ive been a neet for so long i dont think ill ever recover
>>42325083dw im a neet too. it gets better
alright
lesbian, gay, bisexual, & transgender
>>42325090when? im almost 30>>42325092r9k neets could never understand my pain
>>42325083>>42325090green text how u became a neet anonsand any others lurking in here
>>42325099just find a job dw
>>42325099ok i guess youre right, i go back and forth between lgbt and r9k every month
>>42325108there are many ways i could "justify" it to myself but the main events seem to be>hit puberty, start getting "dysphoric", start shaving my body and having meltdowns seeing my face>begin isolating myself, lose all my friends, feel socially inept and repulsive>slowly begin to fail school, lose all drive to continue, dont accept my university offer>parents are completely oblivious to all of this and ignoring me>school ends, i go in my room and stop coming out again>weeks turn into months into years
Sucks for them
>>42325108Being tortured mentally all my life, taking a gap year after somehow completing high school, and then never leaving the house again.
>>42325205yep, exactly what happened to me, school was just 7 straight years of ceaseless mental torture with no end or point. nobody ever asks you how you are or try to help you. its just a big meat grinder.
>>42325083I was a NEET for about a year because of extreme anxiety, somehow managed to make myself get a job and keep it but it wasn't even worth it because for my efforts I was rewarded with suddenly developing a chronic illness. Should've just killed myself years ago. What a waste of time.
>>42325374i was a neet for like 2 years before i first had a breakdown and tried to get a job, but i got rejected because i cant act normal so i gave up and went numb again
>>42325165>>weeks turn into months into yearsdamn...how many years has it been anon
>>42325401about 10 years now
>>42325407do u get out at all, like do u leave to go to the store or anything or full on shut in
>>42325441yeah i do go out these days, it used to be so bad i couldnt be outside because i felt like everyone was watching me and seeing what a subhuman i was.
>>42325449that's good anon, do you have any friends or anything you visit or come to visit you?i assume since it's been 10 years hard to maintain friendships by nature of what's going on
>>42325487i do have some friends, the internet is a blessing and a curse for that. i cant make irl friendships because im too alien but there are others like me out there and it helps talking to them>>42325374anon what job did you get, did it cause the illness you think? im sorry you are suffering
>>42325528>im too alienayy lmao would u like to come over and watch lain some time...i get that tho, doesn't get easier to make friends as u get older either
honestly yeah it's incredibly difficult to recover from and it's about more than just having a job. personally, i got a job a few years ago but i still otherwise live like a recluse. i still struggle to form any connections with others. i still don't leave my apartment unless i need to. it's rough anon, but hang in there and keep trying to push yourself just a little at a time
>>42325675i read the book on the subject written by the guy who coined the term hikkikomori. he said if you've been in that state for more than a year recovery is practically impossible without helpidk if i truly believe that but it really does feel like a massive weight around your neck.i think a big part of it is that the idea of getting a job or going to school feels like a massive life or death commitment, at any moment someone is gonna shame me for being a withdrawn person. which has happened in every job interview ive gone too and its difficult to tolerate.i cant connect to people irl but people online its not so bad. its even possible to meet them irl, communication is possible when you know someone isnt a normie that is judging you.what is your job anon, i was really trying to figure out what would be a tolerable and easy job to get for someone like us.>>42325548i never watched lain, but the main char is literally megetting older just makes it different i think, i was never gonna be an outgoing person anyway
>>42325528>anon what job did you get, did it cause the illness you think?I got a crappy, low-paying (I live in Eastern Europe btw) software engineering job. Before NEETing I just barely managed to go through higher education and get a relevant degree.The job did not cause the illness. I got it because of alcohol usage, which is something I had issues with for some time. I'd managed to limit my drinking to a few beers once per week, which didn't sound like too much to me, but apparently was enough to fuck up my digestive system. >im sorry you are sufferingThanks for the compassion, and I hope things go well for you.
>>42325885ah man now im jealous. i should have gotten a degree when i was younger. SWE is like black magic to me, anyone who says they do it it leaves an impression on me.it seems weird that a few beers would give you a chronic illness, it might not have been that alone, maybe you are susceptible to issues. i hope it improves
>>42325829i have made a couple friends irl who i see every once in a while but i have never been able to maintain an online friendship. it certainly is easier to feel comfortable around people who have had similar struggles.my job is in a factory. it was very easy to get, i started as a temp and there wasn't an interview, just a very basic english proficiency test. i've seen it said that people with autism and adhd do well with factory work and that seems to hold true for me. i don't have to work with others which is nice but my coworkers are very kind to me anyway, even though i'm a visible tranny and struggle with conversation. so yeah it's tolerable for me
>>42325938Most of what I do at work on a daily basis is really braindead stuff. My overlords could probably replace me with an LLM already if they cared. SWE jobs in lower-income countries are different than e.g. in the US. Americans and Western Europeans do the challenging and interesting work themselves but outsource the 90-IQ drudge work to us low-pay brainlets.>it seems weird that a few beers would give you a chronic illness, it might not have been that alone, maybe you are susceptible to issues.It turns out that even just a few beers can be considered heavy/binge drinking and can lead to issues if you're unlucky. I need to go to sleep now actually, so I won't reply anymore. Thanks, and I wish you good luck in life.
its hard to imagine a normal life after 10+ years of almost complete isolation
>>42326157you would be surprised at how quickly you can feel different once you make an irl friend or find yourself in a different environment, the difficulty is in overcoming the massive inertia and barriers, you have to do it slowly without expectations i think
>>42325083https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eD1pa_ovtY8
>>42326267i just feel like i am totally unable to relate to anyone. i will be changing my environment soonish. i guess its a first step
>>42326284i find this stuff to be kind of psuedoscientific.ofc diet and exercise help but like, the reason neets feel retarded is because we have nothing to stimulate us, we forgot how to socialise because we havent done it in years. slow supportive exposure is all that is needed.
>>42325108>it's the late 2010s>lazy, unambitious person to begin with>work part-time / temp / seasonal jobs; make nowhere near enough money to afford my own place, but it's enough to entertain myself>never had friends and i still don't, really, but i'm starting to meet people thru hobbies and such>realistically i'm not going anywhere living like this, but i'm still young, there's time to change, and it's a fairly comfy, pleasant life overall>2020>pandemic hits>now have a legitimate reason to stay home and do nothing, >naturally, this activates all my worst tendencies>tell myself i'll get back out in the world and try to live better when things clear up>things never clear up>never (re)connect with the world>isolation predictably shreds me mentally>been half a decade now lol>too old for it to be cute anymore>suicide, probablyanywayhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3ycaoV0WXfk
