Is it wrong to hate my ex who (wrongly) accused me of abusing her years later still? She's from a super rich family and passes now too which makes it even worse. I genuinely pray on her downfall every day but I feel it isn't healthy
>>42327710no why would you be wrong to think they're a piece of shit for that idiotyou likely won't ever get closureit probably fucked up your life pretty badeven if you didn't face legal action likely lost friends over this
>>42327710>I genuinely pray on her downfall every daythis part is wrongperpetual resentment isn't good for you
>>42327747How do i let it go when it fucked my shit up socially and still does
I went through something like this OP. She kind of abused me physically and then stolen valored the things she did and said I did them to her. For example punching me in the back of the head when I was facing away from her and giving me a concussion, later saying I'm the type who will hit someone with their back turned. Also said every time we had sex I raped her because she was afraid of me hurting her. She posted on social media about wanting to mutilate my body and tear my dick off. Said something about wanting to "choke me out with the long dick of the law". Legally nothing came of it. It was just her words and physically I was the only battered person. I wasn't even tried and acquitted just straight up there wasn't anything to press charges on. Still I can't even really talk about it or talk to other domestic violence survivors because I carry the mark of a wife beater. Next relationship I'd sometimes go into shock and ask her repeatedly if I was abusing her while sweating bullets. She finally said she couldn't handle these episodes anymore and told me to go to therapy. Therapist believed me and I asked how can she be certain I'm not lying. She just said whoever is lying is going to repeat their behaviors because someone like that can't keep that shit contained. It has been 8 years and I've never hit or raped anyone, no criminal record.What sucks is I'm an alleged abuser and rapist for the rest of my life even though legally nothing happened. At some point in any relationship I have to tell them that someone said I raped and hit them. Probably fair to hate your ex for that but at some point you gotta let things go and just know life on earth is going to have maladjusted people in it and that life is unfair. There are still lots of worthwhile things to experience anyways. Hating people from the past doesn't fix anything or make the present better. Read berserk imo maybe it will help you process what you went through.
