went to a few queer events in my local music/house party scene and holy shit the combined amount of reddit karma in the room was insane. not to mention all the tgirls being in the same copy paste polyester amazon basics gooner garbage. now no disrespect to the girls who are figuring this all out but it's a crime that this is the "norm" that girls are striving for. i get that it's what the online (and by extension of these events, offline) transfem community is saying you should embody, but that entire identity is based around porno stereotypes and the male gaze. and holy shit is it everywhere. i've found several boomerhons on youtube trying to dress like egirls, assumably because its what the internet told them to do. these queer spaces feel like they have this self-imposed weakness layered in irony and reddit humor. like there's no edge to anything and it's not actually transgressive no matter how much your local tgirl says "this dog bites back" or how much your local tboy posts photos of possums with lens flare eyes and the caption "what is gender". this is the state of queer community, at least in my city, where you don't have to be tough to be a tranny or a queer or a flamboyant fag. everywhere feels like it's just steven universe and semantics, and with everything being organized online the bar to entry is literally on the ground. is it like this in other cities too? is this just "the way things are"?
looks like you're stuck with us nona
>>42384317you're not under any obligation to engage with mainstream queers if you don't want to ykmost ppl find their clique and settle after a while, you'll find those who you don't cringe at eventually
>>42384351nooo :(>>42384356yeah you're right, it's just hard to find queer people not like this in my city. i've lived here for 3ish years and i only know two
