Is it rude for a cis man to compliment a trans woman on aspects of their transition?Like if I compliment their hair or their style of dress or their voice, does it come across as back handed?For instance, I ran into a trans woman that I hadn't seen in a while. We didn't really talk, just said hi, but I noticed that her voice was much higher and more feminine; whereas before she just spoke with a normal guy voice. So I figure she must have been working on it. Would she take offense if I had pointed it out? Like "oh wow, your voice sounds great. You've been training?" Would that be out of line for me to say?
leave out the second half repbro
>>42340110it's a you look like you lost weight comment. as her mental fortitude and status is unknown I suggest not saying it
>>42340640Okay. I will continue to not talk to trans people. :(Thanks.
>>42340885You know you can talk to people without the negging.
>>42340925I wasn't trying to neg, I like to give compliments.She obviously puts a lot of effort into her femininity, but like >>42340640 said if I comment on it it sounds like I am calling her trans.
>>42340984i guess you're being genuine. no probably don't bring it up if they are trying hard to just blend in it is just going to make them self-conscious even if they respond politely. that or activate some complex and have them attach to you. either way.
I personally would just take the compliment desu it means I'm doing something righti really can't speak on behalf of other mtfs though it's very touchy
tell her she's "big up" and that she "slimes the competition". This will signal to her that you're mentally retarded.
>>42341006>>42341017So I should not say anything?>>42341043Will this make her laugh?
>>42341160Depends how well you know her desu. In most instances I'd say hold the transition compliments until you guts are caught up and having friendly chit chat then feel it out
Just compliment her as a girl unless you're close enough to talk about trans stuff I don't like me being trans being acknowledged
>>42341175I would say that I do not know her well. We had a conversation once a while back that ended awkwardly when she said she used to think she was a guy. It was strange in the context of the conversation and I didn't know what to say. As you can probably tell, I am not the fast talker.So we're not "friends". I'm just trying to be friendly, you know?We didn't have a conversation this time. I just recognized her as I was walking past and I said "hey, what's up" and she said "hi" and I noticed the voice. But I didn't know if I should mention it so I just kept walking.
>>42341160>will this make her laughProbably not unless if she likes youbut it helps your delivery considerably if you don't care what she thinks of you. Fools ask for no permission to jingle their bells.
>>42341286I can see how the voice is an obvious acknowledgement of her being trans. It just came to mind as something she must have been putting effort into. Like saying that a guy who's been working out is looking more buff. But I can see why a trans girl might not want it brought up. That's why I made the thread.She has nice hair and always dresses well too but idk.>>42341383I'm not worried about what she thinks of me per se, but I'm not looking to make her day worse.
>>42341417>but I'm not looking to make her day worse.intent is your primary contribution, you can't really dictate the moods of others or how they choose to interpret your interactions, it's a 2 way street after all. You can only be true to yourself and act in good faith.
>>42340110So my social interaction cheat for someone you haven't seen in a while is to ask them how life is going or how they are in general, and a lot of the time they will respond with something that they are proud about or feel good about which you can then compliment. So this compliment out of nowhere is probably not good, but if she first mentions she's been feeling more confident regarding her transition or working on her voice, then I think it's fine to say "Oh it sounds really good, I noticed right away". I don't think most transgirls would say something like this but you never know.If I am in a relationship with a guy I do find compliments about my body to be flattering and helps with self-confidence so you can do it, but I'm never sure exactly how to respond
>>42341160i mean i would still speak to her obviously lol. compliment only if it seems contextually appropriate (e.g. >>42341519 )
>>42341417I mean I would say outfits/hair/make-up are "safe" compliments to give women but if you do it all the time she might think you're gay.
>>42341519>ask them how life is going or how they are in generalPeople do this to me and I find it uncomfortable because I have nothing good to share, and then they just keep asking like they're interrogating me.>>42341519 >>42341548>compliment out of nowhere is probably not good>compliment only if it seems contextually appropriateI see. I usually try to begin with a compliment. Their response usually makes it obvious whether they're open to talking or if they're in a hurry.Guess I am a weirdo after all. Maybe I'll just stop talking all together.>>42341590Liking women's hair makes me gay?
>>42341711don't stop talkin ya goober >_<
>>42340110you'll do better complimenting her hairstyle or her clothes
Autistic loyal bf to insecure mtf gf energy
I wouldn't do it even though I'm attentive and appreciate most little things she does to be more feminine. Each little thing makes it easier to love her but see that sounds bad even though it's true. One of the first things out of my mouth was that she's hot for a tranny and that almost fumbled her. The best advice I received here was treat her like she's cis, take her transness out of it as much as you can stand to do.
>>42341734I am not good at it. I will say something wrong. :(>>42341824I wouldn't say "nice voice for a tranny" but it would be implied, I guess.If I see her again I will avert my eyes and take a different path so as to not say something rude.>>42341784I don't understand?
>>42341882Jesus ur perfect
