honestly it's not so much the actually rude assholes that annoy me. that's like 1 person in 1,000 when you're in a big city, 1 person in maybe 10 in the most conservative areas. Unless I'm visiting my parents in their little hick town, I almost never have a bad interaction. What really annoys me is never being able to feel like, normal, y'know? Women are usually nice to me, but they give me the gay best friend+ treatment which makes me feel like I need to "perform" a kind of gay fabulousness that I don't always feel. Men are usually quite chill once they realize I have a "bro" side and love bantering, but again, I'm neither "one of the guys" or "some chick" but a weird, third thing. I kinda never know what people think of me or expect of me. Sometimes people tell me they had no idea I was trans, like they're shocked when I mention having a male passport or whatever. Other people think I'm just a fruity man with a girly name. Really depends on what I'm wearing, whether I have makeup or not, and what my voice is like on a given day. Having my social identity depend on such arbitrary, contingent, fluctuating gendered characteristics just feels very unstable sometimes.

All you can do is try to put your best foot forward (in terms of both your appearance and your energy/personality) and never tale yourself too seriously. I have had crusty old British TERFs tell me I changed their opinions on "males in female spaces" with my lovely feminine energy or whatever. Social skills are super important. Don't try to transition locked in your room all day, even if you can take good pics of yourself you need to learn how to be a "woman"(thing) out in the world. good luck gyal

>>42328234
i doubt i'd be very good at the whole performing thing on account of my autism but i don't want to become a social butterfly so im not too worried about that

>>42328234
>Social skills are super important. Don't try to transition locked in your room all day, even if you can take good pics of yourself you need to learn how to be a "woman"(thing) out in the world
Accurate and based.
The biggest problem too many trannies on this board have is not that they might be hons, but rather that they're shut ins.

>>42328169
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Idk "twinkhon" is a very loose term and I think it depends how you’re gendered first while boymoding. I’m not 100% socially transitioned (I’d never be able to keep a job otherwise), but I’m a nonpassing tranny in the uk with enough time presenting female to give a little perspective.
>i need to work on my mental health and social skills too but im just wondering how it is
It’s good you realise this because even the most passing trans women repeatedly mess this up. Mentally transitioning is just as important as physically and socially transitioning and I really recommend you seek a good challenging therapist as you begin to slowly social transition. If anything it’s simply a safe space if the world takes a bit more time than expected to be kinder to you (my experience, I know it’s very easy to want to be a shut-in in the face of anything "scary" you’ll face outside).
>how do people treat an average looking twinkhon in the modern world(say, uk)?
I was gonna make a big long post but I think >>42328234 is a bit more of a realistic scenario. While I might be "average" from a picture my experiences arent and I’d rather say something helpful than doom and gloom you out, but if you already pass in boymode a little and have any supportive friends you have a fantastic headstart much further than me and will likely cruise through the early transition period fine especially if you live in a big city.

>>42328296
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>how often do you deal with rude or agressive people and how do you handle situations like that?
Ok this I can give advice on god forbid it ever happens to you. This happens often to me, a lot of it just annoying rude "banter" you have to and eventually will learn to brush off but I have had genuine aggression from real transphobes following me, yelling at me, recording me, and sometimes getting physical with me. It sucks self-defence laws in the uk are so bad but having a bag with something heavy in it you can swing is maybe as good as you can get, REALISTICALLY though you just walk away, these people always older (much older) and you can easily get away but it still shakes you. That’s why I stressed the importance of having a safe space like therapy go really process this stuff if you can’t find that with family or friends. Praying you’ll never have to face this, I’ve travelled to cities and places where no one’s even glowered at me, but even just for that little extra peace of mind please prepare. I’d consider it an important part of developing social skills.
>overall would you say that its better than boy/manmoding?
Absolutely. Remember that this is for yourself and your own dysphoria first and foremost. It might take a while to "convince" the public on how you present but you should be feeling the positive changes immediately after starting. Idk I don’t really know how to wrap this up lol. Be safe, I can’t stress therapy enough look into it immediately and don't neglect your mental transition, don’t get scared and sabotage at the first roadblock, you’ll do great, you’ll do absolutely great. Good luck anonette <3

>>42328296
>if you already pass in boymode a little
i dont know if i do or not. my language doesnt have gendered pronouns and i dont interact with people often so i really dont get any sort of input from strangers. ive posted my face here(multiple times) and some people say that i look fine or even good and some say that im ugly and look like a man so i gave up on asking others what they think.

>>42328319
i mean i have malefailed on 1 or 2 occasions but it was all from old people so i dont count that. 2 guys once asked me if im a guy or a girl at a bus stop so i guess thats something