Exercise Editionprevious: >>42162119Goal of the thread: Go out for a walk, or try to get any other form of small exercise (walking stairs for 5 mins for example)Daily goals can be repeated. Remember to keep score, it can only go up!>What is this thread for?Getting better is hard, and sucks. A lot. It does not get easier doing it alone.Share resources and experiences with combating depression, anxiety, personal issues, achieving or maintaining a healthy weight, etc.>Why is this thread /lgbt/?Struggles with mental and physical health are an indisputable part of /lgbt/ life, be it from dysphoria, social pressure, heartbreak, or just unfortunate lifestyle choices.>Notes to consider:Please be civil. Shame is your greatest enemy in fighting urges of self abuse (be it sh, drugs, or just self deprecation). Relapsing into bad and unhealthy habits is to be expected, the goal is to increase the average amount of time it takes between relapses. Any improvement is a victory no matter how small. Your worth and right to get better are non-negotiable. And most importantly:WE ARE NOT THERAPISTS, WE DON'T REPLACE MEDICATION>Note on adviceGeneric advice won't necessarily help you in particular, but for those it does it is an essential foundation to build future progress on, not a miracle cure. Do not underestimate the effects subtle changes to your lifestyle can have. Try first, keep us posted on your progress, build from there.We are *always* short on self help resources, so if anything was useful to you, let us know!Since the OP is getting too long I moved all resources into their own post, see below!## RESOURCE LINKS:Resource link paste: https://rentry.co/sig-resources-2025-07General advice from Anons: https://rentry.co/sig-tips-2024-04Posts from other sites (markdown format): https://rentry.co/sig-posts-2024-04
Apart from the GOTT, here are a few things you can do _today_ to make your life a little better. Keep a diary and write down every success. Some you may do as often as you please, but write down each one individually! You deserve it! Do not feel pressured to do all, but feel free to select one or two!- prepare 1 load of laundry- do 1 load of laundry- read one page of a book or manga you have been putting off- cook yourself a meal, or try learn to make a simple dish- eat a meal- pick up items on the floor for 5 minutes- make your bed- if you have a bad habit, try making it more inconvenient (putting things in hard to reach places for example)- do the dishes for 3 minutes- write down one thing you are grateful for (from abstract things to something like a cute image you saw)- Clean up 1m^2 of your floor (~40x40 in)- Open your window for 10-20 minutes- try to exercise for 5 min (walk outdoors, walking stairs, whatever you wish)- take out the trash- drink a glass of water- put one item of trash in the bin- reach out to an online contact (perhaps even try arrange spontaneously meeting up with an IRL contact near you!)- BONUS: Repeat a goal to hit a milestone (1 book chapter rather than a page, the laundry pile, the floor of one room, etc)Unofficial group chats maintained by kind anons of /sig/:IRC: presently defunct afaik.Discord: https://discord.gg/pUuXdBjKX2
today: did laundry that I didn't really need to do, but felt like it. sure, housemates totally expectedly fried some disgusting stuff without giving a fuck about ventilation, so now it'll stink it up, but idc I hope they get karma back for it
>>42294631That's a lovely thing to hear!>>42298391>If I can't make a contribution and leave a legacy,>I fail to see any other point in lifeI would like to take a step back and change gear here, since "it doesn't matter" is actually one of the #1 kinds of ways addiction pulls people back in in general, and there often is a lot of self deception involved there. I wanna ask about two particular things in all this: one, what about legacy would you say appeals to you, and two, how fulfilled/stimulated do you feel overall by life in sobriety?>>42298486>ignore them and just keep focusing on myself and your peersIt definitely does, though I feel like it is concerning that they have that much of a reach that stuff like>i want to let it go an heal, but every 6 or seven months a girl will go: "wow some people told me some really bad stuff about you, now we cant be friends."is a regular occurrence. I doubt they are friends with everyone you meet, right? Actually, how do people react when you tell them those girls are cunts and spreading rumors of people, which seems accurate? Honestly they must have made enemies too with this.>>42303446>Wishing you all the best, thank you for all of the effort.Thank you Anon, as always doing my best.>>42303969>why so busy signonJob in new city, moving, this kinda stuff, unfortunately. It won't let off for a few more weeks.
>>42311125>Finally have it a little bit better put together for the second term of uni, crammed shit hours before the exams and did alright. Went to the gym today and trying for 3 days a week.Sounds like things are off to a good start for you this year! I'm rooting for you.>Felt like blogposting,remember to get your vitamin levels checked if you can (if you can...) I went to the doctor because my hair was falling out and I thought I was balding lolzAlways a good idea, yeah, it's shocking how things like those can fuck with mental health, right? Started taking vit D too not too long ago. >>42311355>Probably twice a week, once a week feels like too littleVery fair, please keep us posted in that regard, especially if it fails, since then we gotta tweak the approach.>Everything, from eye contact to knowing what to say to people to body language, it's like I'm barely human in that aspect>I think it's because I'm neurodivergentHm, we actually have a book that might be exactly what you're looking for, called "What to say next", linked in the resources, the download links might be kill but I can dig you up another one if it seems promising and none work for you.>>42314580>Oh i wonder what will it be tomorrow? Wake up, jerk off and then either wall around for 5 hours or play on the computer till sleep.>>Oh but what if you changed and did that and this.>Won't work. I'm low IQ and psychologically mutilated.It is perfectly understandable that you feel miserable in such circumstances, and as much as it sucks it is true that the only way out is to do things that will feel even more miserable in the beginning (it does get better though). But let me start with an important question first. You say it won't work, and I want to take your past experiences very seriously here, so please, don't hesitate to share the experiences that made you come to that conclusion. I don't want you to feel talked at after all, I want to take things into account.
>>42317075>this website is really bad for my body imageOh 100%. But remember your body image is malleable from within and without. We can try talk about means to counteract, if you wanna.>>42319450>I went to the gym today but I was only there for 22 minutes.I know I am a little late to the party but how did that happen, out of curiosity?>>42320715>just within my first tiny 60 second interaction with my first teacher she found a chance to give me a sad look and tell me that i apologize too much. just like everybody else does.I think you might make yourself too small because you preemptively assume everyone will see you as lesser than your peers, and that you waste their space by existing. It is a difficult habit to change but chances are that people see a ton more worth in you than you ever could on your own if you let them. There might even be someone almost exactly like you who sees YOU as one of those beautiful people they will never be like. You would like her to be less lonely too, right?>>42319421I am sorry for your loss, it is no wonder you are overwhelmed right now. I definitely don't condone using LLMs for homework but I won't chastise someone struggling. I think the other Anon was already super helpful but I gotta ask:>I'm going to lose my scholarship, and then will have to give up on my dreams of being a student tutor, then I'll never be a faculty, and my parents will forcefully marry me off and I will never be happy.Can you elaborate a bit? Like, this sounds like a very specific set of circumstances, I wanna make sure I understand how things fir together.>>42325696Do you have a schedule? I personally try to post on particular days (Something like Sa-Su, Wed, Thu-Fri) with everything else being optional extras. It helps giving me a sense or urgency.
>>42342773>please keep us posted in that regardso far i haven't done it in 3 days>Hm, we actually have a book that might be exactly what you're looking for, called "What to say next", linked in the resources, the download links might be kill but I can dig you up another one if it seems promising and none work for you.will read, thank you
>>42324072What is your current BMI, Anon? And what is your target? I am asking because I need to first check what goals you are setting for yourself, and try to help you reach your goals sustainably. Especially since your goal is to be attractive for others, which might force you into counter-intuitive approaches, but one thing after the other.>>42328196>>42327418Crypto, to the best of my understanding, is a perfectly normal asset like many others. The transactions on the blockchain, to the best of my understanding, are not anonymous. If your friend still has that wallet any tx is publicly visible. I think the other anons are right, ask a counselor.>How do I accept the loss and move on? I feel like this is going to permanently scar me and not in a good way, I already have a hard time talking to people and opening up to them. I wish I could disappear.The very first thing would be to cope by reasserting the control you do have. Money is a hard boundary to set. Openly state you aren't comfortable talking money, and reject any exchange of money beyond pittance amounts, for example. It is okay to build walls regarding certain subjects. It does not make you unapproachable. >>42326927>i feel ive made no progress in my life at all in any aspect. im so crushed.Okay, so you worked on your transition but everything else feels like it didn't move forward at all? Can you articulate concrete goals you would like to achieve? This way we can try find actionable things to do for you.>>42330015>I know its silly but i dont want to do it unless i have somewhat of a gurantee that i'll turn cute afterwards.Here is an important question: do you want to be cute for yourself, the people around you, or would it be enough if you had someone you love that finds you cute?
Sorry everyone, I need a break tonight.I will reply to more posts from last thread tomorrow. Thank you all so much for your patience. I am slowing down because the heart palpitations are back (moving is taking a lot out of me combined with several worries about family and loved ones). All that is to say, I try to take care of myself.
I have decided to stop moping and being content/complacent with my nothingburger underpaid corporate gig after getting my associates and I'm going to leverage my relationship with a couple esteemed professors from my research stint and apply for my dream schools as a returning education/general studies and transfer into the things I now know are meaningful to meIt was always my dream to pursue academia and work in research for the field(s) I'm passionate about, it always felt like home, and I broke my biggest childhood promise to not let myself slip through the cracks only to end up coming home everyday lying to myself that work was more than tolerable like I saw my parents do - recruited mid-degree, cozy career gig I could coast until the day I die, but completely unfulfilling and borderline meaningless. It's scary but relieving to remember the lust and fire for learning. I haven't posted here in over half a decade but needed to put this out to the world somehow: please follow what you love and find a way to make it work, I could've stayed the path and chose the safe option. It wasn't worth it, but I know things aren't over. If you're going to come to this cesspool board, please keep coming to this thread. It makes me so happy to see this light in the dark. Don't get into your 30's and have to struggle with the demons of lost time and paying the price of starting again. That said, if you're in my position already, we're all gonna make it.Despite the snowstorm and the tears I'm going to go out for that walk now, and - god willing - not post here for another several years. The world is rough these days, please do everything you can to be kind to yourselves. and rember to smack that like and subscribe on this blogpost
>>42341787Is this switch fit game any good or is it another meme? DDR is really good for cardio
>>42339418I'm using LaTeX for mine for the past 10 years. What I noticed as best practices:> Version control and make the experience part modular so you can customize per job> Have cover and motivation letters written by a *good* AI, on the other side, they will use a sentiment analysis checker and look for keywords related to your research on the company.> Export with pdfLaTeX, that's important, jobs accept applications only in pdf or docx.> Use pandoc to render it to docx on demand, some agencies need your cv editable (ie. When they use standardized formatting or need to remove the name and the photo) Always lector pandoc output to ensure docx formatting remains sane (it won't), and you still fit in 2 a4 pages.> No complex formatting - you'll see easy graphics in a lot of formats if you're not using your own .sty, but anyone who uses an ats means that no human would ever look at your cv. (Worst case, the first human gets into the loop at 2nd/3rd round interviews)> The ATS will display a page where you have a chance to correct the information - 99% missing data and typos. It's essentially a cheap and very shit ECR, billed €$10k/yr.> Write the .sty once, update the content files with the exp, mix and match per environment.> Keep a linkedin presence feeding from the master of your experience files, and a *clean* (no lgbt affiliation, no religion, no politics) adbook.
>>42343176Thank you for all of the hard work. I rly appreciate it.
>>42343126>Here is an important question: do you want to be cute for yourself,Myself. I'm a neet hermit. I dont have friends and i rarely talk with my family and if i turned into a cute girl overnight i wouldnt change anything about the way i live my life. I just want to look cute.
>>42343562Thanks, anon, this was really helpful!
