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how do i make hypervigilance and cptsd go away. overthinking everything and comparing myself to others and never feeling relaxed is ruining my life. please help. late 20s transitioner. i've already lashed out at so many people i have no friends. i dont know. i've never been loved.
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>>42307556
I saw you post in a thread earlier about this and honestly i think you know asking here isn’t the correct place arent you therapy?
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>>42307672
ive been in therapy for years
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>>42307672
girl who wants an excuse to never change
>>42307556
go to the lgbt meetup and dont call anyone a luckshit and dont interrupt women and listen to their experience and believe them over the paranoid brainworms that they've fed you /onhere/

also, read "brainwyrms"

but you wont do either of those things because its haaaaard

so post more of that manga
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>>42307705
>go to the lgbt meetup and dont call anyone a luckshit and dont interrupt women and listen to their experience and believe them over the paranoid brainworms that they've fed you /onhere/
ive been to lgbt meetups. i dont call people luckshits and i dont interrupt women. I dont' get along with anyone at the meetups because the only thing we have in common is our identity.
>>42307705
>also, read "brainwyrms"
never heard of it
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>>42307739
>dont' get along with anyone at the meetups because the only thing we have in common is our identity
yeah cuz you have no hobbies and you're boring

>never heard of it
ok so read it what the fuck kind of retarded response is this. stop being a bitch goddamn
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>>42307757
i think if you're just replying to the thread to be combative it says more about you than it does about me, idk, please find something better to do than harass the unfortunate
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>>42307776
ngl i came into this thread to try to give you helpful advice but i can see why you have no friends. please try and talk more nicely, then people will be nice to you. its really not that hard just dont assume the worst intentions. you say you have hypervigilance, can you just be like "ok theyre obviously planning on bullying me but let me treat them like they're not until proven otherwise."

if you immediately accuse people lightly critiquing your writing style on the sarcasm website of harrassment you gotta like take a deep breath or something
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>>42307811
>ngl i came into this thread to try to give you helpful advice
no you didnt

>please try and talk more nicely
i'm addressing you with the exact same cadence as you are me, don't act offended that you're not providing anything.
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relate 100%. idk. current strat for me is trying to stop caring that everyone hates me bc i act in ways that they think are crazy. im not crazy. my choices are grounded in my experiences, and im trying not to give a fuck that other people refuse to believe me. ironically, ppl like you and i are the best-adapted for wars and famines and shit, so maybe (unfortunately) they'll understand us at some point. in the meantime, try not to lash out. try to remember that people who dont have ptsd are like little kids. they dont know how horrible the world can be, and ideally they shouldn't have to know. sounds condescending but it's true.
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>>42307823
alright anon you're right you should stay home and never talk to gay people and sink into your brainworms everyone is out to get you you are the only trans girl in the universe who feels like she doesnt fit in

is that the advice you were hoping for?
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>>42307852
as the years go by it pains me to realize the truth of this.
>>42307854
again, you really ought to find a better use of yourself than to project your narcissism onto others like this.
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>>42307852
this 100%. other people havent lived my life, i protect my boundaries, i do what i like, and people *respect me for it*
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>>42307864
>be hypervigilant and defensive for years
>drive people away
>they hate me
>start opening up and sharing my true heart
>people appreciate and like me and are kind

if i say b urself and trust your heart you're gonna call me a faggot
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>hypervigilant
>heres how to stop being hypervigilant people arent so bad
>YOU ARE SEXUALLY HARRASSING ME
nona...
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>>42307877
being myself, being open with my emotions and how i felt, is exactly what got me here to where i am. My true heart is something that has been beaten into oblivion, i wear everything on my sleeve.
>>42307890
is this a bot reply? sexually harassing? what?
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>>42307894
>My true heart is something that has been beaten into oblivion, i wear everything on my sleeve.
this seems like a contradiction. it's not about wearing your heart on your sleeve, it's about being able to communicate your interiority efficiently with body language and tone of voice

>>42307894
, i understand that you feel like a caged animal biting. just offering help and trying to show you that the world is not all bad while you're trying to gnaw off my hand
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>>42307909
>the world is not all bad
dunno what world you live in

i communicate everything. i dont know why you think im somehow disingenuous
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>>42307925
i live in a world where people reflect my attitude back to me. so because i smile, people smile back.

you're disingenuous because you're putting in zero effort. "read this book"/"but i havent read that book" ok like what am i supposed to do with that
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>>42307935
I just don't think you really get it, it's not me putting in zero effort, i just dont think it'd help. that's all.
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>>42307556
Therapy is a meme, it will only lead to suicide. If you don't have a super tight knit family and friend group, you need to manage it with drugs.
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>>42307962
oh im gonna die lol
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>>42307947
then there's zero chance it will help instead of whatever low arbitrary number you pick.

yeah, i was right, learned helplessness strikes again. get back to me in 1 year
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>>42307556
I think you should probably ask a psychiatrist rather than /tttt/
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>>42307989
i see one for two hours a week
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>>42307962
retard
>>42307947
>let me give up before i start surely that will work out
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>>42307993
i just dont see what's reasonably going to change from reading a book. i dont expect there to be anything substantial in there.
>>42307983
>yeah, i was right, learned helplessness strikes again. get back to me in 1 year
boring armchair psychiatry
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>>42308009
ah, you're a narcisist
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>>42308043
projection
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>>42308050
>psychiatrists and books cannot help me
ok have fun thinking your way out of it
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>>42308075
i've been trying plenty of both and they havent helped so far.
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>>42308113
and neither did 4chan nothing lost
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>>42307757
>yeah cuz you have no hobbies and you're boring
Have you been to a queer meetup...? If you have real, hands-on hobbies and interests most people there won't relate to you.
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was gonna comment but you already threw away every suggested thing you could do to improve your situation so i think you should post on 4chan about how everyone is out to get you and the world is evil idk

op have you ever done like a Week In The Big City? that helped me out of the small town mindset
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explain hypervigilance wtf is it
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>>42307556
You can suckle on my chaser cock until you get sleepy if you like, and then I'll tuck you in.
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>>42308152
i dont really know, i think it just means being paranoid and jumpy and never being able to relax and just being stressed all the time. it makes me sad and miserable. lots of overthinking
>>42308142
i also didnt bother replying to the queer meetup thing because i actually have spent the last 2 years trying to go to queer meetups where most of the other trannies there think im "cool" but aren't really worth being friends with and then i get very embarassingly flirted with because i look better than most of them. its really sad. i dont like queer meetups because. yeah.
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>>42308172
so you're someone the newbies look up to. keep your boundaries and they'll become powerful allies
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>>42308180
no, i want real friends, i want people that make me feel like i belong
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>>42308185
so what i'm reading is that you failed to graduate from newbie tranny into passoid, which means you have to take the newbie course again. if you dont have the ability to connect with woman or have a feminized voice, you'll be excluded from the passoid clique until you do pass.

i'm being metaphorical, but that's what's happened. you have to forge social connections by being a reliable person, and the connections you /need and deserve/ will come to you.

there's no shame in failing the first round. happened to me, it's much better to be above it all and be a pillar that the new girls can aspire to

you got this!!!
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>>42307556
if it helps i am struggling with some very similar issues. i live in constant fear and i am trying to surrender myself to psychiatry and psychology but i dont really believe its going to help because its all a racket. and i have no friends because i always cut them off and fall off the earth. and i dont get along with other trannies even. so you're not alone at least



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