hello lgbt i am a bi /fit/cel and i have decided i am ready to lose my depressing khhv status. i am 19 and have a good physique (muscular and lean) and i take good care of my looks so i think i am at least average facially but i am very anxious, shy, and somewhat socially inept because of this. my khhv status is entirely my fault my anxiety made me turn down and stop relationships with anybody that has ever been interested or had a crush on me and ive never approached or shown interest in others.i have downloaded grindr because i think this is a good first step to stop being a loser as it's a shameless app where i can show my physique which is my best characteristic from being a gymcel for so longi was wondering if any of you have any advice for me regarding this since i dont know if me being a virgin or shy is offputting. i dont think i would be able to have sex on the first time of meeting someone considering i havent even kissed someone yet (i want to learn how to do that). i dont even know exactly what i want from the app but i just want to take initiative to improve my life i downloaded the app about 15 minutes ago and ive gotten a lot of messages from old men but one reply from a cute femboy although i am too scared to open it so i think i will do so in the morning
where are u from? id let you hit
>>42306165JbyJust BYoselfIn all seriousness though it’s pretty much just getting more comfortable with interaction. Don’t stress about what to say or how you think you look, just go & talk to them & see what happens. By doing it enough times you’ll stop being all nerves, you got this.
>>42306179thank you for the offer but i live in saskatchewan canada i doubt you are anywhere near me>>42306184thank you for the kind words my friend i will try my best
>>42306165save it for someone special. i'm 18 and not the most experienced ever. but i've been with a few people and have a bf. ime, sex isn't really something most people look back on as a big deal itself, but emotionally its very important!! and your history relationship with sex has a huge impact.some people have a thing for taking someones virginity. it shouldn't be offputting. imo: don't throw away a lifetime of love for 15 minutes with some polygamous loser you don't have a future with. divorce rates are proportionate to total past partners for both men and women. 50% on average... only 10% for virgins.
>>42306249hmm you are wise anon and maybe ive jumped the gun with wanting to lose my virginity but i am just so scared of the thought of being 30+ and still being khhv because ive witnessed the age keep growing and growing throughout my life and i want it to end. i dont know if you can see it from my perspective but to me any interaction with someone im attracted to is scary and something i cant even comprehend myself doing so i thought if i have sex i will at least gain the confidence to talk or approach people. im not so hyperfixated on the idea of sex itself i dont even really mind being a virgin other than the thought of potential social stigma around it, im just anxious because i dont want a future/potential partner to think im weird. i just want to experience love i guess idk
>>42306326i can empathize with a lot of that, being awkward and anxious and stuff. i'm not saying you should save yourself for marriage (but i wish i could've desu) or be so extreme about it, but you should probably be selective. and i think its normal and desirable to at least wait until you somewhat get to know someone before hooking up. i met my bf on grindr but most people on there r rlly degenerate.i'm sure you can find someone esp if you're like you say in the post, honestly maybe getting laid would devalue it a bit for you and you'd be more confident, but its probably only part of it
>>42306165>i have downloaded grindr because i think this is a good first stepIt absolutely isnt
>>42306165I think you're starting off on the right foot by taking care of yourself, genuinely is one of the best things you can do. I'm almost 21 and was khv as a 19 yo, got a random hookup and then pretty soon after got a gf (not who I hooked up with). I'm not fit (not fat just very skinny) but I'm told often I'm handsome and I do try to take good care of myselfIf you're anxious and shy you probably wont get much out of hookups, me personally I don't like them, my anxiety has gotten a lot better but not to the point where im comfortable with the vulnerability of having sex with almost a stranger, being in a relationship is better for me imo but ymmv.Grindr can be alright but just be careful, I've had friends who've used it for hookups and had sexual encounters they regretted. You're gonna get a lot of weird messages that you should just ignore, try to find somebody who will match your pace. Don't have much advice beyond that cause I've personally never used it but have had many friends that did.If you don't have one, get a job, working for a couple years really helped me break out of my shyness.
