i want to rent an apartment with another trans roomie. thing is, i've only been on e for 6 months and i boymode but i 1 have a job 2 have rented an expensive-as-shit apartment before and 3 am near getting a university degree. so essentially, i would be the breadwinner and they could work wherever just to build savings or something. how exactly do i go about achieving this? i've always wanted to move in with someone who i can be super comfortable and open with
>>42345855idk go on local queer facebook groups, go to trans community events. i know two trans women irl who live together and met on 4chan.
>>42345855Where do you live and are you racist
>>42345855will send my application as a stable working professional looking to move and save up and live with trans roomie if you live somewhere interesting
>>42345855i have been living with my bff for i think 13 years now (and both of us on hrt longer) and she passes and i look like a 6 foot tall pooner that is usually assumed to be the boyfriend because of a litany of reasons. but i love my life a lot. she makes the money and i am the homebody that spends all her money and frankly as long as i keep my baby face and people like to smile and talk to me i am very happy. idk talk to some ppl on a dating app (go cringe and use shit like lex if you have to) with a burner account and see if anyone actually wants to talk to you. just kinda just run your mouth and see if they just like listening and give it a trial run, stick with whoever you like talking to the most chances are they're going to be like "wow holy shit you're going to pay for stuff??"
guys i'm not taking applications i'm just asking if it's feasible
>>42345960>i have been living with my bff for i think 13 years nowgoals
>>42345970Yeah it’s feasible
>>42345855this is going to be an attractive offer for a lot of people, you should have no problem finding people who will want this arrangement. i will say as someone who has been the provider for some friends in a similar way, you need to be someone who can be proactive and handle conflict. there may come a time when things aren't working out as well or you become unhappy with the situation for any reason. if it needs to come to an end, it can be very difficult or impossible for you to put someone out who is relying on you for their basic necessities, especially if you care about them a lot. if you are too passive, you may get stuck in a situation that is making you miserable because the alternative is ruining someone else's life. i'm not saying this to discourage you, as living with people you like is indeed a very nice time, just want you to be aware that it can be a big commitment when the other person is dependent on you
wait is the implication here you're not charging rent? 99% of sane people aren't gonna be okay with that, dealbreaker for me, that's super fucked up
>>42345855It's a very stupid arrangement. Trannies are mentally ill on average. Find a normal tranny and split the rent.
>>42346090not op but im confused why wouldnt you wanna live with someone who pays for your needs? i think if i was friends with the person and had a bit of my own money saved up i'd totally do it
>>42346128want to? 100%, but that's predicated by trust and understanding. it comes off very strange how OP worded it, almost transactional >live with me for free because im lonelyquickly turns into shitty situations. what's stopping OP from just...finding a trans roommate normally or asking a friend to move in? the fact this is even posited as a question is just weird and feels nefarious. situation rife for abuse
>>42346150oh i see
>>42346150>what's stopping OP from just...finding a trans roommate normally or asking a friend to move in?i never go to lgbt events around town or talk to a lot of people at uni. people at work are a bit too... overly friendly or socialized for my comfort. a lot of people think well of me (and i'm not just saying that) but i never make any deep connections with anyone because i'm bad at that.honestly, i did word my post oddly. this isn't some sort of bait trap, i did say the other person has to at least have a job to pay for something, but you're right it should be explicitly split 50/50 so that's my fault (i was thinking like if i can't pay or something happens they can take over the remaining amount? which doesn't really make sense in hindsight actually.).
>>42345855where do you live this sounds really cooli can obv help out with money its not an issue
>>42346302or i can just live by myself, i just thought it was a nice concept
>>42346031talk to friends a lot! do everything it takes to make your friendships filled with trust and openness and a mutual desire to want to work through things. don't just avoid arguments, and learn to find hard times and big disagreements rewarding so that boredom is always a worse alternative to a new challenge to get to experience more together. people think best friends shouldn't bicker but i've yet to meet someone who thinks that who has actually lived with someone for more than 5 years and still loves 'em to pieces. be embarrassing. piss with the door open and have a conversation while you're doing it. shower together and pop each others' zits. shove taco bell in your earner's mouth when they drive you out at midnight and tell them you love eating taco bell with them. say when you hate something. say when you love something. etc. etc. etc.
>>42346302yeah i read into it too much makes sense and i agree would be idealim strongly considering uprooting my life to live in the city to have a trans roomie(among other reasons)
>>42345855>Trans roomieThese niggas don't clean dishes and goon at night. Enjoy high electricity bill and extra housework.
>>42346429That sounds horrible.T. Autistic cis male
>>42346535OPelaborate, why?
>>42346535it's great. if you're very anti-social find someone you can always do independent activities in proximity of and make sure you're both being efficient or at least thoroughly engaged. a lot of what makes a happy and rewarding relationship is being to tolerate and enjoy company even when you want them to shut the fuck up and may spontaneously explode once in a while because of misophonia, etc. this will also teach you to get along with cats better
>>42346429this is extremely wise
>>42346529how do you know this
>>42346529i use to be a chef, i cook lovely meals with extra to share if wanted (and take requests), and i always leave the kitchen cleaner than it was when i startedyou got me on the gooning/hookups though