Pre transition people assumed I was attracted to men (true tbf). Now, 6 years later, Im stealth but people still assume I’m gay (attracted to women). I’m not offended but it’s weird how often it happens. > go to grocery story with friend> compliment girl at register before leaving> friend gets confused and asks why I didn’t ask for her number.> have to explain I’m not attracted to herOr a few days ago> girl asks if she can sit next to me at cafe> say yes and have great conversation about fashion and travel and academics > “wow Nona, it’s so nice to meet other gay people since moving here”Everytime. They always say it with certainty too, as if it’d be weird if I wasn’t gay. Maybe it’s how I dress or maybe I’m just spiritually homosexual. No matter what gender I am people just think I’m gay. And honestly I wish I was sometimes because when I talk to gay women they tell me I’m some kind of goddess but with men I get asked out maybe once a year. What do you do if you’re just doomed to be read as gay? I don’t think it’s a huge deal but I worry it scares off guys from talking to me.
hate to tell you this, but this is all easily explained by people clocking you
>>42391479That was my fear at first but it contradicts my real life experience. I came out to some friends who I knew for years recently and they all supportively started asking about if I’d be taking T because they assumed I was afab. I’m not gonna list other experiences cause it starts to sound like bragposting and that’s not the point. Is it possible some of them clocked me? Maybe, especially when the person in question also isn’t cis, but if just happens too often for that to be the explanation. Like I’ve been clocked once in the past 3 years (to my knowledge) but i have people assuming I’m gay like monthly. It doesn’t add up >>42391479
>>42391461oh shit wait this happens to someone else?? idk how much of it is people clocking me in my case, but i think it's probably just how i dress post-transition and the fact that im super geeky lol. it sucks bc i never really get approached by men my age. pre-transition i had a squeaky faggy voice bc PAIS and was a bit of a flamer which made me pretty easy to clock lmao
>>42391461Gay male is basically a synonym for girly male and lesbian is basically another way of saying masculine woman.The girliest of the male league will still be more on the masculine side compared to almost all of the actual women in the female league, so when you as a tranny move from the male league to the female league people will start seeing you as masculine instead of feminine since you're being judged against women now instead of judged against men.
