>Just downloaded grindr>Also just deleted grindrI seriously fucking hate dating apps. They are just a MASSIVE waste of time.
>>42294424>calling grindr a dating app
idk why you even bothered in the first place id be way too scared of getting murdered or catching something plus like it's exclusively for hookups and i want romance
Well of course it's a waste of time if you don't fuck anyone just patiently go through the hundreds of applicants, find the guy who is chill and not spamming dick pics or cringe and chat him up and get railed it is NOT that hard lol you're just cock shy.
>>42294424You don’t look like that tho
>>42294434>>42294436I have always insisted grinder guys take me on dates without sex before anything happens and I've dated two guys i met on grinder. This is literally just a skill/confidence issue. All you have to do is be clear about what you want and eventually you'll find a guy who is interested in that.
>>42294450I think I'll stick to yearning
>>42294424use hinge retard
>>42294424yeh kinda, but I feel like more than anything it's ppl that waste ur timelike how well is it going to go dating someone that doesn't value ur time idgi tbqh
>>42294436Because I'd take a hookup, but guys don't hookup. They just jerk off over chat. They can't host, but they won't go out. They leave their profiles blank but they open the conversation by asking for nudes. I literally hand them a yes on a silver platter and they don't know what to do with it. And worst of all, they actually think the system is the problem not their STUNNING inability to actually create the conditions for their own sexual fulfillment that's the problem. >>42294437>just patiently go through the hundreds of applicantsTHOUSANDS of losers for the possibility that maybe one of them has their life together enough to organize a free fucking from a desperate slut. >>42294450Who's got the time to go through the ten million wankers to find the one guy who's actually good for a fuck?>>42294457Banned within 24 hours of setting up the account. I don't know why. >>42294461Yeah but it's ALL of the people now.
>>42294493yeh but I feel like it's not an app thing anymore, but like a person thing iunno
>>42294455I feel that if was so miserable and desperate to avoid sex with men i didn't lose my virginity with a guy until age 27. I regret wasting my youth though!>>42294493>And worst of all, they actually think the system is the problem not their STUNNING inability to actually create the conditions for their own sexual fulfillment that's the problem.Aren't you doing that by saying you don't have time to go through profiles? Like why would you even click on the DM of anyone faceless? It's really not that hard like if it helps make a checklist of all the irritating things that expose guys as low value trash and filter every guy who does one of those things to save urself time. Like if you just stop hating men for existing i feel like it's not that hard to get what you need on any dating app and I have been on all of them.
>>42294565Kinda. I just think too many guys are using dating apps as an ai chatbot with no intention at all of doing anything real. They just cum into their hands and close the app until they're horny again.
>>42294586>Aren't you doing that by saying you don't have time to go through profiles?Nobody has that kind of time. It takes half an hour to an hour to go through a batch of five. At the 1:1000 ratio that's actually being talked about here that's 200 hours. Ten days with no break to sort the losers from the actual eligible men. >Like why would you even click on the DM of anyone faceless?That's pretty much all of them now. >Like if you just stop hating men for existingI am the most man-loving pickme in the fucking world. But I've just wasted an entire afternoon talking to guys who can't take yes for an answer. The straw that broke the camels back this time, doesn't put on his profile whether he can host or not, turns out he can't (30 minutes in), so I offer to meet him at a bar, but he "doesn't go out to bars". Like honestly, how the fuck is this guy supposed to get laid? Literally how? What is this guy's logistical plan for arranging the colocation of his dick and a willing hole? The answer is he doesn't have a plan, he can't figure that out, and he doesn't want to. He's just going to jerk off and close the app. AND IT'S ALL OF THEM. Literally any man on a dating app is there because he's look for someone to chat to while he jerks off.
There is an abundance of creeps and stalkers on Grindr, but at least the guys know what they're looking for. Don't waste your time texting, immediately ask them to meet up. The majority of people will drop out if you insist on a public meeting, so that culls the herd pretty effectively.
>>42294829Culls the herd to zero. Which is why they're all coy with the fact that they're actually time wasting losers. Maybe if I lived in a big city or something, and like 5 years ago before all the losers started making accounts, but in my situation it's just an endless soul crushing waste of time. I feel more negative right now than I felt in 6 months. In an afternoon dating apps drove all of the positive energy I had right out of me.
>>42294829>Don't waste your time texting, immediately ask them to meet upI don't think this is true, actually...off-topic but I remember I met a very pretty trans woman on grindr and our first meeting was them driving me to work as sorta a low-stakes first meeting. it was very random in retrospect
>>42294493>>42294672Gonna be real with you nona, but I’m picking up hints your pics make you look … questionable. Any dating app I use (tinder/okcupid/taimi/hinge etc) my inbox just gets flooded with people not just thirsting but begging to setup dates or sending me their current location for a hookup. Something is off specifically with your interactions on grindr if even the horniest of men on the horniest app somehow get cold feet less than an hr conversation in.
>>42294873I remember how difficult it was for me when I was dating. it feels utterly hopeless. All I can tell you is that as bad as things are, there are still people out there looking for the same thing you are. When you find them, it's important you show them the person you are. If you feel the negativity is getting to you, take a step back and recenter until you're ready to try again. >if I lived in a big city or somethingI live in a town of 8,000 people and met my bf on grindr. We have been together for five years.
>>42294949yeah, this is seems true for OP.unless you're in an ultra-conservative state or something most guys throw themselves at you on these apps
>>42294949How many of those actually turn into dates tho? Because I remember getting flooded on taimi and okcupid, and then I spent like 6 months actually trying to get a date, and I got 2. One was alright for a couple of weeks, the other guy was literally brain damaged and had lost his impulse control and wasn't actually interested in me. That's going though maybe 3,000 guys. >>42294962>there are still people out there looking for the same thing you are.I keep hearing this, and I keep hearing about the success stories and I just don't believe it any more. >If you feel the negativity is getting to you, take a step back and recenter until you're ready to try again. That's what I did, and today I tried again and it's already over. >I live in a town of 8,000 people and met my bf on grindr. We have been together for five years.I seethe with jealousy. >>42294969Until you actually offer them hole for use. Then they make excuses.
>>42294987My anxiety self-regulates how many suitors I entertain going out and connecting; typically 3 everytime I visit dating apps (once every 6-8 monthsish). Getting a date is not difficult. They’re obsessed at offering to cover travel and dinner even when I insist on splitting costs to be fair and equal with them. I didn’t particularly have awful dates, just clear incompatibilities and going our separate ways.But again, if you’re saying stuff like>Until you actually offer them hole for use. Then they make excuses.this is something i’ve only ever heard from others that had some physical manner that made them unattractive: overweight, old, average. Anytime I ever dared teased to put out, it’s borderline stalking for me to respond back an address and time.
>>42295028>unattractive: overweight, old, average.So your solution here is to just be super hot. Awesome I'll get right on that.
>>42295036My “who asked for” advice is to reevaluate yourself when you’re stating:>but guys don't hookup. They just jerk off over chat.>They can't host, but they won't go out.They leave their profiles blank but they open the conversation by asking for nudes.>I literally hand them a yes on a silver platter and they don't know what to do with itIf your standards are too high for a simple hookup, then you need to lower them or make yourself worth those higher standards. If you’re looking for serious relationship with long term in mind, do you have a humble, independent life to reasonably ask that from a suitor?
>>42295077>If your standards are too high for a simple hookupStandards? are you listening? They can't do a hookup. NONE of them. They can't host, and they won't meet in public. Literally how can you have sex if you can't have a sex partner come to your house, but you won't leave your house? Why are these THOUSANDS OF GUYS on dating apps at all?Because it's a free cam site where girls like me give it up in the hopes of a little physical affection and just never get it. That's what dating apps are in 2026.
>>42294672>12 minutes to go through a grindr profile>1/1000 guys are fuckableLol get real you fucking moron. This is like ascended blackpill incel levels of defeatist coping
>>42295306Living in a nowhere small city under 500k in America is like this. Meanwhile in pops with 10 million people within 15 miles you get tons of baddies.I ran into the same situation as OP in my hometown where everyone does ket or looks washed out. Then met my gf in London. Moving is half the battle
>>42295275>Standards? are you listening?Yes I am, and yes I mean standards. Your standards are too high when you’re matching with men that aren’t interested in actually meeting up with you but essentially use you for ERP. Because I can confidently say if you drop your standards for men less than that, you’ll come across men who ARE going to come over and hookup. Your standards are too high if they clearly and consistently back out of meeting up with you IRL.And if you want to keep those higher standards for those men and above, then you need to be doing more in the realm of attractiveness.>>42296801Smaller pop towns can be hit or miss: either they demand more from each other due to dissatisfaction in a small pool, or they settle due to dissatisfaction in a small pool.
