Anons I started transitioning when I was 15. I didn't present until much later but this girl always bullied me and called me slurs and said some super mean shit that no one needs to hear. Anyway, she reached out to me on social media and I was hesitant to add her but I did and she said that she's sorry for what she had done to me and that she did the things she did because she was raised in a religious household and blah blah blah etc etc etc. I didn't respond to her yet and I don't want too just yet either. I wanna hear what people think about this. I feel like there's more to it.
She became an adult and it probably keeps her up at night. I'd just be like "it's cool I forgive you" and move on. But you can do whatever feels right
>>42267907I was in her shoes. I dont have any social media but I'd run into mutual acquaintances at parties and try to get a message across. Never heard back. Respond if you want, or don't. Do you want her to have closure? In my case I assume he just wanted nothing to do with me ever again and I can't blame him for that. I've made peace with it
>>42267926>>42267941I mean she caused me intense emotional distress to the point I was hurting myself. I dreaded going to school and honestly I dropped out because of all the bullying.
>>42267907You should tell her that a small apology like that doesn't make up for the years of cruel things that she did to you. She doesn't deserve closure for her actual behavior. But it does reflect well on her as she is now for actually reaching out at all. People can change, but they should still be held responsible for their actions.
>>42267956Eerily similar boat. Not sure about self harm but he transferred at one point. You don't owe her anything. She was an asshole and now she's paying with her conscience. You can accept the apology or she'll just have to wait for time heal her wounds too. If you don't want to respond yet, I'd say don't
>>42267907Do *you* want to respond? Or do you just feel pressured to respond?
>>42268011>>42268045Guys I really want to tell her to go fuck herself or something
>>42267907i only much later realised that most of the kids who bullied me in hs also had a crush on me dwtwyw
>>42267907find forgiveness in your heart but be honest with her
>>42268054More great optics for repulichudsJust block her and move on
>>42268079>Just block her and move onYesssss do this you don't know how mux this is going to hurt her
>>42268054If you want to reject it, imo write a two sentence thing what she did to you and leave it at that instead of even giving it any emotions. Or say it's between her and god and not up to you if you are religious.
>>42268131>muxMuch*Was so exited to type that I didn't even read
>>42268054Go with your gut just don't second guess it. It took me probably 8, 9 years to move on. If he reached out back to forgive me or to just say fuck off for that matter it probably would've been quicker either way.>>42268131>>42268141In a way the whole saga kind of led me closer to God. Leaning into forgiveness I craved. Shit does hurt not getting it. Do what you gotta do
>>42268141>>42268197The other person is probably right. The best thing to do is to not reply and just unfriended her and block her. She is responsible for so much of my misery that I can't just forgive her. You guys don't know this but I saw her message and I literally cried at work. I remembered all the shit she did and how she and her friends ganged up on me and made sure that everyone hurt me.
>>42268248Yeah just block then. I hope you have been able to grow in spite of ways she made your life worse
>>42268282Thanks. I think I did fine considering my circumstances. I work in healthcare and make decent-ish money and it's enough to pay for me.
what are you going to do?
>>42268339Just have fucking her boyfriend left on the to do now
>>42268414I'm going to block her after I go home
>>42268513do you think you'll be able to move on from it? I think I'd be thinking about all the things I could have said
>>42267907befriend her then have sex with her dad
>>42268537I don't think I'll be able to ever move on from it desu. I'll forever hate her
>>42268615not really possible to get any closure then I guess, you just have to ask yourself whether you'd be happier to scratch the itch of telling her that or leaving it be
>>42268695kys retard
>>42268731no
>>42267907straight white male here.I used to bully and tease kids in middle/high school for liking anime or reading manga during lunch.now at 25 I've completed over 700 anime and read a boatload of manga, and don't have any friends irl, only online.if you have the heart to see it as someone who misunderstood others and was just a dumbass kid, I'd say reach back out to her with whatever you want to say.if I had a second chance, I would've joined an anime or manga club as a kid/teen
>>42268778>misunderstood others and was just a dumbass kidsuch a terrible excuse, it's irrelevant how stupid you are or whether you don't understand somebody, it's a choice to hurt somebody, you chose to hurt people
>>42268822former bullies should have to pay reparations to their victims
>>42268822dont you think people can change?
>>42267907Tell her to go fuck herself
>>42269129God forgives gangsters dont
>>42267907see if you can go on a date with her, then eventually make her your girlfriend.boom, ez way to get married
IF ANYONE WANTS TO KNOW WHAT I DIDI messaged her saying I'm not interested in reconnecting with her and then I blocked her
>>42269671poor choice.
>>42269677Well it's my choice and that's what I did
>>42267907Same thing happened to me. Guy calls me randomly. I pick up cus i didnt recognize the number. He tells me who it is and immediately apologizes for how he acted. Asks me how im doing. Tells me some positive things and that im "going to make it". Later in the conversation learn about a bunch of bad stuff that happened to him recently. Remember he was suicidal when i knew him. Realize this is a make things right before he ropes type of call. Doesnt really phase me becouse i have talked to so many suicidal people before they kill themselves in the past. Conversation goes well and he hangs up. Hope he didnt do it even tho he used to be a cunt
>>42267907I was bullied physically to the point i was left with a broken rib and arm in two places one day after school, I know what’s it like. Don’t forgive her and remind her in the message about what she did and the damage it caused, she does not deserve to feel at peace with her conscience.
>>42269709>I was bullied physically to the point i was left with a broken rib and arm in two places one day after schoolOh no what happened? If you don't mind telling it
>>42269820This guy basically waited for me near footbridge that is on my way home from school with his brother who was a senior and 2 others and I got fag bashed basically, got punched and fell to the ground and don’t remember anything from there woke up in a lot of pain and a class mate trying to help me get up and find an adult to help and went to hospital when someone did come as my arm was really fucked up. My bully got a suspension that’s it and his brother received nothing, the other two I have no idea. Didn’t matter as my parents moved me to a private school after how the school handled it.
>>42267907how tall are you? also same i got hrt at 15 : O
>>42272102I transitioned at 14 and I'm 5'7" T_T
>>42269698God speed friend. Don't look back
>>42269671Based choice
>>42267907Just ignore and move on
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