how do i get over people i haven't talked to in 4 years but am still mentally obsessed with?
>>42338125Get a job
There is an underlying issue that has nothing to do with them as individuals. It's normal to grieve a separation but after a point it's not really about them anymore
>>42338125why are you obsessed with people you don't talk to op
>>42338125Find someone better than the people you’re currently obsessed with
>>42338130i have one. I actually dont even dislike it to>>42338152last time i felt like things were going to be ok is with these people.specifically with one of them i feel like i let her down and the guilt kills me.
>>42338166> last time i felt like things were going to be ok is with these people. specifically with one of them i feel like i let her down and the guilt kills meAverage BPD post
>>42338166so you are trying to recreate for yourself and live through a time when things were good in your lifehas it been that bad for 4 years? do you talk to other people like friends or family?
>>42338125why don't you talk to them anymore?
>>42338125Lobotomy or pick up the pieces and rebuild from there
>>42338182no im fine with not recreating it, i dont want to recreate it neccessarily. I just want to be happyIve had friends and such in that period. But getting cut off from that group i feel like hurt my ability to feel safe and comfortable with others and also to feel comfortable and vulnerable in a lot of ways>>42338190member of the group falsely accused me of something i didnt do and they all turned on meThe person i was closest with (who ive had a crush on ive been trying to suppress ever since we stopped talking) stopped talking to me because i also unintentionally really hurt her.
>>42338223>I just want to be happyyou need to live today anonunfortunate part of meeting people is being vulnerablewhat did you get assumed of that made them all suddenly stop talking to you?what did you do to mess up your friendship with your crush?
>>42338219Where can I get a lobotomy?
>>42338243Therapist will give you prozac and you will feel weird
>>42338125Not gonna lie, Just hate them. Where if you get the idea of them, it instantly makes you want to not think about them.
>>42338250They are super stingy with the good meds here sadly
>>423382421.I have met plenty of people. The problem is not that. I think a lot of it is just the lack of any stable romantic relationship + the feeling every friendship is fleeting and transactional2. Person within group had a crush on me, didnt want to talk to me abymore after deciding not to break up with their partner to date me, so falsely accused me of some drama stuff and got me kicked out the group.3. She was trans and was newly accepting herself. I outted her to a few mutual friends in hopes that them calling her prefered name and such would get her to accept herself better. This was a dumb idea for obvious reasons but i was stupid and knew nothing about trans people.
>>42338264Tried this it didnt work :/
>>42338125get a job
>>42338532try harder. they left you because they do not care. they deserve hate
