Any other trannies who can't function alone? Self-development, hobbies, self-care, all flies out the window without someone else
>>42328315literally everyone who requires society to survive is helpless and dependent for almost every need (both material and immaterial). having trouble finding meaning without direct personal connection is perfectly normal for a social animal. what's not normal is all the insane terms we come up with to make people blame themselves for not willfully participating in the most delusional game of make believe in known existence. do you tell your cat it has a personality disorder when it purrs in your lap? why tell yourself you have one for wanting to live a life like that? it's normal. nothing will ever protect you like love and thinking something else will is what is insane.
>>42328472I dont think its normal to be totally dysfunctional without a romantic relationship. As a social animal your instincts should drive you to make yourself a good mate when you dont have oneI have friends so its not as if Im isolated. I just crash and burn without a partner
>>42328532well what's keeping you from finding one to stay with >_<
>>42328315I do this but it's just because I am lazy and a bad person, really
>>42328315I have a very infantile personality on the emotional level and require coregulation from a caretaker. Am not sure why, other than cptsd
>>42328315for me it's somewhat the opposite, when i'm with someone else i adopt their entire personality, opinions, hobbies and often ask for validation from them. so i really prefer to be alone! i feel like that's the only way i can be myself somewhat
>>42328599but which sonic character is your favorite
>>42328565I just haven't found anyone. Im a transbian so its a lot harder to find the kind of person who likes this. Men like it more>>42328608I dont have a personality on my own. So getting to adopt my partners is amazing.. and it does help me want to pursue my own stuff i guess
>>42328315genuinely this is me
>>42328608I did this one single time and we dated for 3 years. After breaking up I had no idea who I was anymore and had to find myself. It was quite terrifying. Now when I am in a relationship I cherish and protect my individuality at all costs
>>42328626well i mean how do you know you're gonna be functioning in a relationship if you haven't had one?personally i'm a mega c-ptsd superloser who thought i had no utility to anyone or anything and literally couldn't walk to a mailbox alone without crying (yes really and for years)... BUT THEN!!! my bff moved in and now we've been living together for like 12 years and she has a decent job and we both are living better than any other point in our lives and make art and music and stuff together and it's great most of the time.
>>42328668>it's great most of the time.how/when is it not great
>>42328728more of a complex question than you might imagine and something i think summing up might undermine the truth of by nature of raising more questions than it answers. there are really simple things like having to work a 9 to 5 never being ideal for anyone or health problems causing issues (i am partially disabled), and then there are more complicated things stemming from nuances of our dynamic that can result in arguments or worrying about failing ourselves or one another.the friction needed for a healthy relationship that helps promote the growth of both individuals isn't always plainly and obviously fun, though is frequently necessary for growth and provoking more meaningful interactions. some of the 'bad' parts are integral to the 'good' parts, so what i might complain about could also develop into a story about an important learning/bonding moment. neither of us are what the other wanted, romantically speaking - but what we thought we wanted out of a romantic relationship was driven by desire that had not been examined enough to realize our expectations and desires never equated to what another person actually is or offers. it's kind of like when you produce a track - no one actually imagines a full song and just goes about instrumenting it into reality, it's born from a lot of experimentation and experiences, and often the product of many happy accidents that maybe weren't immediately happy. we make better music together even though it is sometimes painful and confusing and we step on each others' toes or egos. i mean i feel like for emotional realization and general "quality of life," what's "not great" may actually be integral for developing and realizing what is 'ideal', which grows and changes every day. it's at its worst obviously when there is a lack of harmony following the friction - often when she has been depressive for too long a streak and i've become too high strung trying to help untangle it or motivate myself
>>42328631duh thats why u spam the board even tho everyone hates you
