If there's any more of you on here, how are you feeling about being trans at this big age? I'm turning 29 this year and having thoughts about detransition. I'm definitely "supposed to be" trans - dysphoric and came out as a young teen and got on hrt at 20, pass etc. but I have this nagging thought that I should just grow up, repress, and make my career/relationships a lot easier by just being cis. The trans experience seems like a young persons game. But is that just like, reverse survivor bias? Would detransing just lead to being a John, 50 retranser?
I stopped e for a short time at 26 and decided very quickly no that's dumb I turn 30 in a week I don't plan on stopping again I've been a woman half my life now im comfortable and don't know anything else.I doubt you having your struggles come back would make career and relationships easier it'll just make your struggles internal if you really do have dysphoria.
>>42388719i repped until 29 and now im on hrt again lol. ive spent the last 10 years as a shut in hating myself
age is just a number
>>42388810ai can't even shoop and people with DOCTORATES are spending their time signing petitions that we shouldn't study "mirror life," meanwhile there's an island of plastic garbage twice the size of france just bitch slapping the whole pacific ocean
>>42388719I'm 29 and started transitioning at 19, so pretty similar to you. I had some really horrible things happen to me over the last couple of years and I've also questioned if maybe it would have been better if I had just repped instead and built a career. I might even end up homeless, who knows. And yeah if I wasn't actually trans my life would definitely be better now if I hadn't transitioned and it would probably be easier to get my life in order again if I could just detransition. But then I remember how bad my dysphoria used to be before I transitioned and how suicidal I was. And I think that would come back if I would actually attempt to detransition. I also don't think it's healthy to live your life as someone that you are not (doesn't even have to be trans related). Sure you can play a role for a while, but eventually you go crazy. I think this also applies to a lesser degree to perma-manmoders.>The trans experience seems like a young persons game. But is that just like, reverse survivor bias?Most trans spaces are full of young people or reppers, because those are the ones that still need to figure things out or haven't completed their transition yet. So usually "older" trans people will be a minority there or will leave because they don't fit in. There's also just not as many older trannies since it used to be more difficult to transition, some are completely stealth and don't want anything to do with trans spaces, or are dead. All of those things contribute to you seeing a lot less older trannies which might make you believe that it's only a thing for young people.
>>42388719You are being silly or you are a trender. If your brain needs estrogen to function right, being trans isn't something you grow out of. I transitioned at 35 because the thoughts never go away, and things never get better unless you address the problem.
>>42389013This isn't a better life bro
idk im just living life i have my struggles im gonna study again but im doing okay relatively to the shit ass life ive had lol
>>42388719>The trans experience seems like a young persons gameThat's because youngsters actively chased out all of the older people and actively refused any guidance or wisdom from them.But the thing is we didn't disappear. We just stopped engaging with the community and moved on with our lives.>how are you feeling about being trans at this big age?Much better than when I started, that's for sure. I almost forgot how it's like because I set in, I could finally start trying to build a life that's mine. So I did that. Learned stuff, built a personality, made some money, found love, got married, bought a house, learned some more, opened a business that I enjoy running and doesn't drain me of energy and I get to cook as well in peace.In fact, that's why I'm scrolling this place, because there's not much to do while waiting for the borscht to wrap up.>I should just grow up, repress, and make my career/relationships a lot easier by just being cis. Good luck with that. I postponed starting because I thought it's something one grows out of. Besides, getting hrt back then was infinitely harder than now.With the risk of sounding like babushka: the youth today are no longer grateful.>Would detransing just lead to being a John, 50 retranser?If you're not a trender, yes.>t. 43yo wifemoder
im a 36 yo tranny.i go to work, meet with friends, go to events, go to tinder dates. idk. i think in your 30s you can either be married with kids and living a very adult life, or be in a very similar situation as in your 20s. maybe in the future ill be worried i don't have a family and being trans makes it more difficult, but for now id say im doing ok.
>>42388719>Started transitioning a month before I turned 31>34 nowIve had more fun over the last 3 years than I did during most of my 20sIm happier with my appearance than in my 20sYeah its great OP and I love it, I'm not even a passer and its great
>>42389055that person is severely autistic kek
I am in my 30s. At this point in my life its easier to imagine myself as a woman who happened to be trans than as trans, or as a man. I think a lot of the doubts you describe become less and less the more you assimilate into a 'normal' life of your post-transition sex. That is a sort of passing that this board doesn't fully recognise or understand a lot of the time, because by nature people who achieve it distance themselves from spaces like thjis.
>>42389181Are you HSTS?
>>42388719I don't understand why 30-40+ year old trannies don't just give it up and detransition. every older trans woman I've seen is clocky as hell, and everyone laughs about them when they walk past.surely the extreme overwhelming social rejection must be worse for your mental health than just repping. you cannot be living a better, fulfilled life as a laughing stock.
>>42388719nope i am 31 and i am still a womanmy penis was removed so i think i am going to stay this way forever
I'm chillin(15 years hrt)
>>42388719Go ahead and make yourself miserable to appease society. I'm sure that'll work out great. In fact, go shave your head right now and flush your HRT. Be a man and take detransing head on
>>42391084this is good advice without the sarcasm btw
Whole thread, no one mentions manmodding. For shame. You can always live a secret life as a tranner and manmode in public. I'm old and starting HRT next month and that's my plan. You're supposed to transition for yourself not for society's approval. I'm never going to pass and if by some miracle I do end up passing I would stop manmodding, i have wide swimmer's build. But having my private space now I can girl mode at home and plan to take trips away to girl mode on "vacation" it's not as glamorous as some passoid youngshit who's getting railed by a Saudi prince on some yacht in Dubai but it's better than repping. The only way repping works at all is because you never leave denial mode and your egg isn't cracked. You cracked your eggs and ate the fucking Denver Ommlete OP. You can't go back.
>>42389181How did you find your husband? I am near your age and finding serious partner seems impossible.>>42390591Not all of us in this age range are of the gynephilic toxic positivity type.>>42388719Yes, it does seem like a young persons game. Painful to see have all those privileges I could not even dream of 20 years ago. All the fun always seems to belong to other people. I dont even have any friends or work even though everyone says I am pretty and friendly. Life is just mean and you learn to play the hand youve been dealt with.
The self hate > detransition meme is so toxic and boring I hate flavor of the month type posts like this. It's literally just buying into the conservative movement co opting detransition
