my gf and i (t4t) do a lot of bdsm stuff and she's almost always the dominant/assertive one. we both enjoy it that way, but we've been wanting to switch up the dynamic recently too. the problem is im not great at being dominant. i feel gross and malebrained and im not sure what to do like physically since i dont want to use my dick at all. im a lot stronger than her so i can easily pin her down and shit but then i just get ashamed and dont know what to do
have you tried fingering her? just lightly even?
>>42377213if it makes you dysphoric don't do it. she's not obligated to your discomfort just to 'switch things up'.
>>42377213if you're absolutely bottom brainedgaslight yourself that you're doing it to be submissive and go get the strap
>>42377213cuffs blindfold vibrator
>>42377213Time to get yourself a honest man to live out your autogynephilia to the fullest!
>>42377217she's told me she hasnt really enjoyed (receiving) anal in the past, but is open to trying it again so ill ask>>42377225she's not pressuring me into it at all. she's only mentioned it a couple times in the last few months. i dont think the shame is insurmountable or anything and id like to try domming >>42377231i genuinely enjoy the idea of topping with a strap in a dominant way, i just worry id feel gross actually doing it idk>>42377270noted
