you read the title. im cismale 23 and they're afab nb 24. I genuinely do not know what to fucking do at this point. I really do love them and care for them but ive noticed my mental health has taken a sharp decline when we started dating (and it was already pretty shit to begin with). but the thing is I really, REALLY dont want to be a lonely incel again. should I just kms or what. idfk what to do. someone with previous experience concerning enbies with BPD and autis help me.
>>42360836leave them, being an incel is miles better than being damaged goods
>>42360836>BPDRUN, anon! NOW!I'm serious!It will never get better with a BPDemon. Sure, it's not their fault necessarily either, but you gotta protect yourself!>I really, REALLY dont want to be a lonely incel againYou won't be for much long. Now you have experience. You know what to avoid. That's valuable in itself.I know this is 4chan, but I'm dead serious when I advise you to run. BPDemons are not something you want to date or live with.I don't wanna write a blogpost but please believe me that it doesn't get better. I tried for 3 years. Nearly ended up dead.
OP I was in a situation where I had this exact thought. >I don't want to be lonely again>I might not ever find something againFact is I eventually grew so fucking miserable that I truly didn't care if I never found love again. But also you can find love again
>>42360868>I don't wanna write a blogpost but please believe me that it doesn't get better. I tried for 3 years. Nearly ended up dead.She tried to murder you or what?
>>42360944>She tried to murder you or what?He. But yes.And that's in addition to me becoming suicidal.Ironically, a troon saved me. She slapped me so hard and yelled at me that she literally woke me up from the doom that OP is describing.I'll always cherish my friendship with her.
>>42360957Damn it was kind of misogynistic that I just assumed it was a woman, my bad
>>42360964No worries. I'm a bigod anyway. Now I'm with a woman.My brother was in the same spot but with a woman. We both learned how to no longer find ourselves in that situation.BPDemons are roughly the same, women or men.
>>42360836>BPDYou are already dead
>>42360868the thing is, I have autism and major depressive disorder (and most likely some other undiagnosed personality disorder) and I would feel hypocritical if I left them based on a neurodivergency. I wouldn't want the same to happen to me
>>42360836>I really, REALLY dont want to be a lonely incel againthis is your fundamental problemas long as you are afraid of being alone fucked up people will smell it on you and pull you into a pit you're too scared to leave. you have to be able to be alone in order to date mentally healthy people.
>>42360836Incel is a state of mind anon. An incel would out up with abuse to keep the status of a relationship, a normal person accepts the fear of the unknown and breaks up to save their mind
>>42361198>as long as you are afraid of being alone fucked up people will smell it on you and pull you into a pit you're too scared to leave. you have to be able to be alone in order to date mentally healthy people.Not an exaggeration. They really do sniff it out, it's an aura
>>42361062serial killers are mentally ill as well but you should avoid them too
>>42361062You absolutely cannot compare autism and MDD to BPD. The serial killer comparison the other anon made is correct.
