and going alone are 2 completely different things.

>>42199808
How are they different? He still went without me.

just tell him honestly what you feel and why you are planning on going out/what you are planning to do. you are only asking for drama by going out w/out telling him. i think you know that already, you just want to stir up trouble like a little bitch. if that sort of thing works on him then good for you, but be careful if not, he might leave you for something like that

>>42199817
If you went to take a shit alone, and you went to take a shit with him sitting on your lap, are they the same thing?

>>42199817
are you genuinely autistic?